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Tip of the day...Adoption records

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~Looby Loo~

~Looby Loo~ Report 26 Nov 2012 18:54

Hi Jonesey,

My daughter's boyfriend is trying to find his birth mother.

He knows the hospital he was born in, and his natural birth parents (who he believes were not married). I don't know where he got the information. So to help him I've been looking for his birth, but I cannot find the birth reg using both his birth name and adopted name, is there any reason for this?

Do you know where he should start? He cannot ask his adopted parents as he knows they would be terribly upset, but it's something he still wants to do. I've told him about Norcap.

Thanks in advance Lou

Jonesey

Jonesey Report 21 Nov 2012 15:27

Damian,

I would suggest that you join the Contact Register at Norcap in case your brothers who were adopted are trying to discover something about their birth family.

http://www.norcap.org.uk

Good luck.

damian

damian Report 21 Nov 2012 14:44

dose any one have an advice as to how i can find my brothers they were all adopted apart from me and my younger brother i have names birth dates and date of adoption :-D

Unknown

Unknown Report 19 Nov 2012 20:12

Hi

Thanks for your reply which is much as I thought but didn't know if we were missing something really obvious we could try.

Thanks again for your help and time - it is much appreciated.

Rebecca

Jacquelyn

Jacquelyn Report 15 Nov 2012 22:55

Thanks for this info , most interesting as only just found out today that my great aunt was known to us as one name but turns out according to some records found by a cousin sorting out her mother belongings when born was given a different name and we can find no birth record for either! this is circa 1902. and i was just browsing looking for any info on adoption i could find as have no knowledge of this subject

TaniaLL

TaniaLL Report 12 Nov 2012 13:39

Hi Jonesey,
Thank you very much for your reply. I'm new to this so it is lovely to get a reply. All the information I have regarding my nanna's birth and that of her brother has come from social services. We have a copy of both of their birth certificates and they are the same surname, born on the same day and at the same address. I have a copy of my nanna's birth certificate and know all about the family she was adopted by, there are still links to that family now. She wasn't adopted however until she was 9 months old. I asked Banardo's to do a search of the childrens homes in that area for me but they came back with no results. I was hoping that they might have both gone to the same place from birth.

The reason I wanted the electorol roll is because they were born in a home address and I am looking at whether the mother is connected in some way to the family living there. She travelled from Lincolnshire to Hull to have the babies which would have been a fair trek in the 1930's. So I was thinking she maybe went to be with distant relatives. I suppose there is always the possibility that her brother was left with that family.

To further complicate things my nanna was adopted by a family and the adoptive parents neglected her. The NSPCC were involved and in the end she was adopted again -but by the parents of the adoptive parents! (Her grandma became her mother!). I can contact the NSPCC but I was wondering if anybody would know if they were likely to have known about her brother as well. Long shot I suppose!

Jonesey

Jonesey Report 12 Nov 2012 07:43

Tania,

Unfortunately your chances of discovering your nan's brother's name after his adoption are very slim. The way you describe how you discovered your nan's pre-adoption history sounds a bit like it may not have been done through "Official" channels. If that was the case and as the brother may well have been adopted in the same location at about the same time have you thought about a similar approach to try to discover more about him?

With regard to electoral registers copies of these are usually available either in hard copy format or on microfiche at the main public library or archive office in the area that the ER covered. Access during a personal visit is usually free. If a personal visit is not possible a phone call to the library or archive is advised. Staff there may be prepared to look the address up for you. You may be asked to pay for that help but as you know the specific address any cost should be minimal.

Although most ER's of that time are not available online there are some exceptions such as Birmingham (Available via www.midlandshistoricaldata.org) and London (Available at Ancestry).

It is also worth remembering that at that time only those who were aged over 21 years and registered to vote would appear on an ER. No ages, family relationships, occupations or birthplace ect appear on an ER.

TaniaLL

TaniaLL Report 11 Nov 2012 15:15

Hi.

My nanna was adopted. We had a social worker look everything up and found out her mothers name and where she came from. we also know the address where she was born. My nanna had always thought, through chinese whispers, that she was one of a multiple birth. The social worker found out that she was a twin and so we also have her brothers birth certificate. I have started tracing her family backwards and I have found that her mother married three years later, though at the moment I have lost her trail.

What I am asking is- is there anyway that I can find out what name her brother was given when he was adopted? I would really like to trace him and his family. I know I can register myself on the adoption register and a number of other forums etc but that is of course left to chance that he even knows he was adopted and that a member of his family is as curious as I am. My nan passed away and he may no longer be alive as he would be 82 now.

I am also interested to know about where they were born as there is an address on the birth certificate. Is there anyway I can find out what family were living at the address where they were born? If I pay for electorol roll records would that show me anything? They were born in 1930.

Any help would be gratefully appreciated as I have come to a bit of a stand-still.

Jonesey

Jonesey Report 8 Nov 2012 09:06

Rebecca,

Unfortunately with the scant information that you have the chances of you or your father discovering who your father's biological father was are pretty remote to say the least.

Assuming for the moment that the information that your father's mother gave him was accurate then the only thing that I can suggest is that you begin by trying to discover whether there was a man called Smith who owned or ran a garage in the Kings Heath area of Birmingham in 1938/9. To investigate that claim may I suggest looking at the editions of Kelly's directory of Birmingham and Suburbs covering that period. Copies of the directories are almost certain to be available at the Birmingham Reference Library but if not can be purchased in CD form from http://www.midlandshistoricaldata.org

If that part of the information can be proven correct it would then become necessary to investigate further into the family of the man who owned/ran the garage to try to discover whether he had a son who was in the RAF at the time.

It must be said however that even if your investigations proved that there was some truth in what your father's mother told him, it would still not prove that the individual mentioned was your father's natural father. Unfortunately it must be accepted that with the passing of his mother, your father's chances of proving who his father definitely was, probably died along with her.

Sorry if I appear negative but I think that it is better to be realistic rather than raise false hopes.

Unknown

Unknown Report 7 Nov 2012 19:51

Hi

I hope you can give some advice. My dad was born in 1939 and was in a childrens home in Birmingham until around the age of 3 when he was adopted.

He has had access to the adoption file and did trace his birth mother who has since died. There was no father's name on the birth certificate or within the adoption file so where do we go from here?

When he met his mother (only saw her 2 times before she severed contact) she advised his father was of the surname Smith (helpful!) whose father ran a garage in Kings Heath, Birmingham. She also said he was in the RAF. I have tried researching along these lines but it is such a common surname I don't really know where to start and then of course we can't be sure she was telling the truth anyway!

Is there any other place we can go/records we can research where she would have had to list the fathers name?

Any advice would be really appreciated.

Angela

Angela Report 5 Nov 2012 18:44

Jonesey, many thanks for your advice, I'll try Norcap.

Angela

Jonesey

Jonesey Report 5 Nov 2012 09:13

Angela,

Back in 1929 it was envisaged that once adopted all links to the child's birth family would be completely severed and that no contact between the adopted and their natural parents would be possible. Although subsequent revisions of the act now mean that the adopted have the right to information about their origins it is principally the adopted who can access that information, not other interested parties.

Some revisions do give certain family members or descendants of the adopted rights to seek information but I do not know whether these are likely to extend as far as cousins. I would suggest that your mother contacts www.norcap.org.uk who would certainly know. Whilst in contact with Norcap she could also leave her details on their contact register which would then be checked against their database for potential links.

Good luck.

Angela

Angela Report 4 Nov 2012 20:23

Hi, I've found the emails in this thread very interesting. Like many of you, I'm also trying to trace more information about my Mum's cousin who was adopted as a baby in 1929, so after the Adoptions Act. I've got a copy of his birth certificate which shows his mother (my gr auntie), no father is listed and "adopted" has been typed onto the birth cert. My mum and I would dearly love to find out more, but he could be still living, into his 80s and the last thing he needs is this. Does anyone know if I can find out more, for example his adoptive parents etc, what his name became, or am I caught up with the 100 year rule?

I'd appreciate any words of wisdom, many thanks.

Alisoun

Alisoun Report 4 Nov 2012 14:04

oops didnt see that this thread had the blocked icon on it .but i see some people are still following it .does that mean someone has to set up a new thread to discuss adoptions ?

Alisoun

Alisoun Report 4 Nov 2012 13:47

the threads on here are very interesting and useful . I am trying to find what happened to my grandmas birth mother after 1900 .there are a few clues
on her birth certificate dec 1899 her middle name was a surname which i'm told is a way unmarried mothers had of indicating the father also her profession was draper's assistant.so we looked for possible candidates of that name who lived locally and worked in similar professions .Unlikely to be able to trace him definitely though . by the time my grandma was baptised march 1900 this middle name had been changed to a more conventional one , her mother's own name was shortened (charlotte to Lottie )different initials so i would have missed it on register if she hadn't been the only fatherless child on the book . In 1901 my grandma was "a boarder" with her birth mother's surname only her 1st name was transcribed as May rather than maisie. By 1911 she was listed as adopted though as you suggest there would probably be no legal paper work and she had taken her adoptive families surname .on her marriage certivicate she was "Adopted name "known as unknown fathers surname /birth mothers "surname .So your advice at looking at all names is very valid . I know that she did trace her birth mother who wrote telling her not to contact her again as she was now respectable with a professional son . i don't know when my grandma found her (when she married in1924 ,had her own kids in 30's or when adoption rights changed . My late aunt found this letter of rejection after my grandmother's death and decided to destroy it . So I'm now looking for other clues . Would there be old newspapers with adverts for adoptive parents or court cases against putative fathers .?

rhianelewis

rhianelewis Report 3 Nov 2012 20:02

Hello,
I have read all the threads and found it interesting and useful, I myself am trying to help my friend, his mother was born in 1933 and adopted a few months later, we have a copy of the adoption certificate, his mother and her adoptive parents have all sadly passed away, my friend is now eager to find out about his mothers birth parents, the birth mother was believed to have been 16 when she had her daughter and the given name was Annie Smith (quite common so we do wonder whether this is actually the real name), this information is all that his mother had been told? But when she was adopted she did also come with a big dowry of money, so we have no idea who's money this was?
We have wrote to the adoption people at the courts and are still waiting to hear off them as my friend has requested the adoption records, what I am wondering about is that he has been told that the admin lady goes to look for the records when she finds them she passes them onto a magistrate and then it is his decision how much information my friend is given, has anyone else have this happen?? My friend is an only child so any information gathered is for his own interest and wont be causing any family issues.

Holt

Holt Report 1 Nov 2012 02:33

:-)

Jonesey

Jonesey Report 5 Oct 2012 09:43

Michael,

Several points:

You comment that you believe that you were not wanted which is quite a statement to make. Neither the fact that your birth parents divorced or that your mother's new husband adopted you indicates that to me, admittedly as an outsider.

It is quite common where a young child is involved for them to be formally adopted by a step parent. If your mother's new husband formally adopted you then your birth surname would be changed to the surname of your step father. If formally adopted after 1927 then records probably exist and as the adoptee you are entitled to access them. Might I suggest that you consider purchasing the SFFC action pack from:

http://www.norcap.org.uk/sffc_action_pack.php

which will instruct and guide you through the process of accessing your adoption file.

With regard to discovering more about your natural father. You say that you discovered the marriage record of your birth parents. If you do not already have it, obtain a copy of their marriage certificate which hopefully will give you more information about your father such as his age and his occupation at marriage. It may also name his father and indicate his occupation. Even the marriage witnesses names can be helpful. All that information may help you to positively identify your fathers birth date and family. With that knowledge it may be possible for you to follow his life forward from the time he and your mother parted.

I am pleased to note that you display a considerate approach regarding not wishing to cause any disturbance to others and I wish you well in your quest.

Good luck.

Michael

Michael Report 4 Oct 2012 18:19

Dear Jonsey
I read your message and tip and found it most interesting. I wounder if yu can possibley help me by pointing me in the right Diirection.

I was born in Wales and my real father left around the time I was 3 or so, My mother remarried and as far as I ca tell her new husband adopted me in Torquay where we were living at the time.
Life being Life I find myself an older person and looking back on my life I realise sadly that really I was not wanted and probably adopted to save face. Anyway that being in the past I continue to think about my real father and the family I never did and probably never will know.
I was told sometime ago that my real father died in England around the London area but am not sure. I joined this site and managed to find the marraige record for my Real Father and Mother, I was able to find his name but on thn looking elsewhere was unable to take that match forward. Is there any goverment agency that I can contact to try and get my adoption records and then hopefully progress from there. I wish no harm or hurt to anybody and would only proceed without any disturbances to their lives. I hope you can point me in the right direction as I think about what I dont know continually.

irene

irene Report 3 Oct 2012 18:15

Hi Jonesey thank you very much for your reply.. As you quite rightly guessed, Mary Dolan was a young Irish girl, The birth certificate states that she was a domestic servant of 34 Brondesbury rd Kilburn.It was quite a nice 3 storey house! The thought is that maybe somebody in the house was the father but we dont know, its just a thought. We have been unable as yet to get hold of the adoption files but we do have the adoption certificate. It is so frustrating, but when I see all of the success stories on Genes reunited I still feel there is hope for my friend Maureen to find out about her birth Mother