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Tips: Starting Family Conversations

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Genes

Genes Advisor Report 17 Apr 2013 15:12

As family researchers, we all have a few difficult conversations to have with family members – whether about complicated topics like adoption or divorce, or just asking aging family for information without being insensitive.

In this season of new beginnings, do you have any tips on starting those conversations? Is there something you’re wondering about how best to bring up? Have you started a difficult conversation that went especially well – or badly? How do you balance your research and curiosity with not causing distress?

Jonesey

Jonesey Report 17 Apr 2013 18:31

Yes Genes, take a look:

http://www.genesreunited.co.uk/boards/board/genealogy_chat/thread/1186514

Researching:
Don't put off until tomorrow doing what you can do today. If you like doing it today you can do it again tomorrow. Be kind to your children for it is they who will decide which care home you end up in.

Renes

Renes Report 17 Apr 2013 21:05

You are the bestest Jonesey ......

Joy

Joy Report 17 Apr 2013 22:02

As Jonesey said, the link to which is in the thread by Jonesey

http://www.genesreunited.co.za/boards/board/genealogy_chat/thread/1318489

that was stickied by GR.

ErikaH

ErikaH Report 17 Apr 2013 22:32

Which planet are you on, GR?

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 17 Apr 2013 22:59

I've nudged up both Jonesey's tip thread on approaching the family AND the one by KenSE which gives urls to ALL of Jonesey's tips threads.


perhaps GR should look at them both?

Researching:
My brother, photo taken in September 1991 just a couple of weeks before he died. ............................................................ To help us and to get better results, please post as much detail as you can, especially name, date(s) and place. Also say what you already know.

Community

Community Advisor Report 18 Apr 2013 11:56

Hi all,
Yes we have read Jonesey’s tips which we agree are a fantastic resource, we stickied them on the Genealogy Chat board because we thought they were so useful.
The idea behind this thread was to start a new discussion as we are sure many more of you have invaluable tips to offer. We are certainly not trying to put together a definitive genealogy guide on the community boards! We just wondered if any of you had new experiences to share, or if anyone’s run up against this recently.

Researching:
Community Manager for Genes Reunited. I'm a big fan of history and discovering less known events from the past. In my spare time I am busy tracing my own family history.

LadyKira

LadyKira Report 25 Apr 2013 20:49

I will one day have to have a difficult conversation.

I have found census info and baptisms and electoral roll info indicating that a grandson of my direct ancestor was living with his daughter as his wife while his real wife was still alive and living around the corner.

There will probably come a time when a descendant of this relationship starts there family tree and contacts me.

I am dreading that conversation.

Renes

Renes Report 26 Apr 2013 08:46

So would we all LadyKira ....... it's unimaginable