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No country for old men
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John | Report | 12 Jun 2008 11:14 |
After 50 years I still have my OH - God help either of us if one of us should go.. But I would like to think that we would still remain in this once great country, for ever......... |
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☺Carol in Dulwich☺ | Report | 12 Jun 2008 10:24 |
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lilybids | Report | 11 Jun 2008 20:30 |
yes Ann makes sense my children said same thing,wonder how you get through the days some times |
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AnnCardiff | Report | 11 Jun 2008 20:17 |
it's a bit of a bummer isn't it Lily but I think to myself, and it might sound daft, I'm glad he went first, one of us had to, because I would hate for him to be feeling like I feel now - make sense? It's very early days for you yet though Lily, nearly six for me and in some ways it does get marginally better, but I expect like me he is never out of your mind - been driving in my car today listening to CDs - Nat King Cole ones always make me weep - but I save it for when I'm in my car on my own - don't want to embarrass other people, cos they do get embarrassed if you break down in front of them and then you feel even worse cos you've upset someone else!!!! |
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lilybids | Report | 11 Jun 2008 17:51 |
Sally thanks xx |
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Sally Moonchild | Report | 11 Jun 2008 17:42 |
daffyduck..... |
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lilybids | Report | 11 Jun 2008 17:40 |
yes Sally every time i go to family gathering its just not the same i know my children love me very much ,i still feel lost and lonely,the worst thing for any one is going home to empty house,its the same for what ever sex you are 50 odd years is a very long time to be with some one you love but i guess the female sex do cope better than men. |
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Sally Moonchild | Report | 11 Jun 2008 17:22 |
Oh Belair, that is soooo sad......what a way to end up, having to pay for someone to talk to..... |
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☺Carol in Dulwich☺ | Report | 11 Jun 2008 11:11 |
Despite the fact that there are billions of people in this world, there are tons of lonely people living all over the planet. People can be in a crowd of people and still be lonely. There are people that you see every single day that consider themselves to be in the category of ?lonely people’. Forced smiles and fake laughs may cover up the fact that someone may be struggling or hurting. Most people hate to admit that something is wrong. They want to look poised and capable. The harsh facts are that lonely people are everywhere. |
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AnnCardiff | Report | 11 Jun 2008 10:56 |
It really is so sad, but is it particular to just the male population? I was widowed nearly six years ago after 43 years of a happy marriage and since then have felt very much a spare part - you don't fit in anywhere - everything comes in twos - people and food!!! |
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☺Carol in Dulwich☺ | Report | 11 Jun 2008 10:40 |
Psychologist Linda Blair argues that older men, who were likely to be the major or only breadwinners for their family, are often diminished by retirement. The phone stops ringing for them. The skills that made them valuable in the workplace are redundant at home and they have few skills to sustain them in the event of bereavement or divorce. "Men of that generation weren't taught self-care skills," she says. "They don't know how to use the microwave or do the vacuuming. But if they're taught in old age because their wife has died or because of divorce, then it's hard to make those skills stick. |
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☺Carol in Dulwich☺ | Report | 11 Jun 2008 10:35 |
Earlier this year, an advertisement appeared in a Hampshire post office. Lonely widower Jack Hammond, 88, was looking for a drinking partner. The successful applicant would be a man who would be prepared to accompany Hammond, a retired doctor and wartime radar technician, to the Compass Inn several nights a week for discussions about current affairs and military history. The right man would receive £7 an hour plus expenses for his services. |
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☺Carol in Dulwich☺ | Report | 11 Jun 2008 10:35 |
The number of men over 60 living alone in Britain has topped one million for the first time - and this Father's Day, many will have no contact at all with their families. But how did older men come to be so neglected? And why do women fare much better in retirement? |