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Growing old is a gift... please read I think you'l

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Nanna Gaynor  (June nr Preston's Daughter)

Nanna Gaynor (June nr Preston's Daughter) Report 11 Jun 2008 18:28

A friend emailed this today.... Please read it ... I think you'll be glad you did

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Old Age, I decided, is a gift.

I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror, but I don't agonize over those things for long.

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend.

I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.
I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon?

I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60&70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set .
They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever , but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day. (If I feel like it)

Sidami

Sidami Report 11 Jun 2008 18:55

That is brilliant.............I have printed this out.
Sue

Nanna Gaynor  (June nr Preston's Daughter)

Nanna Gaynor (June nr Preston's Daughter) Report 14 Jun 2008 21:02

Thank you...

Well at least YOU enjoyed it Sue !!!!

Seems no one else read it....

lol ;o)

CATHKIN

CATHKIN Report 14 Jun 2008 21:05

so true , Gaynor. How`s new baby ?
Ros xxx

Lady Cutie

Lady Cutie Report 14 Jun 2008 21:30

Now that is true .....
as iv'e got older i find that i dont worry quite so much about things as i used to.
Hazelx

Nanna Gaynor  (June nr Preston's Daughter)

Nanna Gaynor (June nr Preston's Daughter) Report 15 Jun 2008 01:22

As far as I know... Tobias is doing fine... I rang on Wednesday but it's a bit like pulling teeth to get info... but they must both be very tired and still finding their feet.
I have been sitting on my hands not to keep phoning so I haven't rung since but I will ring tomorrow (Sunday) as I usually phone once a week anyway.
I will have to ask them to keep taking pics though cos tiny babies change so much in the 1st few weeks don't they.
Gaynor x