General Chat
Welcome to the Genes Reunited community boards!
- The Genes Reunited community is made up of millions of people with similar interests. Discover your family history and make life long friends along the way.
- You will find a close knit but welcoming group of keen genealogists all prepared to offer advice and help to new members.
- And it's not all serious business. The boards are often a place to relax and be entertained by all kinds of subjects.
- The Genes community will go out of their way to help you, so don’t be shy about asking for help.
Quick Search
Single word search
Icons
- New posts
- No new posts
- Thread closed
- Stickied, new posts
- Stickied, no new posts
DONT BE A VICTIM
Profile | Posted by | Options | Post Date |
---|---|---|---|
|
JoyBoroAngel | Report | 22 Dec 2014 12:32 |
yes Sharron |
|||
Researching: |
|||
|
Sharron | Report | 22 Dec 2014 09:56 |
Sorry, I haven't read all the replies so this may have been said but isn't part of the abuse often to make the victim feel they are not worth replacing? |
|||
|
JoyBoroAngel | Report | 20 Dec 2014 18:29 |
a leopard never changed their spots |
|||
Researching: |
|||
|
Annx | Report | 20 Dec 2014 16:31 |
Very true Joy. I know it isn't possible where alcohol or other substance abuse plays a part, but a personal view is that women can do a lot to prevent this kind of thing in the future in how they bring their sons up. I see far too many women spoiling their sons in ways that they don't their daughters. They do far too much for them and expect too little from them. This can give them the impression that women are subordinate to men and there to do men's bidding and wait on them!! It doesn't teach respect or equality, both of which are important in a future relationship with a woman. |
|||
Researching: |
|||
|
JoyBoroAngel | Report | 19 Dec 2014 21:01 |
Ann |
|||
Researching: |
|||
|
Annx | Report | 19 Dec 2014 20:59 |
It quite makes my blood boil when I hear people say 'for the sake of the children' as an excuse for staying in an abusive relationship. Do they really think the children aren't suffering as well? That they aren't affected and don't get the backlash of some of the unpleasantness they see and hear. That their confidence and self esteem doesn't suffer too when they worry about the future? My mother would say she stayed for the sake of us children, but she never knew that even as a very young child I prayed to become an orphan! Or that I would worry about going home after school. When parenting becomes unstable through the irrational behaviour/threats of either parent, so does the emotional wellbeing of a child. If I tried to express unhappiness, my mother said it was worse for her. Both my sister and I grew up and escaped our parents' home thinking we had survived, but many years after in later life we both needed counselling to deal with issues caused by our childhood. Don't make children the scapegoat for doing nothing about a situation. |
|||
Researching: |
|||
|
Bobtanian | Report | 19 Dec 2014 17:41 |
bruddy eck, |
|||
Researching: |
|||
|
Dermot | Report | 19 Dec 2014 17:14 |
'A new law has been announced to protect victims of psychological domestic abuse. Will it actually work?' |
|||
|
JoyBoroAngel | Report | 20 Jun 2008 22:03 |
i agree blue eyes |
|||
Researching: |
|||
|
Mrs. Blue Eyes | Report | 20 Jun 2008 21:29 |
I think it takes a lot of courage to post your personal stories of abuse and my hat goes off to you all. |
|||
|
JoyBoroAngel | Report | 20 Jun 2008 21:24 |
THANK YOU for sharing your experiences |
|||
Researching: |
|||
|
UzziAndHerDogs | Report | 20 Jun 2008 21:12 |
I dont post often now but I will do this |
|||
Researching: |
|||
|
Cumbrian Caz~**~ | Report | 20 Jun 2008 21:04 |
Thanks Joy, i suffered and got out but can understand anyone who tries to make it work and hopes things will change, |
|||
|
JaneyCanuck | Report | 20 Jun 2008 21:02 |
No, not direct -- just knowledgeable. ;) |
|||
Researching: |
|||
|
Mrs. Blue Eyes | Report | 20 Jun 2008 20:57 |
hi Kathryn do you have any experience of this personally? you seem quite knowledable.. if you prefer not to answer I understand.. xx |
|||
|
JaneyCanuck | Report | 20 Jun 2008 20:48 |
Well, Merlin, if you're going to say "The one thing I cannot and will not understand", what might you expect anyone to say in reply? |
|||
Researching: |
|||
|
JEH123 | Report | 20 Jun 2008 20:23 |
I also heard on the course I went on that women will suffer about 30 something episodes of abuse before they finally leave their partners. Can't remember exact figure but it is astonishing how much. |
|||
|
Twinklyoceanblue | Report | 20 Jun 2008 17:32 |
well said Cat....Merlin...I cannot explain why I stayed with my first husband for as long as I did...or why I defended him...all I knew was I loved him and wanted to be with him x |
|||
|
Twinklyoceanblue | Report | 20 Jun 2008 17:29 |
I am living proof that there is life after an abusive relationship.....and happiness....and normality xx |
|||
|
tee | Report | 20 Jun 2008 17:27 |
i also was in a bad way, i got beat up and put into hospital for 3 months i stayed with him because i loved him and thought he would change, but he did not and i left with my kids moved to another city with nothing but a bag full of clothes, went to the houseing explained they put me tempary acom and within a month i was in my own new home, never looked back since. but having said that i also no men who suffer in the same way as us so its not just a female problem. my best advice get out before its too late. |