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Hi, Merlin,fraid one reply to that is often person is afraid to leave & also to degree they often brainwashed into misconception they 'deserve this'
added factor can be for sake of children too. (If any)
Sadly if person has low esteem things can spiral:(
Afraid to say its your sisters loss,not yours not meaning that badly:) My cousin also backed her violent partner same.I fully understand your reaction

The one thing I cannot and will not understand is the Women who stay with the ??????? who abuse them.My Sisters Husband beat her up very badly,I only found out about it when she came to my home in a bad way.I put him in Hospital for 6 months,I got a suspended sentence for it.She went back to him and has,nt spoken to me since,said I should,nt have hurt him. I don,t know what she expected me to do when I saw what he had done to her?.**M**.:o((>.

xxx

well done tina thats the first step, if you feel that you are threatend in your own home you must contact police straight away , he is going to be angry and may want revenge, did you know some one from domestic abuse can come and collect you and take you to a safe house, im going to pm you my number please use it if you need to xxx

When we saw this on TV, and read on here, I said to OH, Glad you are like you are and never been nasty, or violent to me he said (bringing lightness to the subject)

I know what I would get from you I would be wearing my b...s as earrings.

Joking apart, I think it must take a lot of courage for these people, both male and female to admit to abuse.

Reported OH yesterday... he went one one step too far. Thank you for threads like these, gave me the courage and conviction to do something about it.

hi joy

how odd that i have posted a thread so similar to yours on the same day. I didn't see this one or i would have added to it instead of starting another xx

nudging this because if there is somone on here in fear, get help now before its too late.
i decided to kick him out when he knocked me out , i suddenly realised who was gonna look after my kids if he had killed me , i did have to go in a safe hostel, but enjoyed it there no bills no pressure own facilitys own kitchen and shower, i know joy won't mind me saying but if you want please pm me nothing said would ever ever be repeated xxxx love puss xx

well done dizzy

for doing the course

did one or two myself for OPUS

nobody deserves to be abused

male or female

I once heard that men don't like to admit that they are suffering domestic abuse because they percieve it as being shameful, embarrassing. That was on a course I attended about domestic violence on women.

Janet

Angie you so right discrimination

Puss Pink and Linda well done

for sharing your experiences

GOOD LUCK with your future

SORRY I did not direct my statment

to include men

i acknowledge this happens to men to

WELL DONE those who

have had the courage to leave

and start a safe and better life xx

yes men are the victims I know loads of men who have been abused by their partners, also women as well it is not one sexed! or maybe men dont say it as much because they dont want to appear SOFT!
Davex

I had neighbours who were seen as, the perfect couple to the outside world...But what a different story behind closed doors! HE was beaten up terribly by his wife. So yes Dave B you are right, men are going through abuse too. Wendy

i kicked my ex abusive partner out after 3 yrs , im so strong now that i have helped a young lady leave her partner and she started a new life away from him, it was very hard as he was my friend he was funny and very charming arn't they always!!! he is dead now so he can't hurt any more woman, (i didnt kill him) , when my ex asks to see his daughter she is now 12, and she can see straight through him and from no prompting from me she dos,nt want to see him, i must add at no time was my daughter ever hit by her sperm donar, luckily she has a great grandfather though his father who has been great with her, its so hard i know but if specky ever mentaly or phsyically touched me he would be gone, they do it once they do it againx

Dave

Everyone is aware that some men can be victims too....... but statistics don't compare to the women that suffer... either because of the fact more men abuse or because men stay silent!!

It doesn't make this thread less valid!

Yes but notice only ladies answered here? what about men who have gone through mental and physical abuse?
Davex

Ladies,I do sympathise with you,But a "Real Man" would never do such things. **M**.

I walked out on an abusive Marriage 23 yrs ago on my wedding anniversary, taking 3 small children with me.
It was hard work at the beginning of my new life,but my children & I were able to have a more normal & settled life without having to look over our shoulders all the time.
My children are now happy confidence young adults with children of their own.
Linda x

Having been a victim of the man I loved (12 years ago now)

I can hand on heart say........

"THERE IS A HAPPIER LIFE FOR THE GRABBING OUT THERE"

The first step is admitting what's happening.... the rest isn't easy, but eventually you realise you were stronger than you thought!

GOOD LUCK TO ANYONE TAKING THAT 1ST STEP!!

x