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Just tell her to "go away".. that is what i have done for years and now she seldom haunts me..

If something bad happens and i think it is her, i just say.. do your worst, i am here and i can handle it..

Seems to work :-D

Blimey I am nearly 7 years older since this thread Sharron,,,,,, :-D :-D :-D.aint time flown. :-)

You mean the cooker hood came down?
Could the fitters moving it have caused it to loosen?

Ever the sceptic, Maggie xx

ps. When my mum saw her dad's ghost she just told him to go away and he did.

If I were you, just as a belt 'n' braces action, I would tell your mum to eff off. Explain in loud tones that he place has now been totally changed - it's all yours!!!
Oh - and explain in words of one syllable that anything you say is ABOUT her, not TO her xxxx

The housing association has been carrying out a lot of work in our house over the last couple of weeks which has meant we have needed to camp in the front room all day, me knitting and cuddling the cat and OH watching the TV with our mates doing the same when they visited.

We have shared this space with freezers, tumble dryer, boxes of God knows what, the cat's food and his dirt box.

Yesterday the floor layer looked in to say he has finished and the stove was in place and working again. In conversation I mentioned that I couldn't wait to cook a meal again and that I thought I might make a cake. I also mentioned that it felt very familiar to be living round heaps of junk as it had always been that way when my mother was alive.

She was listening!

Not very long after he had left, I was in the kitchen with a big knife and butternut squash making some soup.

OH was out working when I had finished pushing it through the sieve so I heated up the pan and took a bowl for myself.

As I reached up to switch off the light in the cooker hood it came crashing down through the ceramic hob.

And while I am there I might have to see if the cake tin is working too.You can never be too careful!

Sorry, Sharron;))
Sue x

I'm not worried about the breadmaker.It's the kettle.Now look what you have done,you have made me anxious.I might just have to go and see that it is working.

Light some candles and meditate saying over and over - "I don't care about the breadmaker" :)))
Sue x

Sue,that is the first time I have been frightenedby it!

Hi, again.
Hope it all settles soon Sharron

No she can't hurt you anymore - at least not unless you let her. As long as she doesn't break the kettle - you have to be able to have a cuppa:))
Sue xx

Thanks Sue.Just sorting out her damage and happy knowing she can't do any more,Apart from crack my b****y breadmaker case Goddammit!

I think that you have probably turned the tables on her and she must be so frustrated because she can't get at you. Good on you - sounds like you are winning the battle.
Sue xx

Thank you but really I don't need to do all these things.I am happy with my feelings.The only reason I ever mentioned the relationship on here was because I had found an article on narcissistic mothers which had finally put everything into context and hoped it could help others.As for her haunting me,well I hope you can understand that it amuses me.It is most likely a set of co-incidences,just like my cat Idi dying on the same day as Idi Amin.

Am I alone in thinking if this happened to me I'd move!! *shudders*

I agree with writing a letter to vent all your feelings.........I do that if I'm upset about something, then tear the letter up the next day.

hi sharron, from someone who knows all about strange things happening in the house, i think you need to put your feeling to rest, because if not she will have won. and maybe like others have said, she may be trying to ask your forgiveness.why not sit down and write her a letter, put all your feelings in the letter. put the letter away, and then there may come a day you will be feeling more forgiving.thats the day you read the letter, and then get rid of it.
all the best to you

Thank you to everybody who has given me serious advice.It wasn't really what I was expecting.Although they are a bit irritating I find the happenings amusing and not at all alarming and only thought to share them with you out of interest,especially as I had just picked up the breadmaker.
Every time we make some sort of change at home that lets light and air in to where she had kept junk and rubbish we remark upon how much she would have disliked it and have a little chuckle.
We had newly decorated the bedroom they had shared with fresh paint and a fitted carpet,not something she would have countenanced, when Dad had his stroke in there.That,I'm afraid,we put down to her being so cross she hit him over the head!

Relax love..... she has absolutely no power over you anymore.

Deanna X

Maybe you should try talking to her - off-load everything and explain to her why you feel like you do. I was told that people do change in the spiritual world.... and usually realise the mistakes they have made and try to say sorry, by whatever means they can. And it might be a good way for you to finally let go and move on.

I think when we pass on we see everything with clarity and understanding, perhaps she sees what she did and how she behaved and is trying to tell you she is watching over you now......xx