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What a Saddo, lol ..........Womens Stuff

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Glenys the Menace!

Glenys the Menace! Report 18 Jun 2008 08:53

See below.

Glenys the Menace!

Glenys the Menace! Report 18 Jun 2008 08:53

Hello. Next week I'm due to have a hysterectomy; everything removed. This morning, I'm very tearful thinking about it. It's not the operation itself I'm thinking about, it's the loss of something I've carried with me all my life.
I know I should put it in perspective and most of the time, I do. And it is my choice, rather than me being told I have to have it done now.
I know some of you ladies have had it done; did you get emotional about it? Any advice is welcome!
Just logging off to do things around the house, but I'll be back in a while.


JoyBoroAngel Report 18 Jun 2008 08:58

they are obviously

removing your bits for a good reason hun

cheers to a better quality of life for you

its normal to feel tearful

we are human after all

just take it easy after your op


Mrs.  Blue Eyes

Mrs. Blue Eyes Report 18 Jun 2008 09:29

I haven't had it done myself, but I can understand where you're coming from, if you've had children? it's what carried and nourished that precious life, if not it's still a bit part of a womans femaninity and hard to say goodbye to.
As Joy says you must be having it done for a good reason, afterwards be kind to yourself and give time to mourn the loss of a part of you..xx


YorkshireCaz Report 18 Jun 2008 10:11

Hi Glenys, I had the same op as you are having a few years ago. I was quite calm going in because it needed to be done because of ovarian cyst that was giving me pain. They decided to remove everything because with my age I wouldn't be needing them anymore.
I was fine with no worries, I'd got three grown up children and grandchildren, but when I came round after the op I felt a great sense of loss and got weepy. I couldn't understand why until a nurse came to talk to me and explained most women go through it.
Blue Eyes is right, it is the feeling that there will never be any more babies, I didn't stop to think that because of my age I couldn't anyway, and you think you have lost your femininity. It took me a long time to accept it but in the end I did and glad to say no more pain.
I'm not good at explaining but just wanted to let you know my experience as someone who has gone through it, and it is normal.
Good luck next week.

Caz xx


Lindy Report 18 Jun 2008 10:24


I have not had the op myself but think that it is a natural reaction to feel tearful.

I did have "tubal litigation" when I was in my thirties which was also my choice.

Twenty years later I sometimes dream about having a baby or being pregnant, so somewhere deep down I must feel a sense of loss.

Good Luck for next week and try not to worry, think on the bright side.

No Hot Flushes!

((( Hugs )))

Lindy xx

Glenys the Menace!

Glenys the Menace! Report 18 Jun 2008 11:31

Hello again, and thank you for your replies - they're much appreciated.
I haven't carried babies full term, due to fibroids (the first of which I had taken out in 1996), and an ongoing medical condition. I had two miscarriages in 1996 and 1998, so it wasn't to be; hence we adopted.
Losing it doesn't make me feel "less of a woman", though I can understand why some women feel like that. It just seems to be a sense of impending loss, if that makes sense.
Thank you for your reassurance, though. Hot flushes? Oh nooooooo! *runs off thread to avoid hot flushes lol*

Teddys Girl

Teddys Girl Report 18 Jun 2008 11:45

Had it done when I was 52, now 77, was the making of me. Never looked back.

Might feel a bit rough, and sleepy, think I slept when I came home a lot, but when was all better, boy was I able to do things I could not do before.

You will look back and think, glad I had that done.

All the best to you, and my prayers and thoughts with you.



TaniaNZ Report 18 Jun 2008 11:49

I had one two years ago and it was bloody wonderful.
Someone asked if I felt sad about it and the honest answer is hell no.
I had a condition called adenomyosis where the endometrium grew right through the uterine muscle.
It was agony and unpredictableso I was absolutely delighted to be rid.
as for hot flushes unless they intend to take your ovaries you will not be menopausal as your body will continue to ovulate until the normal time.
The op itself is thouroughly bearable,in fact i got my oh to take me home after 36 hrs


Jello Report 18 Jun 2008 12:06

I haven't had this op either but I can so understand how you are feeling. I would feel the same way, losing the opportunity to have more babies even though I am too old now. I really feel for you too.

I nearly had to have mine removed after having my first child. I haemorrhaged very badly. Thanks to the Consultant it was saved. I was 33 then.

But as others testify there is life afterwards.And no hot flushes.



Taff Report 18 Jun 2008 12:49

Hiya Glenys, I had mine done last year, due to ovarian cyst(very painfull), but i tell you what love, its the best thing that happened to me, no more mood swings and all the CR*p that goes with it, I got on HRT asap and feel great now! I took the advice of other women on here, as i was really worried myself, and I think we all agree its much better, and you get at least 5 weeks of being waited on hand and foot!! longer if you milk it!! LOL
All the very best, and I will be thinking of you!!


Sue Report 18 Jun 2008 13:09

I had thermal ablation some years ago instead! Best thing I have ever had done (was bleeding 20 days out of 30).

BUT afterwards I was so tearful cos I couldn't have any more children (what a stupid thought at 52). Doesn't make sense does it!

Good luck with the op I'm sure you will get through it fine. If you need a weep afterwards go for it!


Sue xx


Spam Report 18 Jun 2008 15:12

I can't say I did since I had a "Mass" and wanted it gone.
I had an incision made from pubic up to my navel in case they had to go higher into the lymph nodes.
Not sure if it was because of that but I had very little pain and yes, I went home the next day.

Good Luck,hope it is just as easy for you,get well soon


VIVinHERTS Report 18 Jun 2008 15:34

I had a complete hysterectomy 6 years ago when I was 45. I was asked if I wanted to keep my ovaries and I said no.
I had fibroids, dodgy smear results, continual bleeding and clotting, pain, prolapse and anaemia and I was a total wreck. I was on 19 tablets a day which did not help at all.

I felt no sense of loss only liberation .... I had been unwell for so long and I felt so much better.
I did have hot flushes one after another so I went onto HRT .... and I'm still on it, I feel brilliant! I can now go out, walk, ride, swim and do all the things I felt to ill to do.

Hope you feel just as good afterwards.



Glenys the Menace!

Glenys the Menace! Report 18 Jun 2008 20:15

Wow ladies, thank you all! Without trying to sound slushy, you've made me feel heaps better!

I think it was a bit hormonal this morning; I just felt so upset. Common sense tells me to be grateful that I'm having it done - and I am.

Again, thank you all; one thing stands out - not a negative comment about it at all, so I know I'm doing the right thing.
God bless you!

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust***

***Julie*Ann***.sprinkling fairydust*** Report 18 Jun 2008 21:03

i got emotional cos i couldnt persuade the doctor that what i was putting up with was Not Normal, and i wanted it stopped completely
i had to suggest doing it on my health plan
same specialist that said it was normal offered to do it within the month!!!

youll be a new women glenys, youll be so suprised, youll feel great

Cumbrian Caz~**~

Cumbrian Caz~**~ Report 18 Jun 2008 21:14

Glenys love,

I wish you lots of luck. Im sure its an emotionally difficult op.Hope your recovery is swift,

Love and hugs,

Caz xxxx


VIVinHERTS Report 18 Jun 2008 21:16

Helen, love your neighbours saying !!! LOL

Glenys the Menace!

Glenys the Menace! Report 18 Jun 2008 23:06

Just popped back to delete the thread, and found more postings. :-))

You ladies are wonderful, and I love that neighbour's comment, Helen!

I'll delete thread tomorrow, but thank you again for your encouragement. I'm sure I'm ready for it.

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 19 Jun 2008 01:46

Haven't had it done but have three friends who have had the op at various ages, and all are fine now, lots better than before.
I hope all goes well for you and you recover quickly and realise what a blessing the op was.