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Partner of 3yrs has left me 8-(
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{****wendylady****} | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:13 |
My partner of three years has gone and walked out on me...... we meet 3 years ago... before i meet him i was on my own a few years after a marriage of 20yrs failed.... my x hubby left me and my daughter in debt.. no house... no friends... heartbroken... and ran off with my friend... i had to start again... was on my own for a few years... until i met my partner... he lived a distance away... and we used to see each other at weekends... we decided after a short while we would be together and live together... everything was going well except for the odd argument now and again.... but suddely he stormed out on monday eveing after a stupid little petty arguement called me some bad names... and now says he doesnt want to come back and me and him are finished... for good..... im lost dont know what to do with myself..... i saw him today at his works he said hello.... and i asked him a few questions about the sky whats in his name... what was he going to do about it.... he said leave it for a while and he would see to it.... so he told me he wants to be on his own.... keep himself to is self.... so i walked away and told him i wont bother him anymore.. and leave him in peace.... i just feel used and hurt because when i met him he hadnt got nothing.... lived in a crummy bedsit nothing to his name.... i gave him a home and my family excepted him... as he has any family who dont keep in contact with him..... what did i do wrong to be hurt again like this... why do i have bad luck with relationships.... im very weepy... |
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Sue | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:18 |
Why do you think you have done something wrong? Please don't! You cannot blame yourself. You need time to accept this and that will also give him the space to reconsider his decision. |
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{****wendylady****} | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:24 |
Maybe sue... that i feel i failed the first time now im failing again...he is young than me by 10yrs and lot of pretty ladies same age as me work with him and i feel now inadequate.. that i aint good enough for him.. |
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JustKaz | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:24 |
wendy, so sorry to hear this, give it some space and time, after arguments, things are said in the heat of the moment and what you mean and really feel get blurrted out, some men get depressed and cant cope in the real world, so run and hide and forget whats really the problem.. |
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Julie | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:28 |
Wendy.... |
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Jane | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:29 |
Wendy,I'm so sorry you are going through this again. |
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{****wendylady****} | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:29 |
hi caz i feel if he has enoug time away from me he will never want to come back..... i would want him to come back on his own accord... but gut feelings says he wont....i told him many times i would like him to speak to me with respect but it doesnt sink in... my mom says let him stew in his own juices... he was at fault... |
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Jane | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:33 |
Life deals out S**t sometimes Wendy but you can rise above it. |
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Sue | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:33 |
Don't feel inadequate, even the most perfect human can have failed relationships. We can only do our best. From your post this seems to be a bolt from the blue. I guess you need to ask him exactly what the problem is as you seemed to have had no inkling that him leaving was on the horizon. |
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{****wendylady****} | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:33 |
helen i wont turn to drink as im tee-total... i cant drink as my father was alcoholic and that killed him... so i saw the damage it did to him and my mom... i must of killed a robin somewhere to have all this bad luck... i only want some-one to love me as me... and give me the respect that i deserve... |
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JustKaz | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:36 |
the longest me and hubby were apart after an argument was 3 months, it was torture, he didnt want to talk, see, even ignored his son, i thought there was someone else as you do, but i found out it was due to depression, in the end we agreed to live apart, see each other but not live together, .. |
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JEH123 | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:38 |
So sorry to hear this. I would give him some space to let him think about his actions...and feelings. Don't contact him. If he cares and loves you he'll be back. |
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Jane | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:41 |
Wendy, |
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{****wendylady****} | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:42 |
kaz i tried to write a letter and tell him what i feel.... i told him in the letter that i know i cantmake him love me or stay with me.... but i love him enough to let him go i will let him go....i said in the letter that i hope he finds happiness and some-one who loves him dearly as i do.... and treasure him with love and respect...he deserves.... |
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~irishgirl~ | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:45 |
Ah i am so sorry for you. Good things in life are worth waiting for. Hope you find your's soon. |
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Rosi Glow | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:46 |
I would get the Sky cut off now, if that is what you want....Why pay for something if it's in his name? I think it takes a few weeks for it to be cancelled anyway, or maybe he has said he would sort it out because he is thinking of coming back home? |
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{****wendylady****} | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:50 |
thats what i thought rosi glow he pays for it i dont....maybe your right it does only takes a few weeks to cancelled... he says he his tied up in a contract with them unless he is stalling things to make up his mind... but i do know he is struggling to live without cash at the mo... and that would save his money if he decides not ot come back |
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Rosi Glow | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:53 |
And your money too wendylady. |
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JustKaz | Report | 18 Jun 2008 18:58 |
dont rush him to cancel sky then.............. i'm same opinion, he's using the sky as a make or break symbol, if he cant make his mind up and you get or him to get ride, you know what mens brains are like, simple ( gawd i'm for the chop with the men on here now... sorry....lol) |
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{****wendylady****} | Report | 18 Jun 2008 19:01 |
i was thinking im selfish think of myself and cumbian caz has put a thread on about the boys in afganistan.... my problems are nothing compared with theirs... sorry for been self centre... there worse things happining in the world... |