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Son upset...

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Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 28 Jun 2008 03:39

Shame your son didn't get the recognition he deserved - it might be worth talking to the governors about the whole set up as it doesn't create the right atmosphere when a child is slighted like that.
My son's middle school head was an idiot, the only thing he did care about was sporting achievements to boast about to other heads, and anything else was brushed under the carpet. He couldn't have run a p-up in a brewery let alone a school. Luckily he has retired now on health grounds, but too late for my lad and those in his class.

Ails from NI

Ails from NI Report 27 Jun 2008 23:02

Thanks, Spud.

For a while we thought that it was just us who thought that Son should have had some sort of recognition but am now convinced that it's not just us being biased.

Thanks, guys for all your support.

Ails x

Spud Fae Livi

Spud Fae Livi Report 27 Jun 2008 22:59

Would have thought that as it was a team event and the other three members of the team were reconised I would expect that the last member of the team to be reconised as well.


Ails from NI

Ails from NI Report 27 Jun 2008 22:30

Thanks, Caz - haven't had much time to post lately but now that I'm off for the summer (until approx 20th August) I'll hopefully have more time. Have had a HORRENDOUS year at school, but that's another (long) story!!

Ails x

Cumbrian Caz~**~

Cumbrian Caz~**~ Report 27 Jun 2008 22:26

Hi Ails, well dont your boy,

I have found school politics are unfathomable and the closed ranks are not easily breached.

Good to see you here,

Caz xxx

Ails from NI

Ails from NI Report 27 Jun 2008 22:20

Thanks ladies - you have been really kind. Yes we're really proud of him - that's why we really feel for him.

Have tried the avenue re speaking to the principal but could take it to the Board of Governors...
Principal told OH to explain blah blah to Son - OH said no YOU explain to him - OH phoned him on Monday hoping to get it sorted by the end of the week as school breaks up for the summer hols on Monday - Principal conveniently made himself unavailable until today 10mins before hometime so he had limited time to talk - Son has said he will not compete for the school in any shape or form next year BUT that's only going to hurt Son as the principal doesn't give a toss about sport - he's never at the touch-line on a Sat morning when there's a match on.

Ails x


Jenxx Report 27 Jun 2008 22:05

Hi Ails
Go and shake the little B@@@@r (twerp)
Of course your Son DESERVES to be prefect
Sorry calmed down now
Bet you are so proud of your son
grannie said it better lol


Luckylainey Report 27 Jun 2008 22:02

If it was me I would go to the school and speak to the Headteacher. After all praise goes a long way where children are concerned. They should be encouraging any child who is doing well. If the Headteacher is not very helpful would the board of Governors be able to help, not sure how they operate. Does your son have a form Tutor, who you could talk to? It wouldn't hurt to get as many people on side as you can. In this day and age we need to be looking at the good that our children are doing. Hope you get this sorted out soon for the good of his self-esteem.


BTW I don't think you are being a pushy parent just a caring one! If we don't stick up for our kids no-one else will.


AnninGlos Report 27 Jun 2008 21:59

Not very fair that the school has not really recognised his sporting prowess is it? It used to be the other way round and children who were the best sportsmen/women got made a lot of.


Ails from NI

Ails from NI Report 27 Jun 2008 21:53

OH has spoken to the principal - he's an abnoxious little twerp!!
All of the prefects were from the top 2 classes. Son got 1st & 2nd year boy's champion for the points earned on sports day PLUS the rugby trophy last year.
He's not the brightest in his class but he passed all of his exams. He has good manners and we have never had any complaints about his behaviour.
It seems that it is very much a case of 'old boys club' for the appointment of prefects - apparently outside school things were also taken into consideration - son was nominated for local sports personality last year and again this year & is also a star athlete at the local athletics club...

What more does he need???!!!

Ails x


ann Report 27 Jun 2008 21:50

I would be disappointed to.Your son also deserves a award to.I would go into the school quietly and give it a mention.After all what he did was for his school.Hope he gets something special. Good Luck Annie

*Helen S

*Helen S Report 27 Jun 2008 21:44

If he wasn't made a prefect, for whatever reason, I can't see why he couldn't have a simlilar special award. After all since he's the younger member of the team his contribution was greater in my eyes. You are not wrong for being disappointed.


AnninGlos Report 27 Jun 2008 21:38

I suppose it depends what he has been like over all during his 2 years at the school. It also depends how many prefects were needed and what those who were chosen had done to deserve it. Maybe you could surreptitiously find out.



Suzi-Wong Report 27 Jun 2008 21:34

I know where you're coming from..a similar thing has happened to our fourth we're not precious at all but it's difficult to not make a fuss when over the years we think he deserves the accolade.


Ails from NI

Ails from NI Report 27 Jun 2008 21:26

Tell me what you think...

My son attends a school which is only 1st-3rd year at secondary school level and he is at the end of his 2nd yr.

Several wks ago he competed in Irish Championships in a relay team and they won gold medals (YIPPEE!!) The other 3 boys in the team are at the end of their 3rd year.

On winning their medals 2 of the boys were made prefects (for the remainder of their 3rd year - only a few weeks to go) and the 3rd was awarded a one-off special award at Prize Night a couple of weeks ago.

Last week the 3rd yr prefects were announced & my son was expecting to be given this honour... He didn't get it and he's absolutely gutted over it.

Am I wrong in thinking he should have got it for bringing honour to the school?? Don't get me wrong - I'm not a pushy-pushy parent but I do feel that he earned it.

Ails x