General Chat

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Do you ever find you are unable to express an opinion of any sort with fear you would loose that person/people friendship?

As on here or in real life, I know in the past on here when I have disagreed with someone its been held against me or as a result I have been ignored. I know on here its happen as in real life.

Have you ever held back to keep the peace ?. I am glad to say in both real life and on here I have a handful of friends I can be truly honest and say it as it is ( or I think it is) and know they are still going to there afterwards.

Hi Hayley
I dont hold back because Im worried about losing a friendship but I do sometimes because I've not wanted to hurt a friends feelings. Im really lucky with my friends I think because Ive known them all a long time & they accept me for what I am
x

Frankie , I have done it at home ...with him and kept stum just for the sake of peace...worse thing you can do coz it all comes to boiling point...

I think most of us do at times. Sometimes to make life easier, sometimes not to hurt feelings. Lets face it if we spoke our minds all of the time we'd end up very lonely.

Hi Hayley, I've got a lot of acquaintances but not a lot of true friends because I speak my mind, can't help it, have to tell the truth and shame the devil, don't try to force my opinion on anyone, just say what I think or feel, I do agree with what you say both on here and in life in general

Sometimes it is good to hold back so that you can hear more of the other point of view,which,of course,can give you a bigger stick to beat them with!
(In view of another thread,a bigger stick with which to beat them.)

i ave kept gob shut cos i dont want to hurt someones feelings, both home in work and on here
i hate confrontation,
tho i have been known to go all guns blazing at hubby in the past , now i all growed up

I am always open to listen...as a child and being the youngest I always sided with the one who was winning if the was fighting...lol

I am able to mind my P & Q's and really good now at ignoring things or not getting involved...lol

I think it's down to choice then Hayley - you can choose to respond with the truth, or you can choose to refrain from confrontation. What's the saying? discretion is the better part of valour?

Jac

*fondly....darlin you can tell me the truth any day....and you do! lolol BC XXX

And don't forget, live to fight another day Jac. lol

Night all. enjoy your discussion. xxx

My friends in real life,we tell each other as it is in a none aggresive or condecending way and never offend if possible and still remain friends.

On here telling it like it is,is more difficult and you have to re-read the written word to see how at least two others will read it,so not appearing to riddicule.be rude,comeover as condesending or superior to others.
~~to Honest Hayley,

Ive spoken to some nice people on here & had some help with my tree, but I haven't got any friends on here so I'm not scared of offending anyone just by saying what I think
x

i feel i have let some friends down by havin a dif opinion
especially on gr ..
but the so called Gr lot apart from kim will always be my bestest mates and as long as i dont let them down i dont care a hoot . oh and u hayley and tw and bc lol oh and the boros phew nearly had me guts for garters then .
Rosex

Now Rosie notice how I didnt name names...lol

Aww Frankie...your always chat with anyone..or me.isnt that true BC...or just do like did latch on and hang on like a impit to just grind them down and say you ( I ) are their friend....lol isnt it that reightt BC..so it is...pmsl..

aye that's right Hayley:-) But to be serious here for a moment, there were two occasions here on GR when I said, and not by any means in a rude way, what I thought. I considered the people I was speaking to would respond in an an adult fashion., and either agree or disagree and we would all toddle off into the sunset....lol...but to my astonishment I was, and still am, totally ostracised by these people and their friends for having an opinion. The fact tha they are not folks I would want to be friends with is neither here nor there...but it was a salutory lesson and I found that one is never too old to be astonished! lol BC XX

lol thanks Hayley but I dont really come on enough to get in with people so I just add when I look in and see threads that take my fancy:-)
x

BC.....*shocked * who could EVER find you ofensive if beyond me.....and FFS you have a good try at me...lol

Not worth thinking about BC...so there not...mwahhxx

BC .come play in my yard,we Irish would never offend,~#

*now will ye go away outa dat*

BC pmsl
you offensive ha ha ha (let me at em arrgghjhhhh)
god i need a tenna (are you well off lol)
rosex