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or do I have a right to be a bit miffed?

Bro went to Daddy's grave today for his yearly visit and didn't call in and I am literally 5 mins from the cemetry!!

Bit miffed if I am honest!

He could have just made a flying visit and rushed off to do something else.

He was on his way home from a training course........ I think its just me being daft..... I haven't seen him for months and I'd have just liked to have had a hug!!

Awwww.................phone him up and make him feel guilty:))

I'd be miffed in similar circs .......................... xxx

Nah cos then he'll get all grumpy on me!!

Families huh? Ya can't chose them!!

Yep, what Kitty says. Lay it on with a trowel and get his guilt reflexes going. :D

perhaps you should say something light hearted like " Thanks I would have liked you to have popped in tho even for just a cup of coffee" Blokes just done think sometimes

My brother only has contact via his solicitor..............we don't bother:(

I sent him a text saying - ya should've called in, I would've made ya a coffee..... but he won't reply!! ;O)

BOYS!!!

i know what you mean Pink....my bro/sis in law come down from manchester and visit other sil 5min drive away and then go to Isle of Wight to visit other sil but don't come to us. my oh says it doesn't bother him but it does....makes me glad to be an only child,

Karen x

Pink Lady,
You can pick your friends but not your family.
I shouldn't worry yourself....that's life.

Dave xx

Ooooh I got a reply saying "wasn't on my own" - right so he can take a stranger to my Daddy's grave but not to his sister's house for a cuppa?

The boy is making excuses now!!

Well my brother never visits me. But he is in Canada!

Hmmmm

well he may have had a colleague travelling with him i guess - it's feasible

sounds like you'll have to pitch yourself next to Daddy all day next year in readiness - then he can't avoid ya lol xx

Pink - My old dad, 86yrs, used to call and shop for his sister in law, not his blood sister, a couple of days a week,and fetch her pension, prescriptions etc, and had a spare key so he could pop in anytime to see she was okey. Her sons had to pass his house to get to hers. Were they grateful, were they ekers like. He even mowed her lawn for her, and trimmed her conifers. I tried to put my foot down, but he did carry on. And they rarely, if ever called to see how he was. He was even sorting her out on Christmas day, just past, hospital etc. Once, she asked one of her sons to get my dad a bottle of a particular whisky as a thank you. When he gave it to my dad, he embarresed my dad. He had been father to these (boys) now grown men, for over fifty years, since their own father died. Thankfully she is now in a home, where she is properly looked after. But do you know, they still rattle our cages about visiting her.
Julia in Derbyshire

My sister is just the same, drives down from Northants to visit my dad, little bro and mutual friends, I get to find out a week after she's gone home again! Oh well, her loss not mine!

I never hear from my brothers and their wives, one will chat if I phone but rarely calls, could email but too busy making lots of money, and the other one the same, don't bother to make the effort myself now,as I got fed up with little or no response. Told my son not to bother to tell them when I pop my clogs, they couldn't care about me alive, so won't want them there at the end.
Lizx

How can someone visit their Daddy's grave for the 2nd time since we buried him over 2 years ago and not take flowers?

But even worse, not remove the dead ones that were there?

Its really upset me that he did that!

I'm glad I am not the only one with useless siblings!!

Typical male, Pink, but maybe with being with a colleague, he didn't want to stop off and get flowers. Wouldn't have hurt him to take the old ones off and dump them, but I expect he knew his Sis would do all that was necessary.
Lizx