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to accept your kids are all grown up and just let um arrive home when they do

I don't think there is a reasonable age. I think as long as you're in your parents house you should respect that & let them know when you'll be home so they don't worry.

I'd say up to 18 there should be an agreed time.

Over 18 there should be a call to say what time you'll be home or that you wont be home as you have other plans.

When they pay for the privilege of stil living in the home, !!,,not seriously when they are and act responsible young adults,,,,

~~when They have left home...that way they wont be arriving at all hrs..Your roof your rules..Ive got a long way to go....(sigh!)lol

our lads 17
weve given him a little freedom , well a lot actually
he goes out with mates at weekends and comes hme around 1am , and has so far been fairly sensible, well he has a laugh, and they are all good lads, but proper lads,

let him ave his girlfriend over and they watch dvd or chat in his room, !! ok im not nieve but he is respectful,
anyway,
he goes out to visit her and walks home around 2ish 3ish,
i text him so as not to impose, check where he is around midnigght or 1am just to make sure hes ok
he thinks i fuss,
last n ight i couldtn get reply so i phoned , no reply,
text OH in work, he said leave him he be fine

am i being too over protective

i used to worry with our daughter, but not as much as i have with him,

ive told him with all the trouble you hear on news i want to know hes ok

I don't think you are being overprotective at all................wouldn't you be the same if you couldn't contact your OH when he was out?

It's sensible for anyone to let the family know roughly what time they will be home..............and good manners.

I don't think you're being overprotective.

I think it's pefectly reasonable to expect a call or text to let you know he's ok or when he's heading home.

when he switched his phone off,,maybe because he knew come 11--12 you would be on his case,,,just trust him to be sensible and dont cramp his style,,as long as he knows he can get when ever after hours should he need hes cool with that,,,,,,,,,,,

thanks maggie
our daughter pushed us to the limit
and further,
but our sons always been cooperative, he tell us where he is when he be home, but now hes reached 17 its like im suddenly infirm,
and he has all the knowledge,
bless him,
i shout becareful as he goes out
i text becareful,
i even say it to daughter when she goes anywhere with her little girl, she says do you think i wouldnt look after her,
thats not what its about is it guys

My youngest is 25 and sometimes stays here, sometimes with her fiances parents. If she goes out, I like to know:
a) if she will be home
b) what (approximate) time I am to expect her!!

This is because, while she is expected home, I can't lock the door and I want to know whether the voices I hear downstairs are her or intruders!!!

I think it's just good manners. Likewise, if I go out for the day and expect to come back in the wee small hours I let her know - so she doesn't lock me out!!!

its so hard tho isnt it,

i even told hubby off cos he told son he gets it in neck in work if im not kept informed,
i said which would you rather i left it till next day to say oh and by the way our son never came home last night,

he shut up then

We never know when my sister is coming home or not (when we are left to look after the house, if she is in late or doesn't tell me what time she will be in, I still get told off by her if I set the house alarm!) but since a couple of weeks ago (when Mum and Dad found out she'd been a bit . . . creative with the truth at work and used it to get time off, shall we say?) my mum is really fed up with her and has decided now that the alarm goes on when everyone goes to bed whether my sister is in or not. (She is nearly 22, though.)

But when my mum and dad are away and I am looking after the house (sister usually disappears off and does her own thing) I can't get to sleep unless I know she's in! (Although it rarely occurs to my sister to ring to say if she'll be in or not.)

I reckon by the time they're 40 then a house key may be in order. ;)

Julie love,

This is so relevant to me. eldest is 19, second one almost 18,

Younger son comes in at 4 am on sat, we arent sure if its ok but havent kicked up a fuss as he works hard all week,


Caz xxx

I think when they're about 60.

:0)

Maria x

LOL Maria - I think my daughter does too!!
When I go out (usually to my sisters) I have had her phoning me up at 5pm asking approximately when I'll be home as she wants to watch a CD on the TV and don't want me walking in half way through saying I want to watch something else!!
They (she & fiance) had a T V in their room, but took it out.

maggie

Maggie I don't want to worry you but my mum's 76 (and dad's 83) and me & sis haven't let go yet. So you have a fair way to go yet. Somebody has to be the adult around here lol.

Maria x x

maria
lol thats so true my daughter thinks shes mam to me at times i sure of it

caz
i so psycic see i knew you need the advice too,

son has obviously took on board what ive been saying cos tonight hes comehome from work and had tea, tidyed his room and brought his g/f back here, they sat in living room watching tv

WHEN THEY HAVE MOVED OUT