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I'm feeling a bit disgruntled at the moment.......
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Margaret | Report | 2 Aug 2008 19:08 |
In the Autumn of last year I started helping someone with her family tree. She had been doing it herself for years but had not really got very far. She lives in Oz and is the wife of one of my late Mum's cousins who emigrated to Australia with his parents when he was only 22 months old. As a consequence my Mum and her sisters had not seen this cousin since he was a toddler. Anyway, this lady was visiting the UK in May for 5 weeks. Unfortunately I was working and was unable to get to meet her on the day she came to my end of the world, but she did visit my Mum's younger sister and spent an enjoyable afternoon. As I knew she was visiting I worked extra hard on her tree - with the help of the wonderful folk on here - and was able to provide a copy of a family tree programme and a back-up disc with all the information on re her family and that of her husband going back to the 1700's. I also printed out how to use the programme etc etc and said if she had any problems, just to get in touch and I would help her out. I was really pleased and excited. She returned to Oz first week in July and I have since then, not heard a solitary word. Now I wasn't expecting gold medals or anything, but I am a bit 'miffed' that I haven't received even a line of correspondence to let me know (a) what she thought of all the info and (b) how she was getting along with the programme. And to add insult to injury, the Aunt she spent the afternoon with has had a short letter saying how nice it was to meet her. Am I being pathetic feeling miffed or what....... perhaps I'm getting old and grumpy!! |
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AnnCardiff | Report | 2 Aug 2008 19:11 |
no you aint - that is nothing short of pig ignorance on her part!!! Oz is not far enough away in my opinion!!! |
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Jane | Report | 2 Aug 2008 19:14 |
I think you are right to be totally miffed and disappointed after all your hard work. |
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Linda | Report | 2 Aug 2008 19:18 |
THERE are some people who will take take take and not give any thing back even just a card would have been nice it just seems to me that she is very ungrateful for all you have done??????????? |
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Margaret | Report | 2 Aug 2008 19:21 |
Thank you Ann - I feel better now. I thought maybe I was being a bit 'touchy'. |
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Margaret | Report | 2 Aug 2008 19:32 |
Oh heck Karen - she would have a fit !! Much as I'd like to do that in a way, I think I will swallow the bitter pill that is disappointment and learn from the experience. I won't be so quick to help again. |
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Margaret | Report | 2 Aug 2008 21:08 |
nudged so Karen can see I replied to her. |
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AnninGlos | Report | 2 Aug 2008 21:23 |
I think I would be tempted to write and ask her if she managed to open the disc etc. Say, as it took you so much time to do you would be disappointed if she didn't manage to view it properly. Se if you can shame her into acknowledging it |
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Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond | Report | 3 Aug 2008 04:04 |
I think Ann's idea is a good one, she might just have meant to write or make contact and it slipped her mind, or she may have sent a card or letter and it got lost in the post. Give her the benefit of the doubt and if you still don't hear from her, then put it down to experience and hope she gets her come uppance some way lol |
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Huia | Report | 3 Aug 2008 06:03 |
I had wondered if they were having trouble opening the disc. My son has put some photos onto discs for me and one of them wouldnt open at all. He did one for himself and he couldnt open it. Others have opened all right. So maybe she is too embarrassed to tell you that it wont open. |
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Taff | Report | 3 Aug 2008 08:20 |
Oh! MM, the ladies are right!! |
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Pauline | Report | 3 Aug 2008 09:41 |
Disappointing to say the least, if anyone took the time and effort to do the same for me, I would be absolutely delighted, and would make it my business to let them know how appreciative I was. You are not pathetic and have every reason to feel disgruntled. Regardless of whether she was able to open the disc or not, that does not excuse bad manners. Surely she must realise how much time and effort you put in....... BUT, in saying all that, I just received a thank you via email from someone who I helped out back in June with photo's and family tree info. , I had almost written them off...so, maybe she will contact you soon. I hope so ! |
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Pat Kendrick | Report | 3 Aug 2008 09:58 |
It happens a lot. One lady I helped in that way without a thank you told everyone how easy it was for her to do her family tree and couldn't understand why people had so much trouble tracing ancestors. |
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Glenys the Menace! | Report | 3 Aug 2008 12:37 |
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