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this afternoon, didn't go to the funeral because OH is still not 100% fit yet, but went to the wake. The poor chap was only 57 and died of cancer, he was just a friend really, didn't know him too well but wanted to pay our respects.

The thing is we went in Black and were the only ones there that did so and I felt embarrassed. Is it not the thing to go in black to go to a funeral any more????

Barbara xx

when we go to a funeral we always dress in black
but have seen some of the younger ones in lighter colours
Jenxx

Doesnt really matter what you wore barbara, you went and paid your respects thats the main thing, you ok hun?xxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi girls

I don't think there's any strict dress code nowadays but I would feel disrespectful in "normal" clothes, some of them looked like they were going to a party, but I suppose we weren't brought up that way

Barbara xx

not sure about closing curtains carrie, but i always open a window, my dad used to say had to let spirits go free! xx

I'm fine thanks, how are you all?

Barbara xxx

glad you ok barbara, im fine had a bit of a lazy day today, got workmen coming in morning to sort me kitchen out x

well i have been told for several funerals.."please dont wear black",

i think just quiet formal clothes are what are worn these days..

think you're right Stella, traditions seem to be getting left in the past x

I don't think I would feel right in bright colours
but thats me
Jenxx

i think it's better personally,

funerals are so often also a celebration of someones life

i wouldnt want my friends wearing black at my funeral, black seems to make it all doom and gloom, i just want my friends to come and say goodbye when it's my turn ..

I've got a feeling they were all told not to wear funerial clothes, but because we only knew him, and not the family we weren't aware of that and that's why I felt a bit embarrassed.

xx

i'm not bothered what people wear when i go just as long as they say bye.

dont be embarrassed barbara, it doesnt matter hun xxx

Another thing too because he was divorced and lived with his partner, they had two do's, one in a local hotel and the other in a local pub, we went to the one in the hotel, nothing strange in that you may think but the ex wife and partner were both at the hotel.................

If any of B... family are reading this I apologise if this seems insensitive, he was a lovely man

Here in Cyprus the funeral is normally held within 24 hours ,(cos of the heat) so you turn up in whatever clothes you have been wearing-the fact that that you turned up at the Church,house or cemetary is much more important than your clothes .For heavens sake--is there a dress code now for funerals?

Hi me

No dress code but it's always been traditional in my family to wear black, but it seems nowadays anything goes.
Went to a traditional wedding a long time ago in Cyprus and love the tradition of pinning money to the wedding dress, much better than the five casserole dishes I got, all in different patterns.lol
My niece and her family all arrived in Pathos for a holiday yesterday, if you see her say hello, what's the weather like, hot???
Barbara xx

Funerals I've been to fairly recently have usually been mostly black but I noticed that people who are not family or very close friends tend to come in just darkish respectable clothes.

These days when I don't want to look as if I'm more in mourning than close family I sometimes wear navy blue.
The other option is a black skirt and jacket but a slightly coloured blouse.

It's tricky getting it just right but really who is going to worry too much about it? I think any family member would just be happy to see that the person they loved had lots of friends or acquaintances who cared enough to come.

Sue

Hello Sue

I think what made it worse was that nobody wore black except us and we only knew him as a friend and maybe I felt a bit over the top, but with warning I would have probably still worn a black skirt and maybe a coloured top, but if anyone gets it wrong it'll be me. lol

Ah well Barbara.........never mind. I doubt anyone thought any the worse of you for it and it may have made others think perhaps they ought to have made more of an effort!

Sue
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