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Harry | Report | 21 Dec 2012 15:13 |
Don't want to give any details to a (selfish?) question which no-one can properly answer. |
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AnninGlos | Report | 21 Dec 2012 15:34 |
No, I don't think the answer is obvious. It is a very hard question. I don't know what the answer is, I guess it depends on the people involved, how old they are, how they view life and death, maybe how much faith they have. Either way it is hard for both. Maybe in some cases it is the 'slowly' that is the hard part if there is a lot of pain. The harder thing for the person watching is the fact that their suffering continues after the end. |
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GinN | Report | 21 Dec 2012 15:42 |
Not sure if this is what you mean, Harry, but speaking as someone who has had cancer and survived, I believe it is worse for those who love them than for the sufferer themselves. |
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AnnCardiff | Report | 21 Dec 2012 15:49 |
all I can say is that it is very hard to watch someone dying of whatever - not necessarily cancer - I watched my husband for a year knowing he was going to die - he knew it too - it was horrendous - too horrendous to talk about even, after all, what is there to say in such a situation |
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Mauatthecoast | Report | 21 Dec 2012 16:04 |
Hello Harry not an easy question to answer. |
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lilybids | Report | 21 Dec 2012 16:07 |
I agree with AnnC,it's not easy |
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AnnMarieG | Report | 21 Dec 2012 16:13 |
I think both are as hard to bear. Each in a differant way. If it is you who is involved my heart goes out to you. <3 |
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Porkie_Pie | Report | 21 Dec 2012 16:43 |
I don't think the answer is obvious Harry |
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Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it | Report | 21 Dec 2012 16:55 |
When you are first told there is disbelief that it could happen to a loved one. |
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Guinevere | Report | 21 Dec 2012 17:00 |
Either way is very hard, Harry. I have no words that can help but wish you both strength to cope with what is to come. |
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Cynthia | Report | 21 Dec 2012 17:46 |
With my love and prayers Harry... <3 |
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Kay???? | Report | 21 Dec 2012 18:19 |
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Neubie | Report | 21 Dec 2012 18:46 |
Harry .. I am going through the exact same thing , my Best friend was diagnosed in June with stage4 Lung cancer. |
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Harry | Report | 21 Dec 2012 18:56 |
Those are lovely and helpful replies. The poem is beautiful. Think you feel guilty and a bit wicked when you ask yourself occasionally 'how will it affect me?'. |
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UzziAndHerDogs | Report | 21 Dec 2012 19:09 |
Harry no losing of loved ones is good, but for their sake you have to hope for the least painful. If that is the quickest then so be it. |
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Porkie_Pie | Report | 21 Dec 2012 19:12 |
I would have thought asking yourself 'how will it affect me" to be a normal human thing to think about |
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Neubie | Report | 21 Dec 2012 19:24 |
I think human nature is to ask for a timescale , things out of our control we try desperately to gain control of |
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Gee | Report | 21 Dec 2012 19:33 |
Henry Scott Holland |
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AnnCardiff | Report | 21 Dec 2012 19:33 |
I would rather it had been me at the time, but with hindsight I'm glad it wasn't cos I couldn't bear to think of him without me - sounds daft I suppose, but I don't think he would have coped as well - he wasn't as outgoing as I am and I think he would have been very lonely indeed - it's not nice |
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Neubie | Report | 21 Dec 2012 19:47 |
Anne just <3 <3 |
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