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DIZZI Report 29 Dec 2012 07:50



Cynthia Report 29 Dec 2012 08:32

It's a normal reaction Dizzi.....try not to worry. Easier said than done I know.

Have you got one of those necklet things where you can call for help if you need it? Might be an idea I guess.

You've loads of friends on here so just concentrate on building your strength up if you can.

By the way, JC (remember her?) knows you have been poorly and is sympathetic ;-)

Take care. Cx <3


JustJohn Report 29 Dec 2012 10:09

DIZZI. For several weeks now, first thing I and many of us do is check on your latest news (usually via Carol updates).

Quite remarkable progress. It was wrong, I think, to let you out of hospital before Christmas. And you still need to behave like you are still in hospital for a while, I think. Just a little bit each day. 3 forward, 2 back. Build up your strength slowly, as Cynthia says.

I can totally understand your anxiety. Can they not send you a nurse daily for a couple of weeks just to check on you and chat about how you are feeling?

Wishing lots of people a happy 2013. But how I wish that for you - how I hope you go into 2014 in much more Dizzi spirits than you go into 2013 :-D :-D

Carol 430181

Carol 430181 Report 29 Dec 2012 10:29

Know where you are coming from Dizzi, when I came out of hospital after having a heart attack I was really frightened, did not want to travel anywhere in case I needed to get back to the hospital which was only two miles away.

Eldest daughter was starting work experience about 20 miles away and wanted to see the area, as soon as we left and was out of my comfort zone I had a massive panic attack. It takes time Dizzi but you will get there.

Take care
Carol :-D :-D <3


'Emma' Report 29 Dec 2012 11:00

Morning Dizzi,

Good to see you back on the boards again.

Its natural to feel scared, when in hospital you want
to be home with family and friends and when home
you miss the security of the professionals being at

In time you will regain your confidence and settle and
feel secure in your own home. Take it easy and try not
to worry about things (easy to say) I'm sure every day
will get easier for you.

Emma x


AnninGlos Report 29 Dec 2012 12:12

I think we all understand how you feel Dizzi. You will slowly build your confidence back up but you will need to be patient. In hospital you are used to having people around all the time. Just make sure your phone is charged and carry it around with you so that you know you have a life line. Do you have neighbours who are around during the day. You have phone numbers of people on here I know, do you have them so theya re easy to access? If you have a problem and phone one of them they can organise help for you, so you are not really alone. Take care Dizzi, we are all sending you our love and thoughts. you will recover from this. <3 <3 <3

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 29 Dec 2012 13:18

Gwen, it's only natural to feel vulnerable at first, you didn't have a very good time when you got out of hospital before Christmas and everything's shaken your confidence. It will take a little time to build it up again but I know you will get there, just take everything slowly, concentrate on getting through one day at a time, and try not to worry (easy for me to say, I know)

You are in my thoughts often, and it's obvious you have many people who care about you so do keep all those phone numbers on speed dial and your phone charged so you can call someone if you are low and there's no one to hand at home.

Also talk to your doctor and explain how you feel and see if he can offer any help by setting up a visiting routine or maybe helping you find a befriender, if they have that service in your area.

Dont forget, an inch is a cinch, a yard is hard. Baby steps, love, baby steps.



Iris Report 29 Dec 2012 13:54

you have been very ill ,it will take a while before you feel like doing much ,let others do ,and you rest ..i'm sure your doctor could get someone to pop in once a day to check on you , just until you feel stronger. take care ,iris

Margaret in Sussex

Margaret in Sussex Report 29 Dec 2012 14:23

Hello Dizzi........So glad to see you hom e again..What others have said is excellent advice...

.I 100%+ know how you feel as I too have been in a similar situation... Twice..... Like you the 1st. time I ended up back in hospital...... The most important thing I found was to let family and friends do EVERYTHING for me and then to start gradually...oh ever so gradual... perhaps making a cup of tea or maybe get someone to walk in the garden with me...... increasing very slowly. Please tell family how you feel & how you think they can help you. For me , that was part of the healing process...... Take care.....



Claddagh Report 29 Dec 2012 16:18

Awww, Gwen, I really feel for you, have been in such a situation more often than I care to recall, so know exactly how you feel. I hope you will feel more and more confident, as days go by, so that you won't feel scared anymore. It IS terrifying to be left to your own resources, after a long time in hospital, knowing that no-one is at hand to call for help all the time, but, this WILL change soon, you WILL get so far that you won't feel dependent on professional help. In the meantime, I really hope you can call someone to come a.s.a.p when you feel bad/frightened.
Get well very soon.

Eileen x