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MrDaff | Report | 3 Jan 2013 00:09 |
.....it can be a very difficult time for both of you. I didn't realise (naively !) this was on YT, but it was one that I played and sang (quitely..) to OH. |
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Suzanne | Report | 3 Jan 2013 00:17 |
iVE cared for my daughter,with the help of hubby for 31yrs,she has really bad epilepsy and mild special needs, daughter works part time and has done for almost 15yrs,sh lives with us,but gets by with our help,its an on going thing,no one helps her except myself and hubby :-) |
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MrDaff | Report | 3 Jan 2013 00:28 |
Suzanne, although not directly involved with such care, Daff was - many years spent with children and adults with special needs, and also had a beautiful niece who had DS. |
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supercrutch | Report | 3 Jan 2013 00:36 |
MrDaff, this is the right arena cos many on here are caring for very poorly relatives and some feel isolated. |
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MrDaff | Report | 3 Jan 2013 00:38 |
Sue, not with that song ... I 'blub' :-( <3 |
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Sylvia | Report | 3 Jan 2013 00:43 |
Along with my husband, I care for our 25 year old daughter who has special needs and a rare syndrome. also some autism. It was difficult for my husband when I was ill , but she is such a lovely young lady and we are so proud of her. I do worry about the future. What if I am ill again. I have to shower or bath her, wash her hair etc. Also worry about what will happen to her when we get older. |
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supercrutch | Report | 3 Jan 2013 00:51 |
I had a feeling it could be that or the other obvious one <3 |
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Susan10146857 | Report | 3 Jan 2013 00:55 |
I always told Daff that she should write a book. |
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MrDaff | Report | 3 Jan 2013 00:58 |
Sylvia, I can't imagine with any accuracy, what your situation is, but is there any possibility of introducing a 3rd party/parties that may be able to introduce some form of 'building blocks' to help you? |
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Sharron | Report | 3 Jan 2013 01:06 |
I don't do bodily functions but it is the admin and organizing that wear me down. |
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Sylvia | Report | 3 Jan 2013 01:08 |
Hi Mr.Daff. |
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Sylvia | Report | 3 Jan 2013 01:21 |
Sharron, how hard for you. We get that many appointments which are usually cancelled time after time, dates or times changed etc. This would be ok if it was just the one appt. but when we get a few its confusing. Have to say it doesnt take much these days to confuse me lol. We have had that many changes of appointment that next week on the 8th we have 3 hospital appts. x |
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MrDaff | Report | 3 Jan 2013 01:24 |
Sharron, it is a challenge, no getting away from it. But we do it - the hospital appointments and visits, the drug charts and distribution at the times / days stated, the repeat prescriptions, transportation, showering and dressing, feeding ad infinitum. |
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Sharron | Report | 3 Jan 2013 01:31 |
I don't do bodily functions,he is not in ill health,nor is he in any pain so I think I have it pretty easy really but I can understand why some people keep stroke victims in bed and treat them as invalids. |
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Huia | Report | 3 Jan 2013 03:53 |
MrDaff, I do admire you. You took such great care of Daff, and to now see you putting your knowledge out here for others is great. I was caring for my OH who had alzheimers-type dementia and it wasnt easy. He was able to feed himself and dress and shower etc while he was still at home, but it got to the stage that he needed to be watched every second, and he had started doing potentially dangerous things, and as I was turning into a zombie from lack of quality sleep it was felt that it was 'either him or me' so I very reluctantly persuaded him to go with the doc to hospital 'for a few tests'. He was reluctant but I pleaded with him to go for my sake as I needed a break. He finally agreed. I knew full well that he wouldnt be coming home, he didnt know that. It made me feel a bit like a traitor, but it was for my own good as well as his. My son had felt he should have gone in earlier but I held out as long as I could. I now visit him at least once a week. I dont know if he knows who I am, or if I am a familiar voice or face, but I hold his hand and chat to him and sometimes sing to him. He has been in care for over 3 years and will be 83 yrs old tomorrow. |
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GinN | Report | 3 Jan 2013 14:31 |
I feel for you, Sharron, my Dad doesn't live with us, but lives in a retirement flat. He has carers 3 times a day, but the rest is down to my myself and husband. Nothing is ever right, and he loves to sit there like lord muck while ordering us around! He is registered blind and not very mobile, so can literally do nothing for himself. |
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AnninGlos | Report | 3 Jan 2013 15:17 |
I, fortunately, am not in the position of being a carer but I am a volunteer with Gloucestershire Lifestyles (was a trustee until a year or so ago). GLS provides carers with high quality, flexible, tailor made respite and support to meet specific needs. This worked well when government grants were there to support our support. Unfortunately it is a little more difficult since the funding was changed and people are responsible for their own budgets. |
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Neubie | Report | 3 Jan 2013 18:09 |
Thank you Mr Daff <3 |
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GinN | Report | 5 Jan 2013 06:04 |
My Dad fell out of bed at about 2.45 this morning, and Careline rang to say that the paramedics were on their way. My husband went straight over, and rang to say they have taken him to hospital for Xrays, as he has banged his head and hurt his shoulder: hubby has gone with him. Social services have provided sides to his bed to prevent falls, but he's still managed it! |
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TheBlackKnight | Report | 5 Jan 2013 09:40 |
Nice one Mr Daff, Thank you for that. :-) |
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