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UzziAndHerDogs | Report | 7 Jan 2013 18:50 |
Tomorrow I will be attending a friends funeral. |
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Tenerife Sun | Report | 7 Jan 2013 18:57 |
Personally I wouldn't in case it did upset other family members. To me it wouldn't be worth the risk |
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StrayKitten | Report | 7 Jan 2013 18:57 |
i have a bit of a black sense f humour so i say wear it, |
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JustGinnie | Report | 7 Jan 2013 18:58 |
I would wear it if I knew that your friend and his wife would not be offended by it, I don't really kow why it should offend anyone anyway. Would the people you live amongst really be that bothered by the scarf, if you think yes then would it upset you to know you had upset them. |
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Rambling | Report | 7 Jan 2013 18:59 |
I wouldn't, not because it might offend, but because it might upset. |
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GinN | Report | 7 Jan 2013 19:04 |
It might not actually upset or offend, but might draw attention: does that bother you? |
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Lady Cutie | Report | 7 Jan 2013 19:07 |
Uzzi , i was stuggling to put into words what Rambling Rose has said . |
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AnnCardiff | Report | 7 Jan 2013 19:16 |
I wouldn't wear it - why take the risk of causing upset over a mere scarf |
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eRRolSheep | Report | 7 Jan 2013 19:18 |
I think you have answered your own question. If you are in doubt then do not wear it. Although it may have been looked upon as acceptable by the deceased you have to remember that a funeral is not for the dead but for the living to come to terms with their loss and something that may be seen by some, even one, as unacceptable or upsetting should therefore not be worn. The time for that is the wake and/or celebration of their life. |
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Mersey | Report | 7 Jan 2013 19:24 |
Personally I dont think I would X |
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UzziAndHerDogs | Report | 7 Jan 2013 19:25 |
Apart from his wife there will be no other family just " transient" friends. But the scarf will stay at home |
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Kay???? | Report | 7 Jan 2013 19:34 |
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Ron2 | Report | 7 Jan 2013 20:11 |
NO. To wear it would show poor taste and, to my mind could well upset the deceased's family members |
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AnnCardiff | Report | 7 Jan 2013 20:15 |
good decision Uzzi :-) :-) |
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UzziAndHerDogs | Report | 7 Jan 2013 20:23 |
Ann I know it is right but I also know R would have found it so amusing. Still the funeral isn´t about the dead but those left behind. |
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ChrisofWessex | Report | 7 Jan 2013 22:34 |
It could be rather upsetting for other mourners and someone may think you are 'taking the michael'. I would not. |
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AnninGlos | Report | 7 Jan 2013 22:48 |
Good idea not to wear it Uzzi, better to err on the side of caution. |
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kandj | Report | 7 Jan 2013 23:27 |
I also agree with the majority that having skulls on your scarf may well be very upsetting for others present, I personally do not think that it is worth taking a risk during such a sensitive service., best to chose a more appropriate scarf. |