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Cheating................
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AnninGlos | Report | 8 Jan 2013 15:57 |
I love my grandaughter dearly, she is 10 but she is not above telling a lie to get herself out of trouble, or to save herself doing something she doesn't want to. When we looked after her recently I asked her if she had any homework. She said no, and that she had done it earlier in the week. (this was a weekend). When her parents were home, we were still staying with them and Mum suggested she fetch her reading homework to do with her. (apparently she'd been told to tell me that it was ok she would do her reading with her Mum when she came home) Why she had chosen to lie about it only she knows. But when I said 'but you said you didn't have any homework'. She was sooo embarrassed at being found out and told to apologise for lying, I think she'll think twice next time. Not nice being found out!! :-D |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 8 Jan 2013 14:40 |
I agree Marion, I can see this trait in his Mummy and that is the cause for my concern. |
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wisechild | Report | 8 Jan 2013 14:38 |
Paula. |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 8 Jan 2013 14:15 |
@ Wisechild Thank you, I will continue to encourage him, and lately other members of the family (excluding his Mummy) have started to tell him not to cheat. His two year old brother is a liltle toughie and I can see feathers flying as he gets older if he continues. |
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wisechild | Report | 8 Jan 2013 14:09 |
Please encourage him to play fair. |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 8 Jan 2013 13:58 |
Yes Sue I am sure you are right, he is still young and hopefully he will learn. I have come across many people in my working life who have the mentality of "win at all costs" , for some this may seem to be the right attitude, but I think this just makes losing harder. |
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Kay???? | Report | 8 Jan 2013 13:53 |
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Sue | Report | 8 Jan 2013 13:51 |
Paula, |
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Merlin | Report | 8 Jan 2013 13:49 |
Not many people Do Paul+,I think its a Wannabe Druid thing. :-D |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 8 Jan 2013 13:46 |
@ John "What if your grandson eventually has a second home with a moat and large grounds, and asks his gran and granddad to look after it for him rent free. Will that test your principles? Plus you will be the gran of a Peer of the Realm and invited to Buck House as an old lady " |
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JustJohn | Report | 8 Jan 2013 13:03 |
What if your grandson eventually has a second home with a moat and large grounds, and asks his gran and granddad to look after it for him rent free. Will that test your principles? Plus you will be the gran of a Peer of the Realm and invited to Buck House as an old lady:-D ;-) |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 8 Jan 2013 12:44 |
Lord help me John, I do so hope he does not become a politician. Life is all about winning and losing, its how you handle each of them that measures the person you are. |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 8 Jan 2013 12:24 |
Thank you Ann. I do hope he grows out of it, he is such a lovely, happy loving little boy. His Mother is very very competitive and hates losing when we have all been playing any sort of games, and does the “air punch “ when she wins, and scowls if she is losing, so I think that he may just be seeing how she behaves. I think the best part of winning is knowing that you did so fair and square. Oh dear now I am beginning to sound like my lovely father |
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JustJohn | Report | 8 Jan 2013 12:17 |
A lad after my own heart, Paula+ Win at all costs. Sounds like a budding politician to me. |
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~Lynda~ | Report | 8 Jan 2013 12:17 |
I think we have to learn not to mind when others win Paula, and I'd say most children go through a phase of not liking to lose, some suss it out sooner than others. Although my late Mother in Law hated to lose a game with her Grandchildren, and although she wouldn't cheat ( well I don't think she did) if the kids won, she'd have to say something like, "you cheated" or I'll beat you next time. With my children and Grandchildren, I let them win some games, but as they got older I'd let them lose fair and square. |
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AnninGlos | Report | 8 Jan 2013 12:12 |
He is little, I think you will find he will grow out of it. But you are right he needs to know it is not acceptable. I think they almost all go through that stage. I think ours changed when they were old enough to have it explained that there is no satisfaction in winning if you yourself know that you only won because you cheated. At least 3 of ours were really bad losers though, tears if they lost. |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 8 Jan 2013 12:09 |
Between us my OH and I have eight grandchildren. I have three ages from 13 to 21. OH has 5 ages from 2 – 6. They are all different and delightful in there own way, they mostly get along and play extremely well ( the smaller ones that is) Our four year old grandson however is cheating when they are playing any sort of game and stomps off if he is losing. I have noticed it for quite a while, but recently it is becoming more obvious, on Sunday we were playing with a new game, and I saw him sorting through to get the high scoring cards, so I said “you must not do that, that is not in the rules” he looked down at the table and said “these are MY rules”. So I said "No, thats cheating" he then just cleared the cards away. I have mentioned this to OHs son and I have heard him tell the little chap off, but I really feel bad that he will grow up thinking it is acceptable to cheat, or break the rules. |