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wouldnt that be Miss David?

My wedding ring isnt heavy Lynda it isnt expensive so I wear it all the time never take it off, my engagment is only removed when I have too. :-D

We are married, I am his wife and he is my husband. We committed ourselves to each other in marriage 40 years ago, because we wanted to & are proud to say that we want to spend the rest of our lives as a couple, sharing all. I am proud to talk about/introduce him as my husband & he always talks about / introduces me as his wife.

No Princess,

Mistress wife of master

Hey~~ this thread could go on for ever without really going off topic,
Hayley mentioned that she didn't like her name being abbreviated.
Our family (my maternal side) tend to abbreviate names as a sort of endearment ,not for laziness.
We are quite a few cousins, the one's closer to each other shorten their names when speaking to or about each other.
I didn't choose my name ,nor did my parents.. my sister did apparently...mostly only school teachers ,or people that don't know me well use or used it.
I think it also depends on the name ; My cousin Jean doesn't get shortened ;
My dau name only get's shortened by my son : It's a pretty name,difficult to shorten without it sounding odd or a nickname.....he gets away with it as it doesn't offend her.( No on else calls to her by it ,son says it to me when he refers to her )
Dau calls son by his full name as do the rest of the family ,tho he abbreviates it himself and so do his friends, they did so at a younger age, dau never did !

I know it more common these day to use Jez and Gaz, but my cousin Hazel who is 80 in Sept ( she's old enough to be my mother ) has always been called Haze.

If Lynda doesn't mind me asking on her thread ...?
Do you like your name being abbreviated ?

Sandie.

So how would I abbreviate mine then? :-S

I was about to as the same question as Annx

As one of 5 children, I was the only one not to be given a middle name.

The only name I was given is Anne, yet within the family setting, my mum called me by a pet name ..... she always referred to me as... FRANCES???
I have never known why, and she never it used outside the family home.
I asked her once and she said that as far as she was concerned, I looked more like a Frances than an Anne.
Yes! She was Irish L.O.L
Edit
Just remembered about my friend who is one of 3 sisters.
All of them were registered and baptised with the name Mary + another name.
1st and 3rd are known by their middle name but the only 2nd one is known as Mary.

My friend laughs that the naming thing caused chaos at School, as well as Doctors, Dentists ect!

I did say some don't for obvious reason's get shortened , Jean doesn't.

But I know people named Ann that are called Annie,by friends and family :-)

Also an ex work colleague called Ian very friendly to everyone...was the office messenger was known as E :-)

It always used to be said that one never took off one's wedding ring after it was put on your finger.

I think the whole saying ended with something like "or break your marriage asunder"

I still subscribe to that, even though I'm not religious.

My wedding ring has not been off my finger for longer than a few minutes only 3 times in the last 45 years ....................

........ when my fingers swelled during pregnancy, and the doctor suggested it might be a good idea

....... when I once got an allergic reaction to a new washing up liquid under my ring, and it took a few days to clear

.......... when I put on weight, and it had to go to the jeweller to be enlarged.


It doesn't feel heavy, I'm perfectly used to it.


I do take off my engagement ring ................... when I go to bed.

As Anne said people with more than one name and are called by their 2nd 3rd or however many they have it can cause a problem for them especially at hospitals.

Dad was D.E John, but known as Jack , Mum was Mary L.E but known as her middle name L (abbreviated to most ;-))

I found a 2nd cousin on GR by putting my mother's name up in my tree by her real known name not her full name.

I abbreviate my children's names when calling them them, Grandchildren's names are abbreviated, except the one who has the shortest name, and I add to it, no idea why. I think more people I know abbreviate names, I don't think it's laziness, but I have no idea why we do it :-)

When my daughter was small, I developed the habit of using just her initial when we were out in public and I needed to call her.

The initial often sounds like a short name ............... D = Dee, J = Jay, K = Kay, etc


It began because we had had some horrible child abductions in the province/country, and then we had a serial child killer here to add to it .................

.............. she knew that the only person she should respond to, let alone go to or with, when that version of her name was called was myself or OH.


Schools over here often have a special item of clothing to wear during the last year at high school (age 17/18) ...... her year picked a certain type of jacket, and the forename was to be on the sleeve.

She decided to use only her initial .................... otherwise anyone could see the name and call the girl.


Now .................. her husband calls her by that initial, and has done almost since the time he met her in 1997.

That's a good idea Sylvia to have a 'code name only the parents know ,especially when there were the problems of child abductions rife.

I used to call both of my children by two of their initials when they were youngsters ( sounded like a real name as you say) , when we were out shopping or hols even, but it never stuck into adulthood.

Back to names briefly ...as Kay has being quoted ...
My only remaining maternal aunt was / is called Kay by her late husband and his side of family , her real name is Welsh and her /our side of the family refer to her by ,it either in full or abbreviated ( and no it doesn't begin with a K as there is no K in the Welsh alphabet ) :-)

Sandie.x

In answer to the OP. I don't really mind being called partner, I see myself as a wife and partner. But usually my husband (usually referred to as my oH (other half) on here usually introduces me as 'my wife Ann'. But husband and wife is preferable.

Rings: I have just counted and I am wearing 7 at the moment. My wedding ring which was only off my finger for a week when it became too tight and I had it made larger, my eternity ring which I had for our ruby wedding. (I had a previous one but it snapped and couldn't be mended.), my replacement engagement ring as my original is so thin it looks as though it might break. My mother's wedding ring which I wear on my middle finger of my left hand. On my right hand a dress ring bought second hand because I liked it on a wedding anniversary, a love knot ring bought for me in Guernset at Guernsey gold in the 80s and a saphire ring given to me by my husband on our saphire wedding anniversary. I have just come back from a weekend away, I don't always wear them all the time, except for my wedding ring, my mum's ring and the love knot ring, all fairly plain. Tend not to take them on holiday but lock them in the safe.

Names, well like the other two mine can't be shortened. Husband used to sometimes call me Angie for some reason, hasn't for ages now. Actually thinking about it he rarely uses my name unless introducing me, calls me dear, love, darling, Nana (when talking to Grandchildren) and Mum (when talking to children). Sometimes used to get called Annie at work.
All four of the Grandsons names are shortened, granddaughters sometimes. I never shorten son's name but his friends do, and I often shorten daughter's name. :-)