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after 12yrs of being taken for granted and used. my so called partner has gone back to his place yet again. 4th and last time he will be doing it, have helped him through all his health problems with c.o.p.d. so i am now going to have me time to do what i want, when i want. at last i feel free as it was allways about him, never me. am sure others have gone through this, its taken me a long time to wake up. do others think i am doing the right thing in getting on with my life?

Only You can know if you are doing the right thing but good luck with starting a new life if the old one was indeed an unhappy one.

susan i do think i am doing the right thing. i have shared my home, time and effort and get no thanks. if i say the wrong thing he packs his bags. will have to leave him to get on with his own life. i have never walked away from him, allways been there for him. hes lost the best friend he will ever have.

Hi Jean,

It's sad when you have reached the end of your patience which you seem to have done.
If you are unhappy then the question you have to ask yourself is, do I want to go on not enjoying life or will I be brave and start again with whatever that brings?

If he has packed his bags a number of time before you surely wont know if he'll continue doing that.

Only you can know if it's the right decision and it does take courage to change your life radically.

So if you do go it alone I wish you every happiness.

Sue x

Jean, I don't blame you in the slightest and just want to wish you the best of luck in going forward on your own. It's worked out good timing for you as we will be coming up to longer, brighter days soon and you will be able to get out and make new friends, spend time in old ones and do exactly what you want when you want with no one to hold you back or tie you to mealtimes etc

Things can only get better, leave him to sort himself - he will realise what he has lost (thrown away) but don't take him back out of pity or guilt.

Lizx

Jean <3 The next few months won't be easy, because you have to find out who YOU are <3

Be gentle with yourself! And spoil yourself a little bit too <3

Don't let anyone give you a guilt trip.

Make sure you change the locks! ;-) <3

good luck Jean xx :-D

I IMAGINE AT TIMES HARD BUT AT THE MOST GREAT,
GOOD LUCK

Go and learn something,anything

. If you don't have any qualifications,go and get some,even if it is one GCSE.

It will make you the woman with the qualification instead of the woman who looks after him and his problems.

Jean I wish you all the best in your future, you will have hard times but if you know yourself you are doing the right thing then onwards and upwards.....

You may feel dazed and unhappy at the moment but please know your future will be brighter as you walk forwards into a new life....trust me <3

I wish you every happiness in your future life Jean,
I made a similar decision about 2 years ago, the difference was he didn't pack his things, I told him to go. The first couple of months were not easy but I have never regretted it.
I am sure once you get the first few weeks over you will find life is much better, you will be free to do the things you like to do.
Enjoy your life from now on.
Love to you. Jean xx :-) :-) :-)

I did it once, twenty-five years ago and have been toying with the idea for some time again.

Now you've got me thinking!

Good Luck Jean. You have taken the hardest step, now just go forward and enjoy your life <3

thanks everyone for your encouraging comments. no going back now, the only way is forward from now on. spring is on its ways so i will get out and about. have got over the first week...things can only get better x

(((HUG))) for you, keep your nerve and enjoy the remainder of your life :-D

Sue x

Go for it Jean and let the Selfish B cope on his own.Enjoy the rest of your life.**M**.

I know someone who says.......I wish my Oh would leave, I would pack his bags for him, but she wishes to remain anonymous and joins in with wishes for a brighter future :-D

He can't think that much of you if he's done it FOUR TIMES. He thinks he has you on a bit of string, and just needs to wind you back in, when he feels like it. CUT THE STRING !!! and go fot it. GOOD LUCK

Good Luck to you. It will be hard at first but look to a better future for yourself.Get out there and enjoy. <3 <3

Atta girl. He has used you for long enough. Your new life begins now - enjoy :-D <3