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ButtercupFields Report 22 Mar 2013 16:42

As I don't know the full story or the people involved, I feel I cannot sit in judgement. I have a friend who is very partial to a drink, and when her first grandchild was born, her daughter told my friend, in no uncertain terms, that if she wanted to be part of the child's life, she was not allowed to drink whilst baby sitting. My friend agreed to this, and now baby sits very happily, about three days a week, no booze. BUT on her free days she drinks as much as she likes!

Now, personally, I would be offended if my son had laid down the law like this, but I have always waited until my grandchildren were asleep before I opened the wine.


GinN Report 22 Mar 2013 16:27

I just feel that it's their business. If the child showed signs of being neglected, or seemed to be in any danger, then one would have a duty to inform the authorities. Otherwise, disapprove in private.


AnninGlos Report 22 Mar 2013 16:15

Which is why I said the son should look at how it would affect the child, he knows about it, it is his child, we can only think that he knows it is no risk to his child.


maggiewinchester Report 22 Mar 2013 16:05

I fail to see how the grandmother smoking one joint will affect the welfare of the child.
Like wise, a grandmother drinking a glass of wine whilst babysitting is hardly a reason to contact Social Services.

As Ann in Glos has admitted, she doesn't know how a joint would affect the grandmother's ability to look after the baby - neither do I - like any drug, prescription or otherwise, it affects people differently.
I'm sure some of you are permanently on strong painkillers and manage life adequately. I can't take them at all, without very adverse effects, and certainly wouldn't babysit if I HAD to take them.
Because of the effect on me, should I castigate anyone else who takes them and babysits?

Does no-one think this grandmother knows her limits?


Paula+ Report 22 Mar 2013 14:43

I understand that this drug is used by some people for medicinal reasons and I would not blame them for using it to relieve their pain. Reading the OP this did not seem to be the case. I do not know the woman or her personal circumstances, maybe she herself needs help. However my concern first and foremost would be for the welfare of the child, and I make no apology for that.


AnninGlos Report 22 Mar 2013 14:42

No Carol it didn't make you a bad person because you were desperate, and no it didn't make your son a bad person because he was desperate to help you.

As I don't know the woman and don't know the effect that the joint would have had on her ability to look after the child I can't judge and leave it to Scozz. I don't know what the law is re cannabis in Australia but I think the woman's son should think twice about supplying his mother, at least think about how she would be affected in looking after his child.


JoyBoroAngel Report 22 Mar 2013 14:31

if a child of mine offered me or anybody else drugs in any form
i would be so ashamed

and i would slap their faces :-(

♥†۩ Carol   Paine ۩†♥

♥†۩ Carol Paine ۩†♥ Report 22 Mar 2013 13:14

Some years ago I was going through a real hard patch, sinking back into the depression that hit after my Grandson died. Having stayed strong for my family coping with all that life was throwing at us & keeping down a full time job for six months, I broke down & accepted antidepressants. After a year or so on them I fought to get weaned off of the mind numbing antidepressants & vowed never to go down that road again.
One night my son came to sit beside me as I was sobbing in the garden because I felt I could not cope any more. We talked for a long time, then he went off up the road, came back & handed me a roll up. I smoked it, relaxed & slept through the night for the first time in months; this became a regular thing for a while, just one in the evening when I was struggling.
Did this make me a bad person?
Did this make my son a bad person for supplying them?


LollyWithSprinklez Report 22 Mar 2013 12:40

I do not know this woman, her son or her circumstances so do not want to make any judgement of her, Scozz does and is entitled to her own opinions.

I do however know of users well into their 80s who use a joint to alleviate med problems that don't respond to other treatments .... mostly athritis and joint problems (no pun intended) and an even older man who has been a user since his army days a non smoker non drinker his one "vice" being a daily puff, he has two grown children and g grandchildren none of whom appear to have been adversely affected.

I would not approve of blatant smoking of anything in front of young children...although hands up I am no saint and have done so in the past.


maggiewinchester Report 22 Mar 2013 12:12

'......she decided to smoke a joint....'

Maybe she is a regular user, but a joint is hardly getting stoned, likewise, a regular drinker may have a glass of wine, doesn't mean they're legless, or in fact, regularly drunk!!


Paula+ Report 22 Mar 2013 11:50

Maggie reading Scozz's comments it does not sound like a one off smoke, and as her son is supplying her, it does sound more serious in my opinion.


maggiewinchester Report 22 Mar 2013 11:36

I presume then, that if anyone regularly had a couple of glasses of wine, they shouldn't when baby sitting.
if they drink coffee, they should stop when babysitting.
If they were on Prozac, they should stop taking it when baby sitting,

In fact, no-one on any slightly mind-altering substance (and I've had antibiotics with quite alarmig side effects) should not be in charge of a child.

One joint does not a drug crazed idiot make.
Maybe this woman is out of her face most of the time, maybe her personality makes it appear so, but to judge someone so tyranically on a passing comment seems a bit harsh.

~~ Jules in Wiltshire~~

~~ Jules in Wiltshire~~ Report 22 Mar 2013 11:31

Omg thats shocking, she should know better at her age...If she cant cope then she shouldn't look after the little boy :-0 :-0

Jules x


Phyll Report 22 Mar 2013 11:18

I agree with Paula - she should be reported


JoyBoroAngel Report 22 Mar 2013 10:52

Paula i have to agree sadly :-(


Paula+ Report 22 Mar 2013 10:50

Poor little boy, what the grandmother is doing is illegal, and child abuse, she should be reported to Social Services.


LadyScozz Report 22 Mar 2013 10:35

To be honest....... it's hard to tell the difference when this woman is or isn't stoned!

I don't think her son gives a toss......

What hope for the grandson?


Barbra Report 22 Mar 2013 10:32

That is Awfull hope the child doesnt come to any harm .he deserves better from gran . :-|


JoyBoroAngel Report 22 Mar 2013 10:27

i am shocked poor child has no chance :-( :-(


Linda Report 22 Mar 2013 10:21

Wonder if the daughter/son knows and if so they are to blame for leaving grandson with her :-0 :-0