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I have just called into the local supermarket to pick up a few things, and all the way round I could hear a child screaming. The noise was awful and the child seemed to be out of control. When I got to the checkout the Mother and little girl where in the next queue. Despite several people trying to pacify her, the child continued to scream and shout and cry, by this time the Mother was getting extremely stressed, the little girl threw herself on the floor, the Mother was trying to grab hold of her. so "mithered" As I paid for my shopping and was walking out with the supermarket , I could still hear the child screaming. I don't know what was wrong, but I felt so sorry for the Mother. I have never personally experienced this sort of behaviour, just how does one deal with it?

I never experienced it either thank goodness - my son would not have dared carry on like that :-D

the thinking today seems to be to let them carry on until they run out of steam - I recall when my sister's young granddaughter leaned over in the bath and bit her little brother's testicles!!!! now I would have given her a sharp slap for that but not my sister and her daughter - they hugged the little madam :-S :-S

WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS 2 SHE THREWATEMPERTANTRUM IN WOOLWORTHS
WHEN IT WAS THE OLD TYPE OFSHOP WITH COUNTERS
AND ASSISTANT IN THE MIDDLE,
I HAD HAD ENOUGH .I SCREAMED AS LOUD ASHERAND WALKED AWAY ROUND THE COUNTER AND WATCHED HER,AT FIRST SHE THOUGHT IT FUN TEN REALISEDI WASNT THERE AND STARTEDTO WINGE SO I WALKED TO WHERE SHE COULD SEE ME BUT STILL IGNORING HER SHE RUN UP TO ME HELD MY HAND AND SMILED
(THE LITTLE BUGGER)

Is,nt that the reason they invented "Gaffer Tape"? :-D :-D :-D :-D

Our step grandson threw an almighty strop in Asda cos he was told he couldnt have the Dr Who magazine that was around the £2 price. . he screamed and shouted and came out with some foul language . He has learning difficulties with autistic tendencies and unfortunately from somewhere has just found not nice language..

It was embarrassing more for the language than anything . I frog marched him out of Asda with him letting rip all the time . he is quite a big built boy but I managed to get him outside. I stood him against a wall and told hiim he was staying there till he calmed down . rather like supernanny naughty corner. He was really out of control of himself butwith persistence and no nonsense he did eventually calm down.

He was then taken back to the car with him asking all the time for the magazine but being told NO.

I do feel for anyone when a child acts up in that way.

If it had ever happened to me I think I would have tried to ignore the behaviour ..............................not saying I could have.

Mum always said I was a terror, her way of dealing with it was to pick me up and pinch me saying there now you've got something to cry for :-0

@ Shirley. I have a special needs granddaughter, so this thought did cross my mind. However seeing the Mothers reaction it did not seem to be the case.

you always have to consider the child may have special needs - in the supermarket once there was a litlle girl, about six or seven, shoving her little brother round in a pushchair and causing mayhem - knocking things off displays and crashing into trolleys - parents seemed oblivious, so when she went head on with my trolley and refused t move with a defiant look on her face, I just leaned over and and said "you really are a horrible little girl aren't you" - response from her were horrendous screams for Mummy - I just carried on with my shopping, but things went rather quiet after that

I make no apolgies for what I said - the child needed telling

When I was in Oz last year I was taken to the Blue mountains and my then 8 year old granddaughter threw a terrible tantrum because she wanted to go on a funicular ride down the side of a steep mountain.
There was a huge queue and they had been on it before and I didn't want to go...well she carried on and I had to walk away it was so embarrassing .
What did her mum do....took her off and bought her a huge ice cream !!!
Know what I would have done.....no wonder she is now having counselling....was an IVF baby and thoroughly spoiled.

My daughter had a srtop when she was 2 in Gamleys toy shop. I took her outside, pulled her pants down in front of everyone and tapped her bottom just enough to make her undertstand enough was enough.. She never did it again.

Was in TK Maxx last year and a child took one whopper of a tantrum.
This little boy was with his "super cool" daddy.
Daddy totally ignored the child and all the other onlookers/shoppers too
Daddy calmly paid for his purchases and left the shop.
Screamer had no option but to follow daddy, and all the time still screaming his little lungs out.

I was super- impressed (and OH was a bit envious) of that Daddy!

My autistic son could throw a right old trantrum when he was little. If people stared or passed comment, they got stared back and told about him. usually put them off.

You had to wait until his trantrum ran its course, you couldn't actually stop him, he got so wound up.

Andy

Andrew . Bless em you are so right when they want to blow there's no way of reigning em in .

Our daughter tries to treat him as his age of 13 but knows he isnt mentally 13.Her problem is she has to deal with his mum too who blows hot and cold on how he should be dealt with . She cant deal with his tantrums but will listen to him saying things that are so untrue cos bless him he is easily swayed from one min to the next .

Our daughter will send him to his room to cool off when he does one!!. she ignores all the throwing around of his things he does in his anger.

She will though give him sanctions for his bad behavior ; ie no PC no I pad , no game boy, When he realizes he has lost them for a time it does sometimes work , not always cos sometimes he just cant control himself .

Shirley & Andrew I understand the difficulties with special needs children as I have a granddaughter with mild learning difficulties, and she has had her moments when she was younger. The way the Mother spoke to the little girl made me think she was gaving a tantrum.

Distraction,Distraction,,

Turn the attention from the child, no child likes not to be at the centre of their drama.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zM8ym0FqM_k

You've probably seen this

:-D

Scozz I bet the father will not make the same mistake twice ;-)

Scozz :-D :-D :-D