General Chat

He might get one from the builders.

Morning Sharron <3 wondering if Fred will get a Valentine Card today with a pineapple on it :-D

Bob, he is the legal occupant, it's his tenancy.

And the alternative to being patient is....? The " poor Daddy" frame of mind would achieve nothing at all. The "poor Sharron" way of thinking creeps in sometimes but that doesn't do a lot for anybody either.

I get my washing done. What more could I want in life?

Sharron, you have to write the book, lol, it would make a wonderful tv drama. So glad that despite the wet feet Fred was able to eat his dinner and still have room for more later on. I do wonder how you manage to show such patience tho, especially with an electricity bill of £700 !!

Lizxx

Be careful Sharron, the cuckoo pushes the legal occupants out of the nest!!

Bob

And he has slid out of his wheelchair again. Where will it end I ask myself!

He had to go to the café for his roast, even if the water was up to the pavement at the top of the road.

Missed the edge of the pavement and slid forward with his feet in the water.

His poor mate had o hold him up until some builders came by and helped to slide him back in his chair. They came back home so I went and bought the roast as a takeaway.

Can that man eat!? He put an enormous roast away and then, about three hours later, he had a big bowl of vegetable soup and some rice pudding.

It is like having a cuckoo!

He ought to be smiling!

I have just had the electricity bill and know it would not have been anywhere near the £700 mark had he not been tumble drying every day but that is what I choose to put the Attendance Allowance toward I suppose.

I could put him to bed, pay somebody to look in on him a couple of times and go off out indulging myself.

Now there's a thought!

Bless him, he likes his routine and woe betide anyone who tries to stop him lol

It must be incredibly stressful for you Sharron, keeping him safe but having to let him do daft things, so I don't blame you for snaffling the wine gums,

Tell him we worry about him too

Lizxx

:-D :-D :-D :-D.

glad his pills made him lots better.


if he had no other outlet than his little trips and his gripes he would fade away.......keep him motivated its what makes him tick and have tomorrows to get up for. ;-) :-D

Oh no,he would just sit in his wheelchair with a face like a smacked bum if I couldn't provide enough washing and washing up to keep him occupied.

He would be forever going over his itinerary, checking that I had booked this and put in the prescription for that.

You ever been nagged by somebody who gets their mucking firds wuddled?

He is not coughing at all now and was sitting in bed filling his gob with wine gums when I came upstairs. Smiling even.

Hm,he might not be smiling when he looks in his other box of wine gums. Well, it has been a bit stressful lately.

You cant enforce him to do anything he doesnt wish to do,,,,,,,the only other is encourage him to stay home at times when it will cause you to be concerned about his welfare if you feel his health would suffter,If he still choses his own way then let him be his own boss and be happy in what hes up to.

If he stayed home it could mean you playing snakes and ladders or poker with him......

;-) :-D :-D :-D :-D.

Fred obviously knows what he wants. His speech may be difficult, but his brain's obviously active.
Think about it this way - if he hadn't had a stroke, and was living on his own, would he have gone out?
What you are doing is providing him with freedom, the right to have a say in (most) things he does, self respect and dignity (even if this does lead to him cavorting with pineapple toting ladies) :-D

He may be a bit more cavalier in what he does than he used to be, but he's had quite a few years with you since he was sent home to waste away, he's grasping life with both hands and obviously enjoying it.

He's also grown man, and you're letting him behave like one!!! :-D :-D
Well done! xxx

YOU and his mate are doing a great job many would let him just sit or lay about all day just keep up the GOOD work its giving him a bit of inderpendace which he needs. xx :-D :-D :-D

Caring for our loved ones young or old is all about recognising that sometimes we have let them go off and do their own thing . You are doing a great job as Fred would probably be the first to say.

But, am I being irresponsible by not keeping him in when he could be making himself ill by going out?

You see, I don't feel that my job is to make decisions that he can make for himself. Is that part of caring?

No you are not wrong Sharron, let Fred live his life as he wants to live it, at his age and after what he has overcome he has earned that, you and his mate are doing a marvellous job - keep up the good work <3

He has had his sausage sandwich and now he is home and having his afternoon rest on the bed.

One of the neighbours was saying that she did not think he should have gone out today and I really can't disagree with her.

Maybe I am carrying out my role of carer in the wrong manner but I consider the decision to be his. I am not in charge of him, he is a grown up and I can't stop him doing whatever he decides he wants to do.

Am I wrong? What do you think?

Hope that he checked that the sausage sandwich shop is open before braving the storm!

Has he fitted a sail to the wheel chair, could get there in record time with the wind at his back!! :-D

MUST BE GOOD SAUSAGES.