General Chat

Liz,

Its a big stage in his life!!

many of us that were "done" as babies don't have the before or after memory.......

but he will find( no doubt) as sensitive areas are........

it will be mega sensitive after it is all healed but that will wear off, after a while....

I think I will move to your health authority - you are very lucky to have non-emergency ops on a Saturday.
He will just need a little tlc and he will be fine.

Liz hope all goes well <3

Liz, hope the op went well for K and that he is now home. Will be thinking of you both in the coming week.

As the others have said, it will be a great idea to find a good coffee shop to go to next week.lol!!

Love, Sallie.xx

Liz, my deepest sympathy to you.

Oh, and sympathy to K too of course.

<3 <3 <3

LIz - do not be surprised if anything important in that area turns jet black and I mean jet black! :-D :-D

Hope all went well.

Gwynne

I hope he is more sympathetic when you are in pain, poor man. :-(

Hope all has gone well Liz and bits are in good order.

;-).... :-D

Dear Purple

Hello

Hope your OH is okay now.


Don't forget to take care of yourself too.
Best wishes
Love Elizabeth,
xx

Hi all, well I picked up the patient who was in fine form and even managed to get out of the car to open the petrol cap which sticks and causes me difficulty when I need to fill up the tank.

He has been happy all evening, saying he is amazed how quickly the time went from when they gave him the anaesthetic to when he came round but he had an epidural as well as general a. and a further top up after the op so at the mo is more or less numb. Just hope when that wears off the prescribed painkillers are enough as he has a low pain threshold. He is looking very odd in his navy blue stockings with one toe peeping out on each foot!

Ann, he took the pics on his camera, not sure if he will upload them to the computer lol

Kitty, I have been treating it all lightheartedly as he was so scared of the op, now he is thinking it was all a doddle and knows it had to be done, so the sooner the better and now he has a week off work. I didn't want him to think I was worried ( well I wasn't really as I knew he would be in good hands), it was just the getting him there, I really thought he would back out and say he wouldn't bother having the op done.

I will say that he is not a good carer when I am poorly with my fm and cfs, he will leave me to rest but also to starve or die of thirst if I don't struggle down to get myself sustenance. He is very much out of sight, out of mind with everyone so I can't rely on him to look after me.

He has masses of literature that they printed out for him which is very interesting and he has a number to call if he is worried about anything. One paragraph mentions washing in plain water, not soapy stuff but the doc told him not to bother and to use whatever he normally uses so I will leave him to it with that. I did pass on the tip about the hairdryer, thanks.

Errol, our local hospital often has extra weekend clinics to catch up on backlog of ops like this which is a very good service. It brings the lists down. Despite the fact that our old hospital closed down which was in the city centre, when the new hospital was built, it is a good hospital, just several miles out of the city now. It's actually called the Norfolk and Norwich University hospital as it's a teaching hospital too and is next door to our fantastic research park, including John Innes and Food Research etc. I believe they have just received more funding from the government for Medical Research which is a positive thing.

Anyway my friends, thanks for all the info, good wishes and humour - I did tell o.h. I had put this on the boards and he didn't seem perturbed. I think he is enjoying being the centre of attention, altho no one rang him to see how he got on or to wish him luck before hand. Funny old family, we have let them know he is home and ok.

Just hope the pain relief will be enough to keep him in good humour, he is planning to take things easy with me doing the necessary with meals, laundry etc etc so I am sure he will be happy to let me escape and leave him to catch up with the programmes he's recorded and not watched and recover at his leisure.

Lizx

I thought it strange that you can express endless compassion for members and their friends/family on here but show no concern for your OH's pain and concerns.

It is hard work caring for our partners when they are poorly or in pain, but that's all part of a good relationship.

i have twice nursed my husband through recovery from major surgery, once life-threatening, and a long recovery from 4 broken ribs after a fall at work..........he has always helped out when I have been poorly too, I am a worse wimp than he could ever be!

Sorry I misread the humour :-D

Kitty, your second sentence spoke volumes!

I am spitting feathers at the mo. Due to my sleep pattern and circumstances, I had to manage yesterday on little sleep but with o.h. driving himself to hospital to keep his mind off things and save me one journey driving, I was able to drive the rest of the journeys safely. I left him to sleep a long time on his own during the night as I didn't want to disturb him or maybe accidentally crowd him while the anaesthic and epidural wore off and he slept through till 9am by which time I was asleep. He always manages to disturb me when he does get up, but I drifted off again and then was woken about 10am by him sayng he was a bit worried as there was a lot of blood on the gauze and what should he do? I suggested he rang the help number given and he was advised to go back to the hospital to be seen again. He knew I wasn't up to driving and said he would go in a taxi and let me know what happened, I would then get up and go to fetch him. Off he went, having had little to eat despite his diabetes (he had eaten well the evening before) and I dozed off again with the phone next to me. At around midday I woke to read a message on my mobile saying all ok and he would make his own way home. I tried to ring him back but he didn't reply so I got up and hoped he would call back.

Well he did, eventually (he is useless with his mobile phone) and said the dr thought he had moved about too much in the night, all looked ok and a new thicker gauze was 'fitted' I asked where he was as he should have been home by now and I was concerned. His reply, Oh I got the taxi driver to take me to see my Dad (his son who we visited last weekend was in Norwich and had planned to visit his Grandad on the way back from spending time with friends) O.h. had hoped he might see them ( yeah, that would have been a good idea, boisterous granddaughter headbutting him) but they had been and gone earlier than planned. So o.h. stayed at his Dad's sitting out in the sun, having a beer and a snack and then his sister called round who lives nearer to us, and would bring him home. I was so annoyed I went back to bed as I am exhausted and when I got up about 3pm, he was no where to be seen but the back door and gate were unlocked.

He sauntered in a little later, having been to the local shop to top up his phone. Not sure what other escapades he had planned but he was annoyed I was up and worried. He then announced he was going to walk over to the local park where there was a football tournament on, his son had played for the local team when younger and o.h. thought he might see some of the people he knew.

So, what happened to resting and taking it easy, and needing someone with him for 24 hrs?

He will be back in a while, tired out and will then sit in the chair and fall asleep till I tell him dinner is ready! No doubt he will have another cider at the park if there is any available despite being on painkillers and his usual diabetes and blood pressure meds.

So that's why I was and am a little sceptical and unsympathetic Kitty, when he is feeling rough later on, I will bear the brunt. I can't see that wandering about in this heat (yes it's a lovely day) will do him much good, but who am I to say anything, just the muggins who will get it in the neck when the pain starts.

Why are there no coffee shops nearby that are open on a Sunday lol?


Lizxx

Oh dear....................not a happy home then :-(

Maybe you could stay with a relative or friend for a few days until he's back to work, :-D :-D

Should have gone with your head Liz and not gone back for him lol Glad he is ok though. He might be tired tonight after a busy day and a few drinks xx

Liz sorry I didn´t see this yesterday and commiserated with you ..mind I might have laughed also. I am glad to hear he came out of the op okay, you need to take it easy.
And Liz there is a coffee shop near by along with a hot tub ..you just have to get on a plane. :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D

Look after yourself as well Liz.

A (male) friend sent us an email recently about which is more painful, childbirth or a kick in the... er....... male dangly bits.

He said it had to be the male bits.

Because.........

A few years after having the first child, a woman is likely to say "wouldn't it be nice to have another baby".........

but a man will NEVER say "wouldn't it be nice to be kicked in the whatsits again"

:-(

Liz, hopefully your OH recovers well & soon, and you won't be tempted to kick him. :-D

Scozz, he came near to being kicked in the dangly bits last evening. He wandered back in from his travels saying Oh I am kn/cream crackered and sat down. I was busy sorting out laundry from the linen line and getting dinner prepared. After a little while he said that he thought he might have to go back to the hospital again as he was bleeding from the wound. Hmm, hadn't we had that conversation earlier in the day? I just said Well you can call a cab and when you get there explain that you have been strolling about all afternoon and such instead of resting. That shut him up. He then told me the consultant said most people sat around in their dressing gowns for a couple of days letting the air get to the wound! Not sure I could face that when eating dinner lol He did admit he had probably done too much and then he started asking if we had any more bandages as the one he had on had fallen off I searched high and low for a new sterile bandage but all we had were crepe ones for support purposes. Not sure where he has put the good ones, but suffice to say, he has always kept a first aid kit of sorts in the bottom of the wardrobe. I did mention on several occasions that as the kitchen or garden were where most mishaps take place maybe it wasn't a good idea and would be better kept in the kitchen to save blood being dripped through the house on route to the first aid box. Anyway, couldn't find anything suitable and I didn't plan to travel round trying to find an open chemist shop.

I went to ask the neighbour if they had any, they couldn't find anything suitable as their grandson loves playing doctors so had used theirs up (they have written themselves a reminder to replenish their first aid box)

Then I remembered we had a small first aid kit in the car and lo and behold, a bandage. O.h. duly ministered to himself and the evening continued until it was time for him to poodle up to bed. He stood up and the bandage fell off!

Honestly this whole episode has been like a comedy film.

Uzzi, I nearly started packing my bags....... watch this space!


Roll on next Monday when he goes back to work I hope!


Lizx

If he knew he'd need lots of bandages, why didn't he stock up before being snipped?

Because he wants you to run around after him? :-|

If he keeps leaking, wrap the leaky bit in cling-film & keep it in place with an elastic band.

:-D

Has he bought an album for the photographs yet?

I just had a thought........... I was given a jar with gallstones in it....... I know people who came home with pickled appendix, tonsils etc...... please don't tell me your OH came home with a pickled........ ;-)

Scozz, he is such a dope! When there was the first mention of the op, he wasn't going to tell his works, but just take a day's holiday for the op and then go back to work!!!! Then I read the paperwork the hospital gave him and showed him that he would need to take at least a week off, and then at least a week without heavy manual labour! He works as an electrical technician fixing and maintaining computerised machines that make corrugated cardboard so has sometimes to squeeze into small spaces when machines are turned off to make repairs or adjustments. Not the sort of thing you want to be doing after a sensitive op.

He also seemed to think that the bandage would be only for the first day and then it would be ok, he is the sort of man you can't tell anything, he thinks he knows best and rebels against all authority and officialdom. Pigheaded isn't the word. I hadn't realised we had no bandages left, not sure when he used them up. Maybe they are somewhere else in his house that I haven't found yet!

I did ask him if they gave him the leftovers to keep, his face said it all! He is a very squeamish individual, normally I am not but I did draw the line at dressing the altered appendage!

oh well, wonder what today will bring.

I did have a bit of luck on Saturday and won £25 on the lottery, wish it had had a few more noughts on the end so I could have hired him a nurse and taken myself off for a prolonged holiday lol

Lizxx