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Depression / Anxiety

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tinkers Report 1 Dec 2013 09:17

Thank you so much ladies

Had a bad night last night tho think that was due to the cough tho on pills for that its not giveing me no peace

Doggy as been giving me lots of cuddles and is following me every were poor mite is worried but can't understand wats going on, hubby has been brilliant looking after me n staying strong

Yesterday had no tears until last night

Tho I am still very depressed I just feel so numb and empty

This passed fortnight I have gone threw every emotion going

Hubby is still giving me my pills as I don't trust myself with them

Thank u so much everyone u all have been brilliant I wouldn't hav been threw this without you

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 1 Dec 2013 07:40

Well done for calming yourself tinkers with the knitting and breathing, keep up the good work and don't forget to give your o.h. a big hug from us all for looking after you so well, and you can give the dog a cuddle too as sounds as tho she is supporting you as best she can.

Hope you got some sleep and will feel stronger to face the day. Well done for getting to the market as well, pharmacies have the Rescue Remedy, you can buy drops that you just put on your tongue or a spray. Either work well and are easy to use.

One step at a time love,


Good luck to our Maximary on her trip away, helping others as usual.


maxiMary Report 30 Nov 2013 23:51

Just want to say keep up the good work Tinkers!! I am heading away for 12 days in the morning so will trust you can continue to make progress and with several wise ladies on here I know you will be looked after. Carole, what you wrote is brilliant, and as others have said, had you not walked the walk you wouldn't be able to talk the talk. We know, don't we?
I hope all will be well , I won't have internet access so will catch you all when I get back.
Good night, and God bless.
Mary <3


tinkers Report 30 Nov 2013 20:42

I'm knitting a scarf I'm not very Gud at knitting as I've just learnt the basics thanx to u tube lol I've put it down all week but just started backj again hopin it'll keep me busy and relaxed


AnninGlos Report 30 Nov 2013 20:39

Keep going Michelle you are doing well, what are you knitting? Not that it matters, good that you are knitting.


tinkers Report 30 Nov 2013 19:59

Well today I've not been in tears

I've picked up the knitting needles today after not knitting for three days

But now it's night time I'm starting to panic and can't stop shaking

I have to control my breathing, I have to control my breathing

1 ,,,, 2 ,,,,3. 1 ,,,, 2 ,,,,,3

That feels better


tinkers Report 30 Nov 2013 16:19

Yes Ann it's been lovely and sunny here today tho a bit nippy

I woke up this morning feeling abit possative today no tears as yet and I managed to pop into gosport for there market

I am listening and flaking on board wat every one is saying u all are brilliant I have a older full husband and I'm taking one step at a time

This depression is such a horrible thing to have


Mersey Report 30 Nov 2013 16:19

Hi Tinkers its only me Sunbeam :-D :-D

We all from the silliness of GR want to give you a humungousous group hug and like I have said to you before on here and via pm you are not on your own , We are all here for you Sunbeam <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3


AnninGlos Report 30 Nov 2013 16:00

Michelle, do listen to Carole, she has been there and she really knows what she is talking about, as do others on here. I can support you and encourage you but I have no real knowledge of depression as others do.

Tell your OH he is a star to be so supportive of you, worth a few doctors etc. :-)

Has the sun shone there today?


tinkers Report 30 Nov 2013 15:21

Thank you soo much carol
Yes my husband is a wonderful man I no that if he wasn't here to take care of me I wouldn't be sat here posting this now

Even tho this is just as difficult for him he is trying to keep things together for my sake even the dog knows something is up as she is following me every were bless her I think he's worried bout me too

It ha helped me a lot talking on here your Gud have been soo amazing


Carole Report 30 Nov 2013 12:30

Try buying rescue remedy on line if it could be quicker than waiting for your next day at a chemist :-)


Carole Report 30 Nov 2013 12:25

Your husband sounds very kind and supportive to you. While you're not feeling well couldn't he make some of the phone calls to places to get you back up? I know its hard to make yourself do things when you feel so low. These things going on in your life are not making you low its a chemical imbalance in your brain. And when you get taking ALL your meds properly these things will not upset you so much. You will cope from a stronger position mentally. I have been on 40 mg citalopram for years. Give your 30mg a few months it may sound a long slog now, but with relaxation not taking on other peoples worries, and looking after yourself you will get better. Listen to the good advice you are given on here we have been through some terrible low times and have helped each other through. We might not be cured, be we are living more normal lives and coping day by day. You must help yourself. Take on what we tell you. Recovery isn't something that comes in a week or two, just by taking tablets. Its by making yourself push each day to do a little and feel safe doing that. Then try a little further. A walk outside your house will gradually become a day out away from home with minimal bother xx


Joeva Report 30 Nov 2013 11:31

For Tinkers and others in need of help and support :

Jo <3


tinkers Report 30 Nov 2013 10:40

Thank you so much liz

I have tried any remedies as yet but will look next time I'm in the supermarket chemist

Ill hav a look on the mind website this not sure what they do

Before when I've had gon into panic attack mode my hubby has always sat next to me telling me softly to control my breathing calm down etc and it dose work and eventually I do calm down then ill go n sat out in the garden

I surprised myself and did managed to get in the land of nod last night for a couple of hours only to b woken up for tea and toast by hubby bless him

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 30 Nov 2013 08:53

tinkers, try and take the good bits from the doctor like the meds and such and advice re slimming world and act on those. Also try the sleeping techniques Carol has told you about and make yourself eat little and often to help keep your strength up and fight any more infections colds etc.

Have you got a Wellness clinic in your area? I think you can self refer to them and they sometimes assess you over the phone and then offer more help. Keep pushing for more support even if you have to do it yourself. Maybe contact MIND to see if you can go on their Counselling lists, you have to pay but only what you can afford.

Show whoever is upsetting you that you can fight back. If you get a panic attack just try the Rescue Remedy, I have mentioned it before but you don't say if you have tried it. It really helps me when I am stressed.

Lots of luck, it's a new month tomorrow so let it be a new phase for you and do one small step at a time




tinkers Report 29 Nov 2013 23:49

Thank you so much carol I'm taking citalopram. 30 mg it was 20

I'm don't sleep much day or night but exusted all the time but do lie in bed sum times wiv a movie and snuggles wiv the doggie

To b honest goin to the doctor h knocked me for six and set me back abit

I think once my chesty cough startes getting better I may start feeling strong

I'm also annoyed with myself cos I no I've nothing nothing to deserve all this rubbish in my life


Carole Report 29 Nov 2013 23:38

Tinkers you say your Dr upped your tablets. What are you on and what dose? Are you able to sleep during the day? If you can't sleep at night a rest in the day with relaxation techniques often brings on sleep. The ABC one is a good one. I like the fantasy of a beautiful sandy bay, blue water gently lapping onto the soft sand. The sun shining onto me keeping me warm. You can add your own thoughts to this and make up a story you like. Or the squeeze and relax method. Lay on your bed or somewhere quiet on your own. Squeeze your toes for ten seconds and release, ten seconds. Squeeze your feet hold ten seconds, release ten seconds. Squeeze your lower leg muscles for ten this way slowly up to your neck head eyes and face. Squeezing the muscles and releasing. As you said you like music you can have some in the back ground. Day at a time slowly you'll recover. Don't try to rush a recovery as that adds stress. Let your mind rest. Panic attacks are horrible. I learnt a skill to stop them altogether. It is to go with it. Don't try distracting yourself from them. Know it can't and wont harm you. Feel the rush of it, let it work its way out of you. When its finished relax. Take deep breaths hold them and slowly let the air out. You're still alive! Practise this every time you have one and I promise you it will eventually stop. We (on here) also like Rescue Remedy a little bottle from Boots the Chemist or similar, keep it handy and use when you need a little back up. Use a couple of drops as many times as you need. Hope some of this helps xx


tinkers Report 29 Nov 2013 18:00

Thank u Ann if I don't feel any better by mid next next ill into it


AnnCardiff Report 29 Nov 2013 17:53

you can refer yourself to the local Mental Health Team - look it up and refer yourself - don't give up - I'm surprised he didn't refer you


tinkers Report 29 Nov 2013 17:51

Thanx ladies I s going to Sw n I lst a stone but haven't been past couple of weeks

I did ask for a mentle health referee but he refused n said I didn't need one

I've been offered no counciling just feel so alone