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Geoffrey Report 9 Sep 2013 13:39

I am trying to locate my missing cousin Wendy born in Stoke on Trent in 1969, daughter of Kathleen (nee Gerrard), half sister of Jacqueline, Joan & Jennifer. Could still be in the North Staffordshire area but this is not certain. Any information would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it Report 9 Sep 2013 15:35

You didn't give her surname . Could it be Adams ?

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patchem Report 9 Sep 2013 19:08

Welcome to the boards, Geoffrey.

Have you looked to see if she is in anyone's tree on here?
(Use the Search/Search All Member Trees, top right)

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it Report 10 Sep 2013 08:47

It's not an unusual name so its difficult to know which of many may be her on the marriages etc .

Have you tried looking for family members.


Reggie Report 10 Sep 2013 09:54

When - and where - did you last have contact?


Geoffrey Report 10 Sep 2013 12:59

Hi Reggie
I have never met my cousin. There was a divorce not long after Wendy was born. Her mother (already a widow with 2 daughters when she married my uncle) then remarried and had another child. My uncle never saw his daughter again and the family has no idea if she got married, emigrated or whatever. There is no record of her in any Genesreunited tree, not in any public member tree on Ancestry. I found a marriage but when I traced the family and rang to ask if Wendy was our Wendy was told no. I was just hoping somebody might know her. My uncle, her father, died in 2004 but the rest of the family would love to be reunited.
Many thanks
Best wishes


Reggie Report 10 Sep 2013 13:02

Is her mother alive?


patchem Report 10 Sep 2013 17:38

Could you say who your uncle is, so we can try and work out the marriages etc - or do you know of Kathleen's birth and first marriage?

Could Wendy have taken the name of her new father?

You have her as born 1933, Brown Edge, Staffs, in your tree, so presumably:

Kathleen Gerrard
Mother's Maiden Surname: Hulme
Date of Registration: Jan-Feb-Mar 1933
Registration District: Stoke on Trent
Inferred County: Staffordshire


Kenneth Report 10 Sep 2013 22:15

Have sent PM Genes member has Kathleen, and one of her daughter`s from
first marriage, and Wendy plus younger Adams in his Tree,
Wendy plus younger Adams in 2013 electoral roll living Stoke on Trent


patchem Report 10 Sep 2013 23:20

Perhaps you should write not telephone if you try and contact the one on the electoral roll, next time.


patchem Report 11 Sep 2013 07:15

Geoffrey has Kathleen born 1933, the other member has his Kathleen born 1936.

Geoffrey may have been told No when he phoned up, but that depends on the circumstances of any phone call undertaken.

Have you tried tracing Jacqueline, Joan or Jennifer?



jax Report 11 Sep 2013 13:51

Geoffrey has the Adams person who is living with Wendy in stoke on Trent 2012/13 in his tree?? Is she her daughter?

If you have never met how do you know who she is and you cannot have permission to add her to your tree


Geoffrey Report 13 Sep 2013 18:43

Hi Patchem
I shall be writing to two addresses I now have, thanks. I have 1933 as probable birth year for Wendy's mother, if reg in late 1932 it would still be recorded as 1933.
I have tried to trace the other three. Two quite possibly successfully with help from the Community.


Geoffrey Report 13 Sep 2013 18:43

Hi Jax
Re living with, the answer is yes, I believe so.I have never met her and she is in my tree anyway because she is a blood relative. I'm hoping to meet her. That's what my request for help was all about. And thank you and everybody else for the help you have offered.


jax Report 13 Sep 2013 18:53

Whether they are blood relatives or not, they should not be in your tree unless you have permission


Geoffrey Report 14 Sep 2013 20:37

Hi Jax
They shouldn't be in which tree? My online tree or my offline tree? Can I assume you only have an online tree? I have a ged file offline which includes folk who have asked not to be included in my online tree and those from whom I do not have permission. In any case, Wendy is part of my family tree regardless of whether or not I have actually created a record online or offline, isn't she? I do hope that helps?


jax Report 14 Sep 2013 20:57

If I or anyone searches the trees on Genes for those names we can see that you have those people in your tree

You can have who you like in your offline tree.....Genes say in their T&C's somewhere you need permission for any living person you have in your tree

Edit- Found it of the page "Help" .....Family tree.....Living Relatives

Living relatives

Members must have permission to add the names of any living relations to their tree.

If a member has added the names of living members of your family to their tree then we can ask them to remove them. Please send a full list of any living names and their years of birth that have been added without permission to the Genes Reunited support team.

It would also really help the support team if you could send in full details of the person who has added these names. When you see your own name or your family names in the search results, you can click on the link to send the tree owner a message. On the next page you'll see their membership number. Please include this name and number in your email to us.

We will then contact the member who added them on your behalf.

Just to add.....I only have a very small tree on here 58 people.....not one living person, it starts at my grandparents who are dead


FAIRTHORN Report 16 Sep 2013 03:40

The Wendy that Geoff has in his family tree, he has ALREADY been in contact with.

Geoffrey 10 Sep 2013 12:59
and rang to ask if Wendy was our Wendy was told no. <<<<<<

This was amended by GR as it stated her new surname



jax Report 16 Sep 2013 04:14

Maybe she does not want contact? If any of my cousins rang me I would probably say the same

Not everyone wants to meet up with long lost family members


Geoffrey Report 17 Sep 2013 18:24

Thank you all for your various comments which I will answer, as apprpriate, next week once I get home from a trip researching family history.