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Meeting My Birth Dad on 12th November :)

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Chris

Chris Report 30 Oct 2012 16:33

If any journalist wishes to run my story please contact me on 07432142015

My name is Chris, I am 26 years old. I started looking for my Birth Parents in January this year, I am here to share my story but first I thought I would share my Background Story

A baby named Christopher by his natural mother was born at 16.31 hours, on Friday 25th July 1986, at Rutherglen Maternity Hospital, Glasgow. He was a healthy baby boy with a birth weight of 3.4 kgs. He remained in the Special Care Nursery until 30 July 1986, when he was transferred to a Foster Home.
His natural mother, called Fiona, was 25 years of age when her son was born. He is her first child. She became known to the Social Work Department in the Hospital in March 1986. when she attended the Ante Natal Clinic. From the onset Fiona requested adoption for her expected baby.
The natural father, Brian was also aged 25 years. He and Fiona had been going together for approximately one year before the pregnancy was established and the relationship seemed to be stable. However, it came to an abrupt end when he realised Fiona's plan for he was totally opposed to adoption. He immediately sought legal advice in an attempt to gain custody of his son.
Fiona is the youngest of six children, having three sisters and two brothers. Fiona was a "late baby" so her siblings are several years her senior. She resides with her 72 year old father, her mother havind died in 1977. Her father was an officer in the army, so the family moved around a great deal. Indeed Fiona's early childhood was spent in Hong Kong. When he retired from the Army he took up a post as an Accountant on one of the Royal Estates. Fiona's mother never went out to work.
Her family is caring and supportive especially father and sister and this was very apparant throughout the protracted legal issue. Fiona was given every opportunity to consider all options open to her in the knowledge that her father would give all the support that he could, but she never waivered from her decisions not to see the baby and to place him for adoption as she felt that was best for him.
In appearance Fiona is an attractive young woman with dark brown wavy hair, grey/green eyes and fair skin. She is 5ft 3 tall and of slim build. She left school at 16, and went on to complete a course in Office Practice at a
Further Education Centre. She then took up employment as a Clerkess in a First Aid Suppliers and there she has remained. She seems to enjoy it and enjoys the company of her colleauges. Fiona leads a quiet life but ocassionaly goes to a Disco or has a drink with friends. She also enjoys listening to pop music, watching tv and reading modern romances. She assists her father with the household chores.
The natural father, Brian is 5ft 8inches and of stocky build. He has brown/auburn curly hair and blue eyes. He enjoys most sports but especially football, which he both plays and spectates. He is also involved with Karate. He occasionaly also goes to Discos and enjoys a social drink with friends.
He is a time served Plumber & Gas Fitter, but has been unemployed for approximately 5 years. In 1981, he was knocked down while crossing the road and suffered extensive head injuries and various other fractures which resulted in him being in hospital for several months. He feels however, that he is now fully recovered from that.
Brian has no siblings. He lives outwith the family home but is in regular contact with his parents who live close by. His father aged 54 years, is employed as a Slater and his mother aged 52 years, is a Cleaner. Both parents were in complete agreement with their sons plans to have custody of Christopher and were prepared to give him whatever support that was required to the extent of mother giving up her job if necessary.
Although Fiona had the support of her family she felt that adoption would be in the best interests of Christopher. She was not planning to marry and she did not feel that she could cope with the responsibilty of a child while being a single parent. She knew her father would assist but he was 71 years of age when Christopher was born and she feared her inability to cope if anything happened to her father.
Fiona opposed Brian having the care of Christopher, as she wanted her child to be reared by a couple who could give all the things that she could not provide. She also felt that Brian's mother would be the primary carer and although she had a good relationship with her while she was still seeing Brian, Fiona wanted her child to be reared by someone young who would have the energy to stimulate him. This was very closely linked to her own experience for her parents were in their forties when she was born. Fiona never waivered from her plan for adoption for her child and indeed as the months passed she seemed to become more determined.
Brian never waivered from his decision either so he was most disappointed when in September 1987, the Court decided that Christopher should be placed for adoption outwith the natural family. It had taken over 13 months from Christophers birth to work through the legal process and for such a decision to be made. Neither Brian nor his family, had access to Christopher.
Fiona was particularly pleased when she realised that her son was going to a couple who already had an adopted child. She had not wanted Christopher to grow up alone. Again this was linked to her own experience for in many ways she felt like an "only child" as her siblings were so much older. Fiona favoured Mr. Mrs Buchanan as prospective future adoptors and was very pleased when the Adoption Panell ratified the placement.
Christopher met his new parents on 2 December 1987, and after a 5 day intoductory period, because of his age, he was recieved into their care on 8 December 1987.
When an Adoption Order is made the Registrar General for Scotland makes an entry in Adoptive CHildrens Register, showing the adopters as the parents of the child. A full extract and abbreviated certificate of the entry in the Register can be obtained by the adopters from the General Register Office, New Register House, Edinburgh, on the payment of a fee.
When Christopher reaches the age of 17, he will be entitled to see his original entry in the Birth register and to purchase a certificate of that entry if he wishes. This means that when he is 17, he will be able to find out his original name as well as the name and address of his natural mother, when she registered the birth.
Should you or Christopher wish to discuss any matters in future years, please do not hesitate to make contact with a Local Authority who would be happy to discuss any matters of concern.