General Chat

Morning all

I've just spoken to a friend who was there yesterday and yes there was an announcement in the paper that everyone should wear colours, didn't see that and of course nobody thought to tell me, but oh what the heck, he had a good send off, that's the main thing, it'll teach me to read the papers more often, but I'm too busy watching the antics on here..lol

xx

Seems to be the respectful thought that mourners wore black, especially close family, but many people now have written in the announcement in the personal column of the local paper, please wear bright colours, or something like that. One I saw recently asked for everyone to wear something pink, and another to carry something pink, also to bring one flower each.
Now that more and more people, especially those who know they are dying, arrange their own funerals, this seems to be becoming the norm.

When my son went to a funeral with me of an old neighbour's husband he wasn't very old, about 8 or 9 I suppose but I made sure he wore a smart jacket and a tie, typical male, as soon as we got out of the place where the funeral was held, off came the tie and it went in his pocket lol

Lizx

I don't know if my friend in the hospice has made her own arrangements - not something you can ask but I know it is going to be a very difficult time for us all. I will get very upset if I see her Dad upset, as he lost his wife only a few years ago.

we all wore black for my mums funeral in june and the men wore black ties too but no arm bands like they used to

As long as you went thats the main thing it brings comfort my brotherinlaw passed away almost 2 years ago now to cancer his funeral was not the normal church afair but modern he was led to crem by bikers we laughed we cried but we all did laugh when the man doing the service said this is the song Steve requested as he goes through. It was smoke stack lightening typical of Steve.

But sorry I got of the subject it does not matter what you wear its the comfort you give by showing you cared xxx

I wear my black suit with a coloured blouse underneath.

I dont "feel" right not wearing black/dark clothes to a funeral, especially if they are family.

Jan x

barbara, my best suit is black, so I wear that to all formal occasions! I do put a pretty blouse underneath it though,!
Dont worry love, I'me sure the deceased wasnt!!
xx

Think your'e right Sue and it wasn't about me was it, it was about the poor man who has just died, so sad, think I'll put this to bed.

Thanks Sue
night night
Barbara xx

Ah well Barbara.........never mind. I doubt anyone thought any the worse of you for it and it may have made others think perhaps they ought to have made more of an effort!

Sue
x

Hello Sue

I think what made it worse was that nobody wore black except us and we only knew him as a friend and maybe I felt a bit over the top, but with warning I would have probably still worn a black skirt and maybe a coloured top, but if anyone gets it wrong it'll be me. lol

Funerals I've been to fairly recently have usually been mostly black but I noticed that people who are not family or very close friends tend to come in just darkish respectable clothes.

These days when I don't want to look as if I'm more in mourning than close family I sometimes wear navy blue.
The other option is a black skirt and jacket but a slightly coloured blouse.

It's tricky getting it just right but really who is going to worry too much about it? I think any family member would just be happy to see that the person they loved had lots of friends or acquaintances who cared enough to come.

Sue

Hi me

No dress code but it's always been traditional in my family to wear black, but it seems nowadays anything goes.
Went to a traditional wedding a long time ago in Cyprus and love the tradition of pinning money to the wedding dress, much better than the five casserole dishes I got, all in different patterns.lol
My niece and her family all arrived in Pathos for a holiday yesterday, if you see her say hello, what's the weather like, hot???
Barbara xx

Here in Cyprus the funeral is normally held within 24 hours ,(cos of the heat) so you turn up in whatever clothes you have been wearing-the fact that that you turned up at the Church,house or cemetary is much more important than your clothes .For heavens sake--is there a dress code now for funerals?

If any of B... family are reading this I apologise if this seems insensitive, he was a lovely man

Another thing too because he was divorced and lived with his partner, they had two do's, one in a local hotel and the other in a local pub, we went to the one in the hotel, nothing strange in that you may think but the ex wife and partner were both at the hotel.................

i'm not bothered what people wear when i go just as long as they say bye.

dont be embarrassed barbara, it doesnt matter hun xxx

I've got a feeling they were all told not to wear funerial clothes, but because we only knew him, and not the family we weren't aware of that and that's why I felt a bit embarrassed.

xx

i think it's better personally,

funerals are so often also a celebration of someones life

i wouldnt want my friends wearing black at my funeral, black seems to make it all doom and gloom, i just want my friends to come and say goodbye when it's my turn ..

I don't think I would feel right in bright colours
but thats me
Jenxx

think you're right Stella, traditions seem to be getting left in the past x

well i have been told for several funerals.."please dont wear black",

i think just quiet formal clothes are what are worn these days..