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Cosmosmallpiece

Cosmosmallpiece Report 1 Feb 2009 07:26

My friend in work was adopted and she has asked me to help her find her real parents please could anyone give me some adivse or tips.
Thank you

Sandra

Sandra Report 1 Feb 2009 08:40

Hi

Go over to the Tips board & in the search box put Adoption, it will bring up alot of threads with advice on how to go about it.
You will need your friends original birth certificate to start searching.

I have had 2 friends that were adopted & found both of their birth parents, but sadly they had aldready died, & one had alzeimhers so was unable to know her son.

It can be a rocky road, sad & happy endings & your friend must be prepared for this.

Cosmosmallpiece

Cosmosmallpiece Report 1 Feb 2009 14:56

Hi thank you i have told her it will be hard but she still wants to do it .Happy hunting

Fid

Fid Report 27 May 2009 00:03

I think your friends 'real parents' are the ones who brought her up , and loved and cared for her. Her birth parents have the genetic connection, which does not necessarily make them her 'real parents'.

JaneyCanuck

JaneyCanuck Report 27 May 2009 01:07

Hmm. I think it's up to any individual to call any of his/her parents whatever s/he chooses. Certainly not up to total strangers.

How would a total stranger know that an adopted child was loved and cared for, even? S/he might have been abused. Really, what an inappropriate comment.

Not to mention that the person who used the phrase is merely a third party just wanting to help a friend.

And people tell me I lecture ...

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°o.OOº°‘¨Claire in Wales¨‘°ºOO.o° Report 27 May 2009 02:20

Fid

It always worth reading a question before you add your tuppence. Cosmo was asking "how?" to not "should I?" so why felt the need to give your unwanted opion defies all logic