General Chat

Mo, so pleased to hear that the doctor has contacted the hospital about Lilly, and that he has told your son and daughter-in-law that if they don't hear anything from them by Thursday, they are to let him know. They must feel relieved that at last someone has taken noticed of them and is doing something about it.


Jean, pleased to hear that J has had the all clear and and that the hospital has sacked him.I am sure that you are both very relieved and happy.

Well done on being able to stand long enough to make the sandwiches too Jean.


Well I have had to type a few letters tonight, that I have wanted to do for a long while , but couldn't concentrate on long enough to do them. So pleased that I have achieved doing them at last.


Will speak to you all again tomorrow.


Take care and love to all our other friends on here,


Love, Sallie. xxx <3 <3 <3

Well done Sallie, on being more able to write your letters, the only time I tend to do anything remotely like writing letters, is when I type letters out on here. I firmly believe we are becoming a nation, that doesn't communicate as we used to. It used to be so lovely getting a letter via the postman, now all we get are bills and junk mail.
Even birthday cards are mostly given out by hand, that's why it means so much receiving cards from our friends on here.
I can't believe that our Lilly will be five on Saturday, it only seems like yesterday that she was born.
We had to laugh at what she said to her mummy yesterday, she had just finished her yoghurt, and was told to put the empty container in the bin, no responce, so she was told again, her answer was "For goodness sake mummy, I am recharging my batteries " oh how her parents wished that her batteries would slow down just a little bit, she is a proper live wire. LOL

Well that's it girls, I do hope you are all staying snug and warm, as it's been blessed cold here today.
Hugs to all, Mo xxx

Hi Mo, in the end I didn't write the letters by hand, I did them on here and printed them out. They have been posted too, I have been wanting to write to four people fora good while, but me handwriting is awful at times, because once I start to get anxious, my hands start to tremble.

I had a nice surprise last night, I received a phone call from Liz Purple, it was lovely to speak to her. She is having trouble with her laptop, so isn't able to come on GR very much. She is also having a few family problems with one and another, and isn't feeling very good herself. I hope that things will get better for her soon.

Yes, it doesn't seem that it is five years on Saturday since Lilly was born, time passes so quickly. As you said Mo I bet her mum and dad wished that her batteries would
sometimes slow down.....but you have to smile at what she said. lolol!! Hope that they will hear from the hospital tomorrow and that they will see her straight away.I will be thinking about her and her mum and dad. Love and hugs to both Lilly and Ava. xx <3 <3 <3

Mo it is cold here too, I have been feeling cold all day. I can't seem to get warm at all, , even though we have the heating on. It must be my old bones.lol!!!


Will speak to you tomorrow and hope that there is good news from the hospital.


Love, Sallie. xx <3 <3

Sallie, I am waiting to hear wether D.I.L has phoned re Lilly's appointment,at the moment she will be on the school run, so I shall have to wait a while till she gets home.
How nice of Liz to ring you, I bet you exchanged numbers at one of the meets.I dare say you were surprised to hear from her.
I know what it's like to be without a laptop, I was without mine for what seemed an age.
Lets hope her problems at home are soon sorted out for her.
Think of me tonight, when I have to go out in the cold, I have got darts, and this is our first game since before christmas, cor that's going to be a shock to the system, going from a nice warm house out into the cold. Thank goodness the venue is nice and warm when we get there.
Well wish me luck girls, take care, stay warm, hugs Mo xxx

Hi Mo, Good luck with your darts match tonight, hope that your team are clear winners.
Although I don't envy you having to go out in the cold.

It is very cold here too, I seem to be feeling the cold this year more than I have ever felt before. So today I have been out to buy some warm jumpers. My cousin,has told me that it is because I have lost so much weight that I am feeling it more. She said that the layers of fat I had was keeping me warm......but I told her that it was my age that makes me feel the cold more.


Mo,let's hope that they have heard from the hospital today, and that they will get an appointment straight away.

I'll look in to see if there is any news again tomorrow.

Take care.

Love, Sallie.xxx

Sallie, would you believe the hospital have refused to see Lilly. So the doctor has written to a place I believe is called calms, they deal with children who are having problems, so now they are having to wait yet again for an appointment to come through.
Cor I am spitting bullets, but then that's our local hospital for you, rubbish. The nursing staff are brilliant, but the powers that be leave a lot to be desired.
What colour jumpers did you buy ? Mind you, if you wear jeans or black trousers, any colour goes with them.
Going to peel some spuds for dinner now, bangers mash and beans for dinner tonight.
Speak to you later, Hugs Mo xxx

Definitely need warm sweaters here today Sallie, although no snow thank goodness. Got my hearing aid sorted this morning, very nice audiologist, very efficient. It was the little triangulare piece between the tube and the actual aid thatw as blocked so she changed it, actually she changed both of them. Nice to have two aids back again, I was feeling a bit lop sided :-D

Mo, I don't understand, how or why can a hospital refuse to see a child that is referred to them? did they give a reason? Or was the doctor sending her to the wrong place? In which case it would not be the fault of the hospital. anyway, maybe this 'calms' place is the correct place to see her. It sounds more behavioural than medical though with a name like that.

Ann, the hospital said there was nothing they could do for Lilly, and suggested the doctor should refer her to this other place.
When we saw D.I.L today, she said that the school, the child minder plus the doctor are all pushing for a referral.
She needs to see a child psychologist, to sort out why she behaves as she does.
The doctor initially thought she would see someone from the hospital but apparantly not.

sorry to hear that the hospital thinks they cannot help Lilly.

Maybe this calms place will turn out to be the right place.



Our friend died very peacefully at 5:15 am this morning, that's about 9 hours ago.

Interestingly, she had told someone months ago that she would like to die alone, and that is exactly what happened ......... it was the first night that no-one had stayed in the room.

Her express wishes were no service and no obituary.

I'm now waiting to see who will organise a Celebration of Life :-)

Mo, CAMHS stands for Children and Adolescent Mental Health Services run by the NHS. It seems to be the same sort of services that I am under, but of course for children and adolescents with mental health problems. They start with assessments, with psychologists, psychiatrists and psychiatric nurses, they are also there to not only look after the child, but to also support the parents too.

I am with Pathfinders, which looks like it works along the same lines as CAMHS, but of course for old biddys like myself. Let's hope that an appointment comes through very soon for Lilly, because like Pathfinders, they have all the mental health professionals there.

I know that different areas of the country vary and some are called different names, but they all specialise in mental health. Sending Lilly and your son and daughter-in-law
lots of good luck that Lilly gets all the right help she needs.Love and hugs to her and also to Ava. xx <3 <3

Sorry haven't replied before now, but have had a couple of not so good days.

Ann, I bought one jumper in M&S it's a pale blue, it was a Per Una one. Then I bought two everyday ones, one is beige and that other one is like a creamy pink, I bought two from Asda's for £8.50 less than the one from M&S .


Sylvia, so sorry to hear about the death of your friend, hope that she died peacefully.
It's always sad to lose a good friend of many years.
I send my condolences to both you and your OH. Thinking about you both.


Huia, thank you so much for the beautiful calendar of New Zealand, it arrived this morning. New Zealand looks a beautiful country, a place I would love to visit, but I don't think that will happen now.


Jean, hope that all is going well with both you and J, and that the weather there isn't too bad. We had a fine layer of snow earlier this evening, but it has disappeared now, so hope it stays away. lol!!!


Will pop in again tomorrow.

Take care everyone.



Love, Sallie.xxx <3 <3 <3

Morning everyone, we have quite a bit of snow,but its slowly going, Sallie , I have to go into hospital for a bowel procedure (sp) I had to go to our local hospital on Sat morning, the doctor examined me and said it would be better if I go into hospital overnight, trouble is its quite a drive to get there, but D said she will take me and bring me back, I hope its nothing sinister......I seem to be having all manner of tests and referals, still if anything needs to be done better now than later...

Sylvia, I too send my condolances to you both at the loss of your friend,

Ann hope all is well with you both, have you had some snow, I do prefer it on photographs though.....I cant believe how our littlies have grown up, both C and L will soon be 3, its a lovely age to be especially for us we have been in tucks laughing at some of the things C has been saying, such a mimic too....

Mo it sounds as though Lily will get the treatment she needs, so our prayers continue for that lovely little girl, it must be hard for mum and dad.
Breakfast is ready so see you all later

Love Jean xxx

Sylvia, thinking of you on the death ofyour friend, no more suffering for her now.

Jean, yes it doesn't seem possible that the littlies will be three tis year does it? They are great fun at this age, providing you only have them for a short while, otherwise they are exhausting.
Do you have a date for your hospital appointment? I hope they won't keep you waiting long for one and that, as you say it won't be anything sinister. Let us know when you are going so we can all send positive thoughts together.

Sallie, that is interesting information about the place that Mo's lilly will be going to. It sounds as if she will get the treatment/advice for her parents that she needs Mo.

Sallie, nice to get new jumpers. I do keep buying them but have to admit to a cupboard full.

Thank you so much Sallie, for enlightening me re the treatment that Lilly should be offered.
And trust me to have got the spelling wrong, and god willing they will give the help that all the family need.
Both Roly and myself need to be able to understand it as well, we love that little girl to bits, and is heart breaking to have to watch her change so quickly, and not be able to help her.

Sylvia, my condolences to you both, on your friends passing. Bless her she got what she needed, and that was the time to leave in her own way, on her own.
You can both enjoy celebrating her life, even though it will be a sorrowful time.

Jean my love, it sounds like they are going to be doing a Colonoscopy on you, just remember when I had mine done, it was uncomfortable when the film crew and all their equipment went in. God willing you will be fine darlink. Have they said when they intend to do the procedure. (sp) It's better to get it sorted my love, and know that we are all wishing you well, and sending you all our love.
I hope the snow clears up soon Jean , it's brrrr chilly willy when you think about it, let alone having to endure it.

Take care everyone, hugs Mo xxx

Thank you all for your kind words xxx

Yes, it is a relief that she is now at peace

Hi Jean, have they given you a rough idea when you have to go in for the procedure? I hope that they will do it soon so that it will be over and done with. Let us all hope and pray that it will be nothing serious. Sometimes. I think worrying about what is wrong makes the symptoms seem a lot worse.

I will be thinking about you, and hoping all will go well for you.


Mo, once the doctor has referred Lilly she will be put on a waiting list, and the doctor and any other people like teachers will keep pushing until she is seen by either a psychiatrist or psychologist, and hopefully she will get a psychiatric nurse that will watch her, and if Lilly will do something that her mum and dad are concerned about, the can get in touch with the nurse who might go to visit her and watch what she is doing , and then report it to whoever she is under.

In the past I have had friends with problems with their child, and received the help they needed. And things are much better now than they were 28 years ago.

I know that whatever age you are now, whether a child or adolescent, adult or older adult like myself, all the hospitals that only deal with medical problems.won't touch anyone young or old that has any mental disorder. We, and I include myself in this have to go to a psychiatric hospital or clinic.

Both Tom, the psychotherapist I was seeing and my own doctor referred me to Pathfinders. With me it wasn't only severe depression, I also had generalised anxiety disorder and then the psychiatrist diagnosed me with traits of borderline personality disorder.

I have been told that it will take up to three years to get me to the stage that I can control it to be able to live with it.

Don't know if it works that way with children, because they change as they grow, but be prepared for the treatment to go on for a long while.

I know that the psychiatrist is the one that will put a patient with any mental health problems on any medication.,because as you know he is a medical doctor specialises in mental health.

But Mo, with the right people and treatment, she will get a lot better.


Sorry to go on so much, but I am so concerned about Lilly, because myself and Jennie have been and is still going through the same sort of things.

Lots of love and hugs to Lilly and her little sister Ava. Also thinking of their mum and dad.


Love, Sallie xxx <3 <3 <3

Hello girls,

Just a quick look in to see how you all are. I hope that things are not too bad for you all today.

I am trying to do a jigsaw that was one of the presents that I had off Richard and Christie for Christmas. It is called Hidden Treasures, and the picture is of inside a bookshop, set in about the early 1950's. I love the picture and am going back and fore to it, trying to get it done, there are so many similar shades of books all over the picture, that I think that it will take until next Christmas for me to finish it.lol!!


Alun is going to see the cardiac surgeon tomorrow morning, we have to travel to his clinic at Glenfield Hospital in Leicester, and will have to leave very early as his appointment is at nine o clock, so we will meet all the rush hour traffic. Thank goodness he will have the operation at Nottingham City Hospital.

Then on Wednesday I have my second appointment with the psychologist,so will be g;ad when the next two days are over.

Je
Sylvia, have you heard anything about whether someone has arranged a Celebration of Life for your friend that has just died?

Also if you have heard anything about an appointment for the test you have to have?
Hope it all goes well for you.



Jean, also hope that you will receive an appointment very soon for the test you have to have. Hope it all goes well for you too.



Mo, I hope that an appointment will come through for Lilly very soon. Thinking of Lilly and her mum, dad and Ava and of course both you and Roly. From my own experience I know how bad it can affect. family life.


Ann, I have quite a lot of jumpers myself, some still with the tags on, but are now much too big for me. I tried a couple of the smaller sizes on yesterday, thinking I could
wear them, but both Alun and Jennie told me that I looked ridiculous in them. So that was the end of that idea. lol!!



Well girls, I will love and leave you now, going to try a bit more of the jigsaw.



Love, Sallie. xxx <3 <3 <3

Sallie, thank you for your explanation to Mo re Lily. It is interesting to see who does what in the psychology/psychiatry branches, not (thankfully0 having had need of these people myself it is enlightening to read about it. It certainly sounds as if Lily is going to get the help she needs.

Most of us would love to have to go out and buy smaller clothes sallie, however as I know your weight loss was not planned, it must be not what you want. Still, as every cloud has a silver lining they say, if the weight loss is not too great, make the most of it and enjoy the new clothes. :-) :-) :-)

Well blow me down, I thought I would pop in to say a quick hello, and no one has been around since the 18th.
I do hope everyone is keeping well, and that you are not all snowed in. Lets hope and pray we don't get the snowfall that America is undergoing at the moment. They have had so much overnight that it's just unbelievable that so much can fall so quickly.

Well stay safe and warm everyone, hugs Mo xxx

No snow here Mo, just frost and fog and drizzle and a little bit of sun. Roll on spring, the helebores in the garden think it is spring already and I have seen birds with nesting material but I think it will be a while yet before it warms up.

I guess everyone is busy or something Mo, hope you and Roly are ok.

Hello there Ann, we are fine thank you.
Every morning I take a walk round the garden, and notice just how many of the plants are growing, my pots of bluebells are well on there way, and there seems twice as many this year.
My neighbour over the road has so many daffodils out, and next door has Narcissus (sp) in bloom, they look wonderful.
It certainly looks like the others are busy doing things at home etc.
I hope that our Jean and Sallie are well, as well as Sylvia, Huia and Marie.
Speak to you soon, Mo xxx