General Chat

I do hope this girl can get the necessary help to try and fulfill her dream but there is another aspect to this.
If she goes away to uni, will her parents keep her room for her and keep her for free over the holidays even if she takes a part time job, and she will have to be careful any work doesn't jeopardise her loans/grants? Also will they spend all their time putting her down if she is at home so it makes her upset and depressed?

I don't know how old your son is and she is obviously young still. It's great that he cares about her enough to support her emotionally through all this, what would happen if while away at uni they split up, would she cope?

It sounds as tho if she doesn't go to uni her parents would charge her for board etc as is only right if she is earning but they would be greedy about it. However it might be a good thing for her situation and her relationship with your son, if she took a job for a year after leaving school, maybe went to evening classes too if something that would increase her education even more, and put away as much money as possible. The relationship with your lad might become even more solid or turn out the other way as it can do with young people, and also she would become more worldly wise having had to work for a year and mix with many more people. I am not sure how that would affect grants etc but she could ask about that at the same time to be sure of not jeopardising the help she might get.
She would also learn how to budget and could maybe even prepare some of her own meals, like midday pack up or whatever, and get her weight down a little so she is comfortable with it and it removes one thing for her parents to jibe at. They sound very unkind and maybe even jealous that they never had the opportunity to go to uni and don't want to let her do it because of that.

Or maybe there would be a chance of her moving in with you so she is free of them and their demoralising comments.

I wish her luck and your son too, with helping her through, I am sure you will be there for both of them as well.

I made use of charitable trusts when my son was at school and I am sure many of them will help university students too.

Lizx

Depending on what course she wants to do, she should start researching sponsorship from some of the big firms. There's plenty of stuff out there and if she can get sponsorship, they will support her at college and employ her in the vacations. Probably a job at the end of it too - although they might want a commitment of one or two years.

if she came to Scotland she would get fees paid if she had no support and a students loan which she would pay back once she earns a certain amount or if she was lucky -same employees take you on when qualified and pay it back for you !