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Hi Emmybaby, just want to say how thrilled I am with the news of little Lienna-Mae's arrival (I like her unusual name) and hope she helps make up a little for all you have gone through. Bet her parents are over the moon with her, shame about the broken ankles etc and hope your luck changes now.
I wish you well with the efforts to see the grandchildren, and know how much effort you have put in trying to see them already. Your son and his wife must be nasty minded people to behave as they have and I am glad you have a good lawyer who will stand up to your son. Let's hope something good comes out of all this, I am glad your o.h. will be with you at the court hearing.
You know where I am if you want to talk, and I will be thinking positive thoughts for you both so you get something sorted out.
take care, and hope the ankle is on the mend
Lizxx

Good Evening to you Emmybaby

I have read your thread.

I have found some support groups that might be of use to you and others in the same situation.

Grandparents Apart Self Help Group (GASH)

www.grandparentsapart.co.uk

or

Grandparents Association
Moot House
The Stow
Harlow
Essex
CM20 3AG

Tel No: 01279 444 964

www.grandparents-federation.org.uk

email: [email protected]

This group helps with grandparents who are being refused contact or who have lots contact because of family problems, divorce, etc.
They have heard and seen it all before.


I would also say whatever differences off-spring have with their parents,
the grandchildren should NEVER be used as emotional pawns.

The grandparent and grandchild relationship is one of the most important in life and needs to be maintained.

An intermediary person could always act between the grandparent and grandchild to get contact through.

All my very best wishes to you, Emmybaby and a big hug too.

X

Emmy,
I do feel for you , we have a similar situation, but not quite so devastating.
I once heard a programme on the Radio .The speaker was a Glaswegian and had set up a support group as he was in the same situation as you.
If you look on the internet I am sure you will find it.
He spoke about several families in the same situation.
Good luck and I do hope you get a good outcome.

Hi Emma

Just wanted to offer you my support,..... listen every time the going gets tough just picture your grandchildren's faces, you know at least you can tell them one day you fought tooth and nail to be involved in their lives, just wish you Son and DIL could realize what they are doing to all involved.
Children should never be involved as pawns in adults disputes, can they not understand the more loving people that are involved in a child's life the better it would be for the child.

Sorry there is nothing more positive I can do for you, but here is a big hug, hoping it helps gives you strength with this just cause :O)

(((((((((((((((((((((((( HUGS )))))))))))))))))))))))

Wishing you all the Luck in the World from one set of Grandparents to another xx

I just want to wish you luck from a granny to a granny, all the very best and I hope everything turns out ok.
Why is it that grandparents don't seem to have any hold on seeing their grandchildren.
Sue............

I'm sorry not have any advice,but admire you for going through all this hell to see your grandchildren.I couldn't imagine what it must be like,as we have no Grandchildren yet.I wish you well and hope for a positive outcome,for you and the children.
Helen x

All the best Emmy.

Just wondering whether you've had a look at any grandparent organisations which may have people in the same situation as you?

n

Please keep nudged until I get some help and advise from you all.
thank you
xxx

You may all remember I have not been allowed to see my grand children now for 130 weeks,I told you I was going to see a top notch lawyer whilst I was in the UK, well I saw him he wrote to my son and his wife only to recieve a letter back from him stating he has no intentions of ever letting us see the children,quoting the harssment act etc and a load of legal rubish,he also told my lawyer not to ever write to him again on my behafe (pompus git ) my lawyer took offence to this and after my son tried the same tactic of ringing my lawyer trying to issue instructions to him to pass to me my lawyer told no phone calls anything he wants to say must be put in writing to him,well the letter that I got a copy of refers to me as Mrs H.,and not "My mother" so it seems I may well be dead to him.

So far as not having HARDLY any contact with my grand children,I took aholdall over to UK weighing 18 kilos containg REAL proof of contact.
Ihad another appointmentent with him before I flew back here to Spain where I paid yet more money to take it to court to get leave to see my grand children,I was told it could take three to four months for this to happen,NOT !!!!!!! I was given a court date a few days before I flew,that being the 13th May at 10am.My son has to date not acknowledged the paper work that was sent to him,and if they dont turn up then my paper work will be stamped automatically and he will be served by hand.

To add to his pettyness he took a letter into my lawyers office the other day from an insurance company,junk mail,now before he has binned it.I must admit not a lot scares me but this is ,at least my hubby will be alongside of me when we apear,that way I wont feel intimidated.

Iflew over for the birth of my new grand daughter (the IVF attempt) well Lienna-mae Victoria was a week late,had a emergency delivery but well beautiful oh yes forgot to mention the week before baby was delivered I fell down the bottom five stairs at my daughters house and broke my ankle.the week after I did that her partner fell and broke his ankle same leg so she had us both running around in pot legs.

T o get back to this court case God Im scared,the next step after that will be cafcas,that should take about four months for all the reports to go in,my lawyer has pointed out to me that I have had no contact with children in all this time apart from me sending birthday cards and xmas cards all of which were returned with insults written on envelopes,oh not for getting bank accounts we opened for them,like I said to him,I am in a catch 22 situation with that as how am I supposed to maintain contact if Im not ALLOWED contact.
Does any of this make sense to you all.
As anyone else got as far s us if so what can we expect at this first appearence?

Love Emmybaby
xxx