General Chat

Hi Dutch,
I don't think we've spoken before. Having read your sad story, I felt compelled to post.
Sometimes its the painful experiences in life, that inspires someone to do so much for others. In the short time I've been posting on GR, I've seen that you helping so many people here.

Please don't give up on the hope, that one day you'll see your son & grandson again. With this being a genealogy site, I'm sure the people here would gladly help you to find them again.

(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

Steve
x

pmsl

Hi Dutch:o))

How are you this morning....do hope you are staying??

Take care
jude xx

Morning All,thank you Liz but im also wereing blue and white wig that will go well with the orange
xx

Joyce, you have so many good things to look forward to and altho you haven't had contact with your grandson for so long, I am sure you will find him and your son one day, you deserve to see them both again. Meantime don't even think of leaving here - we all need you as you need us, and altho the boards seem to be falling apart sometimes, there is still a strong core of your friends around and lovely new folk arriving all the time.
Now just think positively and behave, please, try and get some rest, I think you are overtired and emotional and need a break so altho you will be rushing around at the end of the month, it will also be a lovely break for you to see your friends and family again and to meet some new people too. Just wish I could get there too and give you a ticking off face to face lol, altho how I would keep a straight face with you in an orange hat is beyond me lol

love and hugs
Lizxxx

Iwant to thank you my friends but the sad thing is i not only lost my g,son but my son he died inside when his girlfriend died ,he use to visit his brothers every three months you could set your clock by him ,but the last time he tried to take his own life in my young g,daughters bedroom so my other son told him to leave,and know one has seen him since,but when i saw him last was well before then and he said the sooner i die and can join Debbie his girl friend,shes been died now 27yrs,but he made me proise that i would bury him with his grandmother as he loved her very much,but how do i keep my promise i dont know were he is,hes always been aloner i hope one day he,ll go and visit his brothers,thank you for all your support it means alot to me
Dutchxx

P.M. sent Joyce....

Joyce, listen to Jude especially but the others too. You would miss us but GR would be a poorer place without you in it, we all need you and your caring ways. We can't help you over your Grandson but can only hope for you that one day you will meet him again. Think happy thoughts of your FiL and he will still be with you. Don't even think about leaving us.

Ann
Glos

Hello Dutch, like Hilary I too can feel your pain, just by reading your thread.
Please don't leave GR, you would miss your old friends to talk too, and I know there are a few new friends on here, myself included, that are here for you if you need us.

I agree with what Chris has said, maybe your grandson has been told that
you didn't care about him. You know how nasty and uncaring, some people can be.

There are not many threads on GR that I post on, but yours is one of them.
You are one of the people on the boards that's always caring and considerate towards other members. We will miss you, if you go!

I really hope that your grandson will contact you soon.

Best Wishes to you and your hubby. Sallie.

You would be missed here.

Carry on rambling Joyce :-)
It can help.

I too have never spoken to you. Can feel your pain just reading your thread but where else would you be able to share your bad days & good days. If you leave who would buck you up on a bad day or share in your joy at any good news. Hope you think differently tomorrow.
Hilary. xx

Joyce, I must disagree with you, and I know I'm right! :-))

You're not rambling on, alright? Now, stop thinking like that. You're a treasure, but also a treasure who is grieving for her grandson who's out there somewhere. I can only imagine the pain you're going through.

Take care love.
x

Is it possible for you to trace your gson? He is 28 and may have been brought up to believe you do not care? Worth a try. Chin up.

There are enough nasty people on GR forcing others to leave. In this world we need all the friends and support we can.

Dutch....why on earth would you want to leave GR for good,?? l'll slap your wrist woman!! l know you are sad because of your grandson and f.i.l. but everyone on here is important to you too and they help to keep you going, what else would you do.
Keep your chin up and remember your f.i.l. with fond memories. One day you never know you might hear from your grandson, you've either got to keep thinking that you will or you have to tell yourself you won't see him, that way if he does contact you its an even bigger surprise. Keep yourself busy with all these fund raising things you do which help so many:o))))

Take care

love jude xxxx

You no im sitting here thinking should i quit Gr for good
But i no i would miss my friendswho ive made over the last few years
But when i think of my friends some who are know longer here and others who have so much pain,it brings me close to tears
IF i could make awish or to i no what it would be to make my friends old and new pain free
The other one would be for family for the ones i have,nt seen
One Grandsoni last saw when he was two years old for his mum died was only 21
But the other grandpaernts did,nt like my son
but thats beside the fact it had nothing to do with him
But the other g,parents said it would be best if i did,nt see my grandson
But ive learn to live with this for so many years just thinking about him brings me to tears
He,s now going on 28 and ive wrote so many times to the other g.parents just asking for photo but they never even replyed
So i won,t bother anymore why should i beat myself up ,and getting nowhere fast
But may one day we will meet at last
I Know theres few who dont like what i do
But to make someone happy would,nt you

If i can make someone smile just for alittle while
Thats all the thanks i need knowing i made them smile
Ihope you understand what im saying as its im so feeling abit sad as on tues its my F.I.L birthday and i miss him realy bad
Dutchxx
ps thank you for letting me ramble on