General Chat

I find the whole idea of cyber affairs really sordid tbh. They are based on fantasy and that's where the danger begins.

I am mates with a handful of blokes on the www and never once has it crossed my mind to behave any differently with them as I do with the female mates I have on here.

If one of them crossed a line with the things they said to me I'd probably block them from contacting me and walk away from their friendship.

Mind you I'd behave the same in real life with my male friends too.

Sometimes I watch some of the flirting and threads on here and other sites and just cringe. .......at what's being said......It's like an accident waiting to happen sometimes....although they all say they're just having a laugh..........hmmmmmm.......if I spoke to blokes the way I've seen on here and elsewhere and my Husband saw it I'm sure he wouldn't find it funny at all.......and I don't blame him.

Sorry you've been hurt though Gaz......unfortunately there's rarely happy endings in these instances xx

thing is , it is easy to be 'romantic' on the net ,not the same in the home where you argue about bills and work , general stuff. that's what swung her away from me i rckon , a perfect world with no probs.

Gaz

It's ok Gaz, it just annoys me when I see people trying to justify cyber affairs, especially by saying 'it's not real' (Did you get that one? lol)

Well I've got news, it is just as real. The emotion and thought behind it is still there, if the physical isn't. I was devastated at the time, but I'm over it now, in spite of that rant LOL

But I have no time for anyone who does that now..

probably right Jill, you can't keep someone where they don't want to be...will get that coffee, not black but strong wi9th 4 sugars!

Hey sorry Teresa ,didn't mean to dig up bad times for you,

Gaz

Don't even go there Gaz, to me it wrecked 22 years of marriage, along with his general behaviour towards me, leaving me feeling less than acceptable as a person. His behaviour on the internet, coupled with the fact that I was told I was only walking through the room to spy on him, (I had to walk through the room to get to the kitchen to make a cuppa FGS).

Then I had to take the blame for everything after I threw in the towel and told him I can't live like this any more.

Flirting is one thing, but getting in depth with someone who is 25 years your junior, and pretending to be the same age as them is different. (no not a pedo, just a deluded middle-aged idiot, and to think I married him in the first place!)

I have no sympathy for anyone who actually has a cyber-affair. Their choice, they know the risks, and it's NOT harmless.

Just as likely to have been someone at work, brother of a friend, someone else - don't see that a cyber relationship is any worse or any different.

Probably cyber-relationships less likely as people involved could live miles - or continents - apart.

Jill

p.s. Strong black coffee for you Gaz - and it's the sugar that sobers you up so heap a couple of spoons in!

Innocent enough ? , but when my partner went from flirting to that step further it wrecked a long relationship. Admittedly she wouldn't have looked perhaps if we had been 100 % steady , but then maybe if there wasn't someone waiting in the wings she might have given it more of a go?

what'd you think, how far is it ok before someone gets hurt?

Gaz ( had one to many beers after bbq maybe)