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Hi Brian
I am sure that is my mother you are talking about!!!!
I used to think she was really mean and although for other reasons already posted on this site which have caused me great difficukty she also had a good side.
I have a child who is now in their late thirties and when at secondary school they felt sorry for a class mate and tried to look after her. One day they left the school grounds and went shopping in the nearest town.....the girl with my daughter was caught shop lifting nd my child was taken to the police station with her.
What a shock that was when I received the call from the police. They could not have been more helpful...they told me that my daughter was completely innocent and I said oh no she isn't she should not have left the school grounds. It was agreed that she would be kept in a cell for the rest of the day!
Later in life she thanked me for this deceion and said she knew why I had done this and that she tells her children the story. She also told me that she is strict with her children as well because that is what parenting is about, giving a good example and careing about our children.
I do hope that no one was injured in this incident and that the people involved are made to understand why what they have done is wrong and that they are punished.
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Brian, how right you are! Far too many people let their kids get up to all sorts of bad behaviour, anything to save them the bother of disciplining them, keeping them occupied or spending time with them.
A friend of mine asked me to go with her and her two children on a trip where she was to have some dental treatment, I was taken along - free board and lodgings at a lovely apartment in Edinburgh and free train travel etc - so I could look after the children, aged 5 and 8, while she was having the treatment. The children leapt all over the bed in the apartment, it belonged to my friend's dentist pal who was doing the treatment, and they charged around regardless of the cream carpets and sofas and the Moorcroft pots on the shelves of the units, and my friend just kept saying 'don't do that!' We were often late to apptmts etc because they wouldn't hurry up or were squabbling instead of walking properly etc and when I reprimanded them, my friend said not to, as she didn't want them having a childhood of No's. I don't see her now, we sort of drifted apart a while back but both kids are at weekly boarding school - I often wonder how they turned out, they weren't nasty kids just undisciplined and it made me sad for them. Kids need boundaries and discipline so they learn to care for other people's property and know the consequences of playing with fire etc.
I do hope there wasn't too much damage to the cottage, and that the little beggars get the book thrown at them.
Lizx
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Totally agree with you Brian
I like to know where my 15 yr old is and who with
and to meet his friends
just like my mum and dad did with me
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A 13-year-old girl and a 16-year-old boy are being questioned by police on suspicion of setting fire to a thatched roof at a house in Wiltshire.
Emergency services were called to the blaze in Amesbury just before 2100 BST on Friday.
Brings to:-
"Mean Mums"
Someday when my children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will
tell them, as my Mean Mum told me: I loved you
enough . . . to ask where you were going, with whom,
and what time you would be home.
I loved you enough to be silent and let you
discover that your new best friend was a creep.
I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours
while you cleaned your room, a job that should have taken 15 minutes.
I loved you enough to let you see anger,
disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children must
learn that their parents aren't perfect.
I loved you enough to let you assume the
responsibility for your actions even when the
penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
But most of all, I loved you enough . . . to say
NO when I knew you would hate me for it.
Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm
glad I won them, because in the end you won, too.
And someday when your children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them.
Was your Mum mean? I know mine was. We had the
meanest mother in the whole world! While other kids
ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal, eggs, and toast.
When others had a Pepsi and a Twisters for lunch, we had to eat sandwiches.
And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was
different from what other kids had, too.
Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all
times. You'd think we were convicts in a prison. She
had to know who our friends were, and what we were
doing with them. She insisted that if we said we
would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.
We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve
to break the Child Labour Laws by making us work We
had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to
cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash
and all sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie
awake at night thinking of more things for us to do.
She always insisted on us telling the truth, the
whole truth, and nothing but the truth. By the time
we were teenagers; she could read our minds and had
eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really tough!
Mother wouldn't let our friends’ just honk the horn
when they drove up. They had to come up to the door
so she could meet them. While everyone else could
date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until we were 16.
Because of our mother we missed out on lots of
things other kids experienced. None of us have ever
been caught shoplifting, vandalising other's
property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all her fault.
Now that we have left home, we are all educated,
honest adults. We are doing our best to be mean
parents just like Mum was.
I think that is what's wrong with the world today.
It just doesn't have enough 'mean mums!'
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