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Claire in Lincs

Claire in Lincs Report 12 Jul 2009 15:10

Iv had 2 emails recently asking for information,,,,no please ,,no explanation as to why they think we may ancestors in common,,nothing,,
First one was the usual,,'can i see your tree'.This was regarding a name in my tree,,John Swinbank,
When i asked why the sender thought she may have a link the answer was,,'I am a Swinbank from the Durham area..' Well im sorry,,you can be a gold plated Swinbank for all i care,,no manners,and ,no explantion doesnt get you access to all my hard work.
The other one was today,,,'regarding a John Butler, The mesage was 'Do you know his wife's name',, And that was it,,no greeting,,no thank you ,,nothing else..
Im sick of rudeness and bad manners,,so from now on,,,no manners will get you nowt,!

MR_MAGOO

MR_MAGOO Report 12 Jul 2009 16:05

If you want to see my tree..............................IT'S IN THE GARDEN !!!

Annina

Annina Report 12 Jul 2009 18:43

Hi, everyone, I agree with you, how long does it take to type Please and thankyou.

One person who I had let see my tree, complained forcibly that I had blanked out living rels. How are they going to help trace ancestors??

Makes me wonder if he was a bit fishy.

ann

ann Report 12 Jul 2009 19:28

lol Buggs,I have had plenty of them and they think they are doing you a favour. Annie

Researching:
Hedges in Headington and Headington Quarry Oxford

***joybell♥♥♡♥♡

***joybell♥♥♡♥♡ Report 13 Jul 2009 12:48

If I get a"Hot match" I usually ask if they know parents names or if the "match" had married. If I get a positive response then I ask further questions, if negative then they get a polite, Sorry but....

Deanna

Deanna Report 13 Jul 2009 13:02

I love the ones who don't even answer when I send a message.
I think I am polite, I hope I am, when I ask people, so a little note would be nice.
Deanna X

Julia

Julia Report 13 Jul 2009 13:07

I always say my 'please' and 'thank you's'. I was always taught this as a child, and told good manners cost nothing

Julia in Derbyshire

Researching:
Turner Cambs/.Northants, Singapore and Penang,Trengrove Singapore and Penang, Arnull (Champion Race Horse Breeders & Trainers 'Oleander')Germany and Denmark

BarneyKent

BarneyKent Report 13 Jul 2009 20:17

I also do what Budgie does, only have a "skeleton" tree on the GR site.
I did have a full tree, going back to the late 1600's and early 1700's on 6 branches.

After some requests which I duly answered and opened up my tree for them, I clicked on their tree and found "living person" for at least 3 generations and very litle else. Two days later their tree had been closed and I never heard from them again. Obviously they had got the info they wanted and never even said thanks.

I now try and establish a genuine link and also a rapport with the person making enquiries before I open my tree. Sorry but most of us have spent years gleaning information and also spent a lot of money either with Ancestry or by travelling to distant graveyards.

As we all agree, courtesy costs nothing. Anyone who is as abrupt as those mentioned here do not get access to my info.

Good ancestor hunting everyone.

Bernie