General Chat

Uzzi,life made the choice for you,but at least you're honest about your feelings.My daughter(35) says she doesn't want children,because she's not maternal.I'm a bit sad that she feels that way,because I probably never will have grandchildren,but I have to respect her decision.
My son doesn't even have a girlfriend,so no hope there either!

My family name died out with me and my 2 sisters-and I didn't even think to put it in my son's name-der!

Footie I realised how precious it was when it was denied me, but even now I think it was right as I never wanted until I was told no. That doesn't mean I don't hurt at natures choice, just that I would have liked to make the choice myself.

Wise words Sue and often it is the people around that make some have children

Sometimes I think the decision to not have a child is harder than deciding you do want one. Society somehow sees a woman not wanting children as being odd. It's all I ever wanted and I was lucky to have 3 children with no problems but it's not the be all and end all of every woman's life.

Sue xx

As a woman its not til the chance is taken away that yu realise how precious it is x

Dizzy my family name went when me dad had 2 girls the 1st married and me the rebel ...who still keeps her fathers name even tho married never will carry the name on !
That's life ...

Jean I am sorry for you.

MY FAMILY NAME HAS GONE NOW

Dizzy it's easy to say I didn't want when I don't have. but I really didn't, even now looking back I don't know what I would have done with a child ,,,,and me a trained nanny ! Yes I went for the IVF but I refused to let my Dad pay for it, as I said then let nature take it's course Dad maybe I ain't cut out to be a mum.
Harsh words that I have cried over and re-joyed over many times since .
But that was my choice and I will stick with it now ..I wasn't desperate enough to have a chld

I wanted more children, but after a mis, no more sign. No help available that long ago. So now there are no descendants of my in-laws at all.

BUT YOU ARE HONEST
BY SAYING YOU NEVER REALY WANTED THEM,,

I HAD TWO BUT SHOULD HAVE BEEN SIX OR SEVEN ,,,OMG,BUT I DIDNT EVEN KNOW I HAD LOST SO MANY TILL MUCH LATER,BY THEN DAMAGE DONE,AND NO CHANCE,
BY FACING IT YOU KNEW WHAT YOU WANTED AND DONT COME ACROSS BITTER
LIKE SOME WHO CANT HAVE KIDS BLAME ALL AND SUNDRY

SORRY IF NOT SAYING CORRECLY
WORDS GONE TONIGHT

BUT THEY SAY A DOG IS FOR LIFE NOT JUST XMAS

BUT WHAT FOR A UNWANTED CHILD NO SMART CATCHY SAYING JUST A POOR KID,,,,,WITH HOPE

Thanks Dizzi but I ain't that good cos I did do the IVF thinking ..nay beilieving I wanted kids ....I did also turn away another chance to allow those who really wanted.

WHEN A DECITION TO HAVE KIDS IS MADE I THINK YOU DEEP DOWN

YOU SHOULD
REALY WANT THEM, ANDS YOU WERE HONEST WITH YOURSELF AND EVERYONE
YOUR UZZI PETER PAN
GOOD LUCK

I wasn't sure how to reply or where to reply ...

What I will say is I never really wanted kids until I married and OH did ...okay I could put this off I thought I don't really want them yet.
THEN I got told I couldn't have, hospital appts all sorts of surgery went ahead ..I wanted kids .....
Actually I didn't ,what I wanted was to be able to have them when I wanted them. The IVF doesn't give you that option you go when they say go ..I did. Believe me my heartbreak was genuine, both times.
Now I am glad I have no children, if I am honest I never really wanted any. I stayed the eternal child !