General Chat

There is someone on this site who appears to have almost all my family in his tree-he refuses to get in touch with me despite my appealing to him. Obviously we are related in some way but what can I do?????

Ann, if he has living relatives of yours you can ask him to delete them and talk to gr about it if he ignores your request.

I have someone who has several of my family members in her tree including my late parents but she is not closely related, her husband is related to my cousin's son's wife I believe. It makes me really cross, and she ignores me now when I told her I didn't feel it was right that she had my parents in her tree, especially as she had info about them wrong.

Lizx

Someone in the states has highjacked my total tree and has connected my great grandmother whose history by the way is fully documented, to their tree and has claimed her as THEIR American grandmother! I am really annoyed about this as this particular line goes back to 1625. The tree is on Ancestry and despite having contacted them they never reply.
Frustrating!

Ann
Is he on ANCESTRY too?

No have checked out Ancestry and no trace -also he does not appear to have any of my living relations looks as if I am on a loser here-so damn annoying though.

Perhaps he's not a member anymore Ann,,,,,but I dont know how you could find that out,
I dont know why folks join if they dont want to contact others and share trees,

Maybe he's on TribalPages,
I am a member if you want me to have a look let me know,

Hi Ann, I am in the middle of something like this right now - except I am the person not opening my tree for the time-being.

The person who contacted me has my grandmother and several of my great aunts and uncles on her tree through a relative of her husband's cousin, or something.

Anyhow, something didn't sound right, so when I checked the marriage date on Ancestry it turns out there were two people with exactly the same name who married in the same quarter of the same year - but at different ends of the country! And there only seems to be one birth - my ancestor's - so I think this contact has simply adopted my rellies by mistake because she doesn't realise that not everyone's birth can be found that easily!

I have sent for the marriage certificate of my ancestor and have also emailed a GR member who I know to be a distant relly. Meanwhile, Having explained this person's possible muddle, I am still being asked to open my tree.........

Well-somebody on here has me in their tree-and says I was born in Reading -I was born in Manchester and Free BMD say so too !!

(His grandfather and mine were brothers)

It can be confusing, can't it. I sympathise.

Chica - those Ancestry trees ...

Don't blame the tree owner, probably. It's because of that great big enormous tree of everyone in the universe that the Mormons are busy creating. When you add something to your tree at Ancestry, Ancestry gives you "hints".

You know hot matches here? Similar principle. You have Ebenezer Scrooge born in London in 1850. Somebody else has Ebenezer Scrooge born in Johannesburg in 1850. Why, it's a match!

Three people at Ancestry had the son of an ancestor of mine in their tree. My ancestor was a Si... from Cornwall. Their person was a Shi.... from Tennessee. Well, Shi.... is a variant of the name Si..., doncha know! So Richard Shi... born in xx year in Tennessee is obviously Richard the son of my Si..., who was born the same year in Cornwall! My (married) ancestor just scooted over to Tennessee sometime in the mid-1700s, married somebody there and had a kid, and came back home in time to have the rest of his kids.

Moronic. Utterly moronic. Almost as bad as the trees that have a Cheshire ancestor of mine as the grandson of somebody born in the US ... 250 years later. Bad enough the 250-year gap, but the younger one is the grandfather of the older one. Yes, there were people by those names in both places -- and in this case, completely coincidentally, I'm sure, yes, they were actually fairly closely related. But really. How do these trees even stand up under the weight of their own stupidity??

The people I contacted about the Cornwall/Tennessee nonsense -- I did it kind of jokingly, pointing out the impossibility -- fixed the problem. They ha fallen for the "hint". Lord knows why people don't seem to stop and think for 5 seconds before clicking.


But anyhow, as far as people here not replying, just one possible tip -- are you sure your messages have been read? If you look in your Sent messages folder and the envelope beside them is still purple, they've never been received. That happens when someone puts a tree here and then wanders off never to return, changes email addresses, possibly several times, and never updates the account info here, so never gets notice of the messages.

If that's the case, you could always try to find the person on the electoral roll. ;)

Someone who isn't related to my Nan has her in their tree on tribal pages...& what hurt me was they say if you want to know anything about my ( theirs) family all you have to do it ask

Well who can they tell my nan only had 1½ teeth & loved my Dads roast potatoes

I think some of these people construct their tree by just using info on the Internet (IGI etc) so if the name matches ......!!

Ann
I have the same problem.A member and I share the same 7 or 8 Hot Matches,from the same family.I have contacted this person at least 4 or 5 times,politely explaining the link,and asking her to contact me.Silence.
She has never bothered to reply.It is so frustrating! The last time I contacted her,I even said,"I know that you're probably very busy.If that's the case,could you please open your tree,if you haven't got time to reply?"
She knows that we share the same ancestors.I can't make her reply,but I
just would like to hear from her.Everyone else has been fantastic,but this one is a really tough nut to crack.Should I persist,or give up?

Margot - the first question (even though it may sound a bit patronizing) always is: are you sure she has read your messages?

Janey
Yes,she has.I have checked that the purple envelope is now white,or whatever color it is when it's opened.

I first contacted her a year ago,have sent 4 messages,no reply to date.

There are three threads similar to this one.... and there were three or four similar a week or so ago.

Do you know, there is nothing we can do if someone doesn't want to open their tree/give us more information, nothing at all.... we don't have the right to that info from anyone else, even if we have paid our membership fees and they seem to have our missing link....

It is not a criminal offence to refuse information... and even criminals have the right to remain silent.

Julie, I have every sympathy with you, that someone not connected to you has incorrect details about someone you loved so much.

That sort of thing may be exactly why others are so reluctant to give out information.

I would be wary, I know.

Daff