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well heres another dilema .2 of my grandaughters have face book both 9.[and no im not happy]
one is allowed to play the games only on her other nans facebook.[farmville etc]another is allowed her own page .my son has protested and his ex ignored this.so we monitor who replies to it .when i looked at her freinds who speak to her on there,they have there profiles .one said ....i live with my mum and visit my dad every week.im the baby of the family ,i like hannah montana etc etc ......for god sake dont the parents see that shes a paedos dream.even her pic is up.i swear some parents are not normal.

My eldest has a FB account...but for games only..no pic..not in her name..and absolutely NO personal info.Have to say it's been months since she logged in...as I won't allow her to network on there.

I won't even allow her to add her friends who are on there as themselves. it's purely so she can play non interactive games on there...and she's watched like a hawk.

She's 9 ..almost 10 and too young imho to handle all the dilemmas social networking sites can throw up.

I guess it depends on the individual child...but I know mine and she's not ready x

its really hard being a mum in this society, all kids have lap tops ( well most) kids of today are more grown up .. my daughter is 10 and has face book , she only goes on her lappy when im in the room , i have her pass word and always check her history , But i would like to think that my gal wouldnt talk to anyone she didnt know .. its so hard being a mum ;(

My grand daughteraged 7 was here, and logged onto the CBBC website. When she wanted to play a game where she had to log on, I directed her a) Not to have her name in her e-mail address
b) not to put even her real first name (which is unusual) when she played the game and
b) not to state where she lives (which is a small village)

I'm just as careful. I know my name on here is Maggie Winchester, and I live in Winchester - but so do many other Maggies!!
On FB, my e-mail address is a nickname, my photo is a cat (my nephew asked who I was!!) - and only my friends can see my page - which contains photo's of children & grandchildren.

I suppose, if you knew my surname, you could perhaps find me - but it's a very common surname, unlike my maiden name.

same with son he has her password.but he says she dont need to be on there .and even if there was one for kids paedos would take advantage .my eldest who uses her other nans account theres no pics just cartoon characters.and shes not allowed friends on there just the family.so i dont suppose she can come to much harm .but the other one has her pics on there and her friends all have theres there.her mum said its secure so i went in on a fake account i was able to access all her pics etc.i went up to sons this weekend and changed it all.only friends can see now.and she cant be found.

its a hard one one , its all about trust and knowledge , if they have that im sure there is owt to worry about ... x

As I added to the other thread, about social network sites,they ought to be banned.
They are a nightmare,not only for adults, but so dangerous for children.
I can look a lot of people up, and find out so much about them.
They forget sometimes to make it private, and if you click on to their wall,you can see everything they have written.
What scares me the most are the ones, with photos of the lovely children.
All added innocently.
I only joined to find someone,but have never added my photo, or added to any other pages.
So scary!!!!!!!!!!!
Please parents be very aware of your children.

i hope so rosie .i just have to step back .ive spoke to both of them and said dont add if you dont know.and always speak with mum or dad when adding someone so they know.

huggs hun , we just have ti be brave and keep our beadie open xxx anyone who trys to add my gal that is dodgy ,, god help em , xx

i am not really keen on kids been on facebook
its an adult site

and theres lots of strange people out there

I had just been talking about this very subject with my OH, my two granddaughters are on it - the eldest turned 15 last month and as been on it for ages - then her sister joined and she will be 13 in August. But now the wee bloke is on there as well - he will be 9 in June - and I am not happy about it ... very nice that he asked me to be his friend. I just hope his parents monitor it closely... I don't go in there often enough to know what is going on.

I don't interfere in their lives - and on the whole my daughter and son-in-law do a great job of raising their family with the exception of them eating good for you vegetables. I am just rather dismayed about it all.

Persey

I just edited my grand daughters' ages - oh dear what a Nana

I have 7 grandkids who are on Facebook.I have 4 children on there who these grandkids belong to.We are all added to each others facebook and all keep a eye out for the kids and who they are talking to.There has been no strangers popping up anywhere just the kids school friends.Think if they are monitored there is not a problem. Annie

Facebook will delete them if they find out they are under the age limit, which is 13.

I wouldn't encourage my son to break the rules - not a very good example to set.

Gwynne

I don't personally think that children under 13 are mature enough to cope with the concept of a cyber world. It is all real to them and they can't imagine how somebody they are talking to is really 30 when they say they are fifteen. Children live in a black and white world and the age rules are there for a reason.

i think 14 is about the age i would allow mine to have a FB, any younger and i think there to immature,

i wont add the kids round my way, even tho they have asked me to, as i have things that i feel not sutable on my status' fro m time to time, like bad laungauage x

So they have to be 13 - that is very interesting - I think I may have to do a subtle hint in around about way.

Thank you for that Guinevere - obviously people in Camelot are more up-to-date then I am.

Persephone

stray your right to do that in my eyes.
i just felt sick to my stomach seeing my grandaughters friends with there pics up and thought fgs theres pervs out there.who will love those pics.my sons so angry about it .and says i dont want my daughter plastered over a web site.her mum says hes being OTT.and refuses to take this on board.as there not together it makes for upsets.
ive spoken to grandaughter and explained that her dad just wants her safe ,and as shes kinda in the middle she needs to be REALLY responsable.and not add anyone she does,nt know .also to make sure that dad can access her account so he can see shes being really sensible.

honest to god ...FAMILYS

its a hrad one aunty joy, especially as there not together, and she will probably see it as he is just being picky, were as in fact hes looking out for his daughters safety, to many young girls are groomed online, by young lads they meet online, but infact are grown pervs, its sick,

mind how many adults have befriended men online as mates, and have realised that, not all is wat they seem and infact the men are dodgy!

the web is a fantastic tool, if used correctly, altho not many kids and adults use it how its intended sadly, xxx

yep your right stray.i just hope shes carefull.and uses her head.xxx

I know of mothers who set their children up with a facebook profile and give their age as older.
What worries me is that a paedo could use this as his defence. He just has to say she gave him to understand that she was older, and he could get out of trouble that way.