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Do you, did you want a trad wedding for you / children

I personally went against a church wedding until my 3rd when I got married in church, with top hat and morning coats and a full wedding dress with veil (IN BLACK)
If I had children what would I want ....personally barefoot on a beach would do as long as they were happy.

But yes weddings have changed over the years , even trad weddings don't wear grannies dress/veil/garter no more.
In years gone by when you invited the family it included the whole village anyway, now it's pic and choose who you want. nobody lives that close anymore. OR DO THEY

It appears to be the 'tradition' in our family to pay for your own wedding.
I married in a registry office, wearing an ordinary dress.
On my mum's side, mum & dad married in a registry office (just after the war) - mum wore the Utility suit of the time, dad wore his sailor uniform.
Mum's mum and dad married in church, organised by gran while grandad was at sea. She seems to have wanted to marry in a church to be 'one up' on her parents. However, grandad (a widower) would have preferred a registry office marriage. Gran wore a blue dress she'd made herself (now in my wardrobe)
Gran's parents married in a registry office (after 25 years of 'togetherness' and 9 children!) both wore ordinary clothes.

On dad's side, my gran (as far as we know) never married dad's dad, in fact dad's birth wasn't even registered until gran married a widower (in a registry office) when dad was 16! - yet again wearing ordinary clothes,
My sister married in a registry office in normal clothes. My married brother had a very small church wedding - because my SIL wanted one. SIL DID wear a wedding dress!
My daughter got married last August - in a hotel! She also wore a wedding dress, bought in a Debenhams sale.

I think the celbs are bringing the trad wedding back, the young want one just like *her* but on a smaller budget.

i got married in 1993 had traditional wedding, church, full length ivory dress, 4 bridesmaids etc. had about 55 sitting down to 3 course meal and an evening buffett for 100. had a mixture of disco and scottish music, as hubby is a scot.whole thing cost £2000.00. i had a wonderful day and would do it all again.

i got a lot of things in sales, best friends (5 of them) produced eve buffett. anothers present was hiring the video and filming the whole thing, one of our best pressies.

if you plan it well it doesnt have to cost a fortune at all. personally hotel weddings or on a beach dont appeal to me at all. but i guess times have moved on a bit since i got married and theres more choice of venus now.

as long as everyone enjoys the day without falling out, thats all that matters

My grandmother was married in Lambeth and had the full dress veil etc as did her four daughters
Out of her 6 sons one never married, 2 definetly married in style, army or navy uniforms. with one bride in full traditional dress and one in very smart suit.
I am not sure about the others.
I and my two sisters also had full white weddings in church with all the trimmings...one of us, Me, divorced 24 years later and remarried in register office I wore salmon pink silk suit and a small hat..daughter also had a white wedding but abroad and one son married, again in trad clothing and bride wore creamy white because of her red hair, and his
she knew him for 7 years and walked outof the marrige 14 months later...

Son getting married in the next few days and he will be in full military uniform and bride wearing trad dress etc

Bridget

In my classic 1950s family -- four of us kids, born in the 50s and 60s -- there isn't a marriage among us, let alone a wedding! We were just ahead of our time, we were.

Of the kids in the next generation, only one, my brother's son, is old enough to partner up at present, and I doubt that he'll be doing the marrying thing either, since I haven't noticed any sudden urge for conformity, or religiosity, emerging in him.

His mother, who I was friends with when she and my brother partnered, has since married, though; I don't know the details of that marriage ceremony, but I expect it was civil and informal. And she and her wife are now a regular middle-aged couple. ;)

Oh yes, I had a traditional white wedding in 1976 as did my sister, hubby's brother all my cousins and my friends all in the 70's.
I loved every minute of our special day:) Still loving it 34 yrs later☺☺
All had about 70 guests,of the 15 of us that married in that decade, my bil,one male cousin and female friend have divorced.
Mam and Dad married in 1941in the registry office, Dad in his RAF uniform and mam in her best suit, no time to organize anything different as Dad was on special leave for the occasion.
My maternal parents were very religious and had a white wedding in Chapel in 1910 , paternal grandparents had a registry office wedding.

I married for the first time in 1969 in white in church, and a virgin.
The chior, and the organist were booked but didn,t turn up as a protest to the pittence the vicar payed them, so i walked down the isle to no music,and everyone chattering.So everytime we sang a hymn, the vicar lifted his frock and ran over to play the piano, then ran back for the rest of the service.When we knelt down and the vicar said his thing we (the bride and groom) were asked to stand up I as the bride in my beutiful full length dress got up so gracfully and looked around to see my nearly future husband still on his knee's when asked to get up buy the vicar he explained his knees had locked and he couldn't move so several attempts buy the vicar and my brothers later rended him in the right postion to carry on with the service, but the moral of the story is I should have walked there and then, but wouldn't have had two wonderful daughters.I finally did 24 years later was on my own for five years. met a super guy married him in a regestry office10 months later.we are 13 years on and I belive my first marrage was a rehersal for the real thing.

allways dreamt of a church wedding fairytale dress but managed it for a renewel of vows with my 3rd husband ate the others yuk x