General Chat

To you all
thank you for listening, should that be reading?? about my dilemna.
It helps to have your views as I feel that I can trust you all. Yes, I have retired twice now but I feel so passionate about the care of the elderly that whenever someone contacts me and describes why they are asking me to help them I do not seem able to say "NO thanks I am retired".

Maternal grandfather developed Dementia and he was in a special hospital for nearly two years before he sadly died. One nurse there who ewas German, inspired me not only to train as a nurse but also some years later to specialise in many aspects of caring for elderly people.
In my head I know it is time to hang up the care world but my heart leads me on.
However I can see and will finish in march nes=xt year. OH and I have tallked about this a great deal and I must say he has been a wonderful support so we have agreed that the End of March is the end of my working life.
Bless you all for listening to me

Bridget

I have just seen this. Are you not retiring as planned?
You are working long hours and seem to be under a fair amount of stress, this is not good for you or your family.
Why not retire as planned?




Val in SA.

Bridget, it is the owners responsibility to make sure that the Home is adequetly staffed. He really does seem to be taking advantage of your caring nature.

I hope that the day of the Fete goes well for you, perhaps it should be your Swan Song and you should end the day by handing in your notice.
Perhaps that will go a little way towards pleasing your family.
I know that other people have mentioned havig a "sicky".
Not something I would recommend, too much like tempting Fate in my opinion.
However, if you WERE ill, the owner would have to sort something out, he couldn't tell you that you couldn't be ill this week as it was inconveinient.

So my last words on the subject are -

Congradulations on your upcoming retirement.

Start planning for increased family time and book a pampering session for yourself dpq.

Thank you everyone for all your comments and advice.
I have discussed this at length with both my Oh and the owner of the Home I manager. The result is that I shall be staying for the fete and my sister, her husband and My OH are going to the match. unfortunatley. The Home is only small 22 people in all and one of the senior members of staff left whilst I was on leave last week, with minimum notice, so that only leaves me and the deputy to make sure that everything goes smoothly. The owner will be coming to the Fete but he does not live locally...IWe have tried to give the spare ticket to a few people but son number 3 will be visiting son number 1 in Spain, son number 2 lives in Holland, son in army away training and twin brother is working in wales...so if anyone is a west ham supporter there could be a ticket available for next Saturday.. !!!!

Bless you all for your points of view,
Bridget

Bridget, can I suggest that you copy and paste this thread replies into the one on chat before you delete.

Bridget.

I dont know what type of work you are doing but if its care giving then call your bosses bluff and say you are taking time off.
Good workers are hard to find and he might reconsider. If he doesnt there are always other jobs if you really want/need to work

Your husband needs time with you too and Im not surprised he is irate

I hope it works out for you

Anne, just ginnie mary
thank you for your replies. it seems that I have posted this twice on here and on Chat sowill delet this thread later today.
Ann you are quite right I came here for 6 momyhs that was alst October and have been persuaded to stay on BUt now I am so low again that I realy must sim[ply stick yo my guns,
I am unable to sleep as my mind keeps turning over about work, not just this episode and I know what happened last tim...some of you may remember as many people helped me through a difficult period. So I think a visit to the GP so I do not all into the abyss aagin and try once more to pesuade boss man or simply leave,
take care evryone
B

I didn't see this one on here before I'd replied on thread on the chat board.

Mary

No you didn't delete the first attempt bridget, it is on Chat.

I thought you had nearly finished the job now? Am I wrong? Only you talk about Christmas. Why don't you take retirement as planned? You are working too many hours in a day, they are taking advantage. Do you have a leading role in this fete?

Did I delete the first attempt?//

I have been working since last October with only 2 weeks holiday. My OH has bought 4 tickets for a special football game and my boss says I cannot go as it is the same day as a planned fete.
Result One very irate OH, one very distressed me, and haven't heard from sister and her OH since I left a message for them!!
I have even offerd to take only one more week leave and to work on Xmas day for the 2nd year running. I am thinking of walking away from work...
my avararage hours per day is 10hrs!1