General Chat

I have posted a few queries recently and had some lovely support, which, as a total newbie to all this, has been very helpful. I posted a new question the other day and got a message saying that I should be thanking people for helping me on a previous query (which I genuinely thought had pretty much run its course and so I hadn't at that point gone back and looked at it). When I did there was a comment saying that it seemed I didn't want the help (although I had already thanked previous posters who had assisted me. The a comment aigain suggesting that I express my gratitude, accompanied by an @i know you're on here because you just posted a new query'. I GENUINELY meant to offend nobody. I am new and only manage to get on here now & then due to work etc. It left me feeling really quite upset. I felt that I had thanked people as I had gone along. It all felt so petty. Is there some kind of rulebook that I have missed?

You will see that there are some very bossy people on here, people that consider themselves some sort of moderators, telling people to do this, don't do that etc.
And there are some extremely kind helpful people too who will get you out of all sorts of dead ends for nothing more than a thank you.
You will soon see who's who and what's what.
And sometimes there are some very entertaining arguments too.
Welcome to GR, enjoy. ; )

woops - try again - total typo in my last attempt...
Thank you Edie for your reply. It made me feel better. I would hate people to think I haven't been grateful for their help. I have been able to find out soooo much - including solving a few 'family mysteries'!

What can happen is that if you send thanks direct to the helper it doesn't show up on the thread! No rulebook - but there are some people who don't even acknowledge assistance, take the info and then delete without comment - which naturally does cause some indignation - and you may have received comments from people trying to eradicate that sort of behaviour. If your conscience is clear don't take any notice - but you might avoid this sort of thing the future if you put any thanks on the query thread itself.

Hi Elizabeth. I had thanked people on the thread earlier on. I was unaware that another message had been added some time later - and hadn't thought to check. Will remember to keep checking back in future, and to 'bookmark' the thread!
Ros

Hi Rosalyn,please don't let the remarks made put you off asking for help.
I have had my bum slapped for early mistakes,as I didn't have a clue.

99% of the folk on here are lovely and only too pleased to help.

Just remember to thank them,and don't for heavens sake post the same request on more than one board,( you get hung,drawn and quartered for that offence).

Happy hunting,Nina from Sheffield.

Haha Nina - I already saw the scary 'don't post it twice' warning! Glad my bum was only mildly slapped and glad that there are kindly folks on here to restore my faith!
:-D
Ros

Glad I could reassure you Rosy.

Nina in a bit dryer Sheffield

PS.I think that I am having a "senior " moment,none of my spelling looks correct,if not,please excuse.

Don't worry Rosalyn, it was probably just one of us 'oldies' suffering from board fatigue lol a condition which occurs after a few years of doing look ups, sometimes with not even acknowledgement let alone thanks :).

Re the 'not posting about the same family twice' , that just makes really good sense , as often the same family members will appear and those who do look ups get terribly frustrated when they see that the same info is being added that has already been found and added to the first thread.

All who do look ups check every board to see where they can help :) and some of those who may seem a little 'brusque' are just trying to cut through to the facts and give the best help they can :)

Enjoy the boards !