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Like me, divorced / seperated but because of the financial situation still live in the same house as ex,

It's like a living hell.

I can't even begin to imagine what that's like. I do know someone in that situation and they are very unhappy:-(

S x

I didn't marry the person I moved in with a few years ago, but am stuck here with him even tho our relationship has gone out the window several years back, as I can't afford to do up my own house and haven't the money to pay rent elsewhere. I am sure he knows how unhappy I am but doesn't talk about anything, we sort of tolerate each other and as there is only one usable bedroom I spend the nights on here and sleep in the day when he goes to work or is up and about.

It's awful and I think your situation is probably worse than mine as one day I might be able to get help to fix my house and move back there or get a sheltered housing bungalow, I am older than he by several years so I am retired and he has 9 years more to work.

Hope something happens to make life better for you

I think there are others on the boards with similar difficult situations, oh for a lottery win to help everyone out.

Lizx

OMG...my heart goes out to you all ...we have our rough times but my hubby and I do love each other

Get out and find nice things to do so when you go back to the house you take happy thorts with you

I can't see away out of this,work being scarce, money really tight & as i run a business ( only me ) but i have rented workshop on a lease i can not sign on or get sickness benefit, if your self employed your stuffed. i go home really late & spend most of the time in my bedroom, no money to go out socialising, really feeling down.

McB, so sorry to hear your feeling so down,
these dark nights probably donot help and l'm sorry that l haven't any suggestions to help you , only keep coming on here and l'm sure we can stop you feeling so down somehow.
Take care of yourself, x

McB...I know it sounds mad but what about going and finding a volunteering job ...in my town they have a place to go ...they have things like Drivers needed to take people with cancer to hospital for appointments and one my son does is help at a pre school play group for Downs children ...I know these two may not be for you but there are loads of others ...running youth clubs or footie seasons!!??

If only I could come up with something more useful..

The other what can i call him is selling our house next year and i will give permission as i want rid.He is a company director but i am broke as he gives me nothing.He has said in front of my daughter and her oh he has money stashed but they will say they heard nothing as they dont want to be involved.I will go with what i can get. Annie

Perhaps we could go somewhere together Grannie, we'd have nothing between us.

Suppose things can only get better as the song says.

Annie, do get some good legal advice, there are ways of finding out what people have earned over the years and as a C. D. they will know and dig deep to find anything to prove he has funds. You shouldn't have to walk away without your fair share and it's sad that your family won't stick up for you.

McB, I can only wish you strength to cope with such a situation, and hope that somehow you can find a solution soon. How about a room in a shared house, sometimes these come up with people other than students, or someone needs to rent out a room to make ends meet.

Lizx