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I have a frend who has to have what i have. I had my long hair cut short 2 weeks ago she had her cut short. If i geta new dress she get the same dress. At the week end i when in to the dress shop in the village where we live and the woman in there ask if i like her to put the same skirt aside her my frend. Everthing i do she has to do. Is it silly but i am geting fed up with her

Yes we have had this problem in the past with them next door each time my daughter got something ...so did her daughter !!!

So I think you should see the funny side of it and get your clothes from a charity shop !!....or at least thats what you tell her!

It is such a shame when she feels she has to do this and prehaps she is feeling insurcure about her own life,but that doesnt help you does it !!
prehaps the other thing to do is to show her your new item then return it to the shop saying it isnt the right colour ...or something

I guess the other thing is you have good taste

its very unervfing my ex neighbour who tried to steal my husband did this, she even asked me for clothes i no longer wore i would have seen the funny side had she not tried it on with specky, it will be interesting tro see if she cuts her hair as ive just gone from long to short.

Sandra, why don't you invite her on a shopping trip with you, she will either copy everything you buy, and you guide her toward different choices, or you may even find out why she feels the need to follow your style so closely.
Try not to be offended by this, after all shops have a dosen or so of each item, so there are going to be plenty of other people wandering around in the same top, dress or coat as you.

I know what you are saying Izzy but she tell everyone her grandson name is Bily like my grandson but her daughter will not call him Bily as his name is william. Her husband fed up with her because he said she has no mind of her owen.Also she gets upset if i go out with other friends and she is not asked to join us.Her husband has just had to fit a new kitchen which is the same as what my OH and i got to keep her happy

This lady actually sounds rather lonely and insecure. i would be happy that i have a selection of friends to choose to go out with, and am blessed enough to be able to choose such a lovely kitchen that others want to copy me.

She sounds rather unhappy to me. Maybe she can see that you are happy and thinks if she copies you, she will be happy too. Good idea to go shopping together, if she is a different colouring to you, choose something for yourself, then show her similar in a different colour and say something like 'this colour would suit you bettter, I just can't wear that colour but it would look lovely on you. I think you need to feel sorry for her rather than annoyed. Although I can see how frustrating it must be.

Sandra, i would try and take it as a compliment, every one else has given good advice. I lived in some flats once and got friendly with the girl opposite. Then she started copying me but, not with clothes etc, with the way i had my flat, i got a fireplace built, so she got an identical one built, i had my sitting room decorated, she got the same wall paper, she even had identical ornate shelves up in excactly the same position. One day she had the doctor there and asked if he could use my fone, i could see the puzzled look on his face, he was wondering who had copied who. So i dont really know what u can do but, i do know how frustrating it can be.

i would be tempted to buy a dress
show her it then take it back
and exchange it for the one i really wanted

but it i a complement really
she things you have so much taste
she wants to be you

Ladies,Ladies, To solve the problem and have a B good laugh, go to a Theatrical Agency and Buy or Borrow one of those head covers which they use to make people appear Bald.then tell the person concerned That having you hair Shorn is the latest Style.**M**,:o)> could be funny.

lolololol i like merlins idea,
but i have to say somthing to her x

Stray, How about, How do you like my new Hairstyle? Its all the rage now.**M**.:o)>

I think i am going to tell her that i am going to the royal wedding and see what she will do.My OH said to tell her to grow up

Sandra
It is very sad that your friend is like this. If she REALLY is a friend, you need to tell her that it bothers you that she copies everything and that your are fed up with it and ask her to stop. I suggest you tell her that it is affecting your friendship and that it is totally un-necessariy. Friends share ideas, not take on the role of identical twins!

Failing that - start making your own clothes! Lol!

Best of luck
Dee

It is irritating - try telling her that you have been embarassed by 2/3 friends or neighbours asking why you have to copy and buy the same clothes as her.

Ask her advice as to what you both should do in order to put this rumour to bed.

Just go the "Yul Bryner" way make her look a fool.**M**.