General Chat

Has any experienced their mums/dads finding new partners, and how it made you feel at the time.

Even though I was in my mid 50's when my dad found someone new to share his life with I found it pretty tough going to say the least.......just wondered how others felt.

Annx

I was just gone 30 when my Dad died. He was nearly 55 and Mum was 51. Mum found someone else nearly 5 years later, it felt strange her being with someone else but he made her smile again and was very good to her. That was good enough for me.

It was such a shame that he had a stroke in 2000 from which he has never recovered. Mum travels to see him most days, even now, a two hour bus ride both ways, she can't settle if she doesn't go.

My brother never accepted him, right up to this day. Said he was "after her money" and he couldn't replace our Dad. Nobody could replace my Dad but Cliff was a nice man and came a good second in my book.

Hello Libby,

Now I probably feel the same as you, I dont have to worry about him so much knowing there is someone there for him at all times.

Yes your right nobody will ever replace my mum, but life has to move on. I suppose we are all made differently and some of us like your brother find it very hard to except........and the longer you stew over it the least likely you will ever come to terms with the situation.

Annx

My Dad died when he was 56 and I was 18. Mum already knew Dave, as he and Dad were in the same bowls club, and even went to the same school! They became an item a few years later, but have never married, or actually moved in together, as both like some independence. Why should my Mum not find further happiness, I certainly had no problems with it, nor did my siblings.

Sheila..........lovely for your mum that everyone has accepted the situation it makes life much easier, a friend of mine is having a tough time at the moment regarding her fathers new relationship and things are very tense , threatening their own relationship.

I have always supported my dad and would never have told him how I felt at first, as I have told my friend, time is a good healer and eventually she will be happy for him.

Annx

I lost my Dad in 1987 and although Mum coped very well I know she missed having someone around.I would have been very happy if she had found someone else to share her life.I think Dad would have too.He was unable to speak due to Motor Neurone Disease,but he wrote notes.The night he died he managed to scribble a few words,and it was "Be Happy".

My dad found another partner who he later married. She became a good mother to me and her daughters were my best friends. I was 19 then.