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My daughter ex think he is only going to give her £200. 00 a month for both of his children, This man take home £1400. 00 a month he been to see his children one in 2 month, This man is a joke.He had also said if she go to court we will be sorry i do not think it will be us it will be him. If you can keep two children for £200. oo a month we did somrthing wrong when our 2 were children. How much do you all think is cost to keep two childrena month

i know some people who only get £2.50 per week
and they have to rely on benefits to keep their children

wrong as it is but thats sometime life

i think it may be time your daughter went to the CSA

It will make no difference what any of us think she should get , so she needs legal advice not our opinion.

agrees with Amy xx

£200, is huge to what some of my friends get for there children of there ex, my friends would be exstatic if thy got tht much,

surely your daughter has other income coming in to help suport the children to, the goverment pays 54 per child, in income suport so hes paying half what the goverment say you need to support to pay for your children, so altho he gets a massive amount wage wise, he stil has to live of that money too,

if she isnt happy with the amount he pays then she needs to seek legal advice or go the CSA.

There is a system for working out what he needs to live on, & accommodation and transport to work , ( and if he has other children that is taken into account) after that amount is deducted from his income , then a percentage of what is left is allocated to the support of children.

I wouldn't have minded getting half that ( or anything in fact) for the last 15 years !

Who was to blame for the split in the first place.
My ex had an affair, I walked out this is over 35 years ago. I paid what ever the court told me to pay. Then she got GREEDY. Had a "LODGER" living in my house, I paid the mortgage, rates, etc. Then she took me to court again, for more money. Ended up with me making myself unemployed to stop being sucked dry. In those days I was giving her £100.00 per month. What do these woman want. BLOOD.

she told him to leave We when to turkey in april and when we come home they were living with us because he left his job and did not have another job to go to becuase he run a pub they lost there home to It taken him 5 months to get a job, but she asked him to leave because he use to hit the 4 years if he did not do as he told him. When he see the children someonce has to be with them

Sandra, perhaps your daughter could seek advice from the Citizen's Advice Bureau. I think they would be able to arrange free legal advice to see what the options are.
Best of luck anyway,

Piers

Does a court really consider who was to blame for the split when determining the amount of child maintenance ?

Get Legal advice first. then see if you can get an "Attachment to Earnings Order" **M**.

who is to blame for the split, has nothing to do with how much is deemed aceptable for child supoort, x

why would they consider whos fault it is
we are talking about maintenance for the children

who are blameless

Well at least someone somewhere gets maintenance for their child/ren.

My poor daughter had to start from scratch, her ex sold the house leaving her n child homeless. they lived with me for 2 years.

Her ex does`nt / has`nt paid a single penny for his childs upkeep in the last 2 years and this is going through CSA.
yes she works too as a full time nurse too.

Linda.

My Sister had to wait 12 years for the CSA to catch up with her ex, they got there eventually and he has had to start paying.
The ironic thing is if he had paid at the time of the split he would have paid a lot less than he does now with all the backdated payments.

The CSA will take up to 15% of his wage but he will probably say he has large out goings andf this may give him lea way ...

Frank ...I can understand yor point of view and I also realise that the man has to live to.....

But my hubby left and said if he had to pay he would stop work ...lucky for me he paid and didnt give up work .....BUT he never saw his child and that gave him a bad name in his sons eyes coz he didnt see him

I think the children suffer so much in these things

Sandra the CSA calculator works out that your daughter should get £280 a week (20% of take home pay) but would she be delighted to see her private business posted on the internet?

The CSA will take 20% of his net income for two children (it's 15% for one). This will also depend on how many nights he has them to stay with him.

I do believe the rules have changed with regards to benefits and maintenance is no longer taken into account when claiming benefits.

https://secureonline.dwp.gov.uk/csa/v2/en/calculate-maintenance.asp

Child maintenance has nothing to do with who was/wasn't the wronged party. It is to do with supporting the children who are still his even if he and their mother have split.