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Your post has had me in tears Pam, you need help. I think you need to speak to a Social worker ASAP to see what support they can give you. Did your doctor suggest anything? There may be other people along soon that can advise you too. Just hang in there,

Take care xxxx

Hi everyone, Once again I am on here to ask for some advise as you guys and gals seem to have so much knowledge dont need to go anywhere else , I am a 62 year old with COPD which I cope with quite well, I have a 68 year hubby who has a stent fitted following 2 (more) heart attacks 4 years ago he often has TIA's ( mini strokes) and 8 weeks ago spent a couple of days in hospital following one when he couldnt walk but much better now, all this has resulted in memory problems for him, I have a sister age 49 who has terminal cancer and who I am doing all I can to support as much as possible and she is quite poorly at the moment , my parents are divorced father age 88 in a wheelchair following strokes has carers in twice a day plus me , mother age 84 broke her arm 6 weeks ago and when I was in Cyprus at my sons wedding she fell and broke her hip, she had her op and was then 2 weeks ago moved to a rehab hospital , she also has mental health issues. We had a meeting with her pysio's and the ward nurse last Monday who told us that she would be discharged soon as she can walk with a zimmer frame ( she lives in a 6th floor council flat) I will be honest and say I was horrified as she has become so dependant and it had been talked about her going to a residential nursing home for a period of time, I mentioned this to them and they said it was doubtful that this could happen and I would have to speak to a social worker managed to get hold of her on Wednesday and if I said waste of space and time that would be mild, she told me that she was our responsibility as soon as they think she can be discharged and that would be soon. Yesterday my son went to the hospital and she phoned me while he was there and told me that she will be accessed on Monday for discharge next week as they said she was " bed blocking" I phoned the ward and spoke to the sister who told me she was not being discharged next week but it would be soon, I dont think they have taken any notice of her mental health problems she has been diagnosed as phsycotic with a bit of dementia added in ( 4 years ago) . She keeps saying she is going to move in with my sister who has only a short time left and Macmillian nurses are being arranged for her care and even though we keep telling her it not possible she says Debs should get a better attitude and fight this cancer, when she had cancer some years ago a care package was put into place for her but within weeks she had stopped it all and wouldnt let anyone in her flat as she said they were lazy and were talking about her to people , so that ended and it was left to me and Deb as she was well at that time. I have come to a stage where I cant look after any more people , I know it sounds awful but she was a horrible mother and my friends ask me why I even speak to her without doing all I do but I'm that sort of person, last week I fainted twice and my doctor said that is because of all the presure I'm under . I also have a family of 5 children and grandchildren and great grandchildren, only one living at home at the moment and he is leaving soon. My children all work and only visit her under presure from me as they dont like her as she was like as a mother so she was as a granny, she would walk past them in the street and ignore them, me youngest never knew she exsisited until her was 6 and she had been stood next to him in a shop, she would just decide that she didnt want to speak to a person and that was it , she did that to me and never spoke to me for over 7 years, but she would also ignore anyone who was connected to me like my children and friends.

Can anyone point me to some place or person i can go and see or speak to , I cant sleep cos my brain wont switch off so I am very tired . I feel better for putting it all down and sharing it so thanks for letting me do that .

Pam

Oh forgot to mention I also work part time, I know its from home and its my small business but its still work