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Husbands a horder

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Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 16 Feb 2011 05:30

Elaine, do take care, you mustn't overdo things altho I know you are more energetic than me lol I get tired just doing the vaccing. I used to have so much energy and was always working too, or out and about but since I developed fibromyalgia I am like a slug!

Lizx

~flying doctor~

~flying doctor~ Report 15 Feb 2011 21:34

Don't worry Purple' I am working all ends up and I have been washing the walls and ceilings in the dinning room and kitchen between working. I am absolutely exhausted and only come up to the puter for an hour or so or until my eyes give up or the dogs want walkies. Thats where I am off now and then to bed. keep on pegging and sorry about the old, we are as young as we feel and I can still outwork the youngsters at school, mind you some are in their 50s and that can be a bad time hormones and such. Elaine.

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 15 Feb 2011 21:20

Hi Elaine, no, you haven't upset me, just haven't been about so much and the computer went wrong last evening, so o.h. had to fix it this morning.

Btw, lol, less of the old, my bod might know my age but tell it to my head ?

I am a bit lazy about throwing things out of the fridge, have some out of date yogourt and things but will get round to it - nowhere near as bad as your men with the shopping tho.

Must go, have to eat and remake the bed after stripping for laundry so not much time before the dozy one gets in from work!
I like to have the bed done before he gets in, then he clears off to sleep pretty quickly and I get the tv and computer to myself again lol

take care, hope you are feeling a bit better Elaine, sorry I didn't get round to replying to your pms - have been a bit lax with all that lately but will try to do better soon
I owe dozens of folk replies, but haven't been online so much so they get left.
Doesn't mean I don't care tho

love
Lizxx

Hi Annina.

Carol 430181

Carol 430181 Report 15 Feb 2011 21:18

Oh Annina I throw bacon away OH gets it out of bin and says exactly the same, it will be alright if you cook it enough. lol
Carol

~flying doctor~

~flying doctor~ Report 15 Feb 2011 21:13

Thank goodness there's someone else to join me in my suffering. I love a bargain and generally clothe myself from charity shops BUT there is a happy medium.On my window ledge are 2 quarter eaten loaves, because they were stale when I got them. Why buy to throw away? it does not make sense to me. I must admit to some hording myself, we all have a tendancy to do it. I do hope I havn't upset poor old Purple, I did not think when i wrote it and she is such a lovely caring person, wish my oh was, then I may forgive him but to keep us short of food and to buy cars when he's always pleading poverty, just got to me. Elaine.

Annina

Annina Report 15 Feb 2011 13:39

Hi Elaine,it is such a relief to know I am not alone.

I remember once when cleaning out my fridge,hubby was just passing as I found some green bacon at the back,as I went to throw it out he said,
" There's nout wrong with that,get it in the pan and I'll eat it for lunch"
He really is quite disgusting sometimes,he also is not happy unless there are an assortment of rotting cars on the drive,and he can tell down to the last groat which is the cheapest buy,he drives me insane in the supermarket,so much so that I let him shop by himself and stay at home enjoying an hours peace.

~flying doctor~

~flying doctor~ Report 14 Feb 2011 21:15

Sorry about leaving you all last night but dogs needed out and I was cream crackered.Let me know when his demise is imminent Annina and I'll send it round. Guess what, he went to look at another car today a morris minor. I said to him 'where are you going to put it' and he replied 'in the back of the Toyota 8 seater'. And I wouldn't put it past him either. Sorry Purple, but you have not got the attitude he has, he won't buy food unless it's outdated or going out, He'll buy two sliced loaves which I cannot eat because they are stale to begin with and anyway 1 is enough to last me a week. I made a gianormous bread and butter pud with the last and keep putting the remains in front of him. Hey as I went out to work today there were 2 scrapmen in front of the garage and they asked if I wanted to get rid of any scrap. I dared not let them but my retort was yes if you'll take my oh as well, did it make them laugh. Elaine.

Annina

Annina Report 13 Feb 2011 12:51

Oh dear,Flying Dr,I think that my husband must be bigamously wed to you and me (I)?

Mine even keeps two toolboxes under the kitchen table,one in the hall,and his bedroom is crammed to the rafters with junk that he buys at auctions.

May I borrow your JCB please?

SpanishEyes

SpanishEyes Report 13 Feb 2011 09:42

Well my OH bless him does not have a problem of hoarding, but the complete opposite, which can be very infuriating!!
The minute my back is turned out goes anything which he considers rubbish or not needed, or is on my comp so why do I need a paper version as well. He cannot have washing waiting until there is enough whites to wash together or coloureds etc so puts the all in together ....... I now have a hiding place for the washing...
His mother was meticulous to the extent that she never used the oven of her cookers and the evidence was in the oven as that was where the warranty etc was kept.
I could go on but I won't,

He is making a valiant effort since i returned from the UK and have finally officially retired!!

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 13 Feb 2011 05:12

Elaine, and others, have you ever looked at the definition of compulsive hoarding? This really is an illness and often connected to ocd.

A prime example was Mr Trebus of Life of Grime fame, alas he is no longer with us but was just like the man at the hostel Annie.

It does make life hard for others who have to live with the hoarder, but if your people are like me, altho I know it's not good to hoard, I cannot find a way of stopping the action.

Love the card tho Elaine lol

Lizx

ann

ann Report 12 Feb 2011 22:42

Elaine i am sure we would love him but seeing he will only get 1 room he might have to share his junk with the rest of the residents as the last gent did lol Cant wait to get the carpark cleared.Will not do it until he has moved out as i think we may have a few more bits yet lol
Annie

~flying doctor~

~flying doctor~ Report 12 Feb 2011 22:36

Hey, would there be room for my oh now the chap is leaving and can he bring his junk with him? Elaine.

ann

ann Report 12 Feb 2011 21:53

I work in a homeless hostel and we have a man in there now that goes out everyday around all the skips.He brings back so much junk and he also gives it away to other residents.he thinks of everyone.Last week he bought back a outside christmas snowman and gave it to a little boy.It did not work so went out in the carpark in the corner along side 2, 4ft 6in matteress 3 pushchairs one minus a wheel,a mat, a microwave that dont work a kids scooter with no wheels and last but not least 3 packs of tenna incontince nappies.He is moving on next week so if there is anything in this lot you would like speak now before i get in the heavy squad lol
Annie

Contrary Mary

Contrary Mary Report 12 Feb 2011 21:31


Yikes!! I thought mine was bad........but your OH is worse, much worse lol

Once mine brought home a 3" square of metal - I said "what is it?" he replied "I don't know, but it might come in handy!" LOL. He's still got it........and it never has come in handy for anything! LOL

I love the card - I'm sure everyone else will find it funny even if he doesn't ;-))

Mary

Conan

Conan Report 12 Feb 2011 21:30

Sounds pretty sensible to me.

Let's face it. If he didn't fill up the space ...................................... what would you do with it ?

~flying doctor~

~flying doctor~ Report 12 Feb 2011 21:28

We have a large walled garden and I have told him if he dies before me I am going to get a J.C.B. in to dig a big hole( ooh er I forgot the caravan and that's full of junk too). In the hole will go 1 caravan, 2 skips from house, 3 ruddy cars, 4 tons from workshop, 5 tons from garage and my dear husband dead bodee. ( to the tune of The 12 days of Christmas).Elaine.

JoyBoroAngel

JoyBoroAngel Report 12 Feb 2011 21:19

its time to get a skip in hun

Bobtanian

Bobtanian Report 12 Feb 2011 21:18

I can sympathise with you, I am a bit the same.....I dont go out of my way to buy things,but hate to throw anything away.......

Bob

~flying doctor~

~flying doctor~ Report 12 Feb 2011 21:03

My husband is a terrible horder, he just keeps on buying thigs and if anyone is giving stuff away he has to have it. He has a 3 car garage full,not of cars but anything and everything. We have 2 cars and an 8 seater. Each one is full to the hilt with stuff. he has a brick built workshop that is full so full you cannot walk into it. Indoors he has all the top floor we have 3 stories, stuffed to the rafters and the large celler is the same. In our sitting room he has created a no go area around his chair with so much junk and he will not let me touch it, I have to wait to clean until he moves it just enough for me to hoover and dust.
Today is his 76th birthday and I found a card with a people carrier, with a surf board on the front passenger seat and loads of pressies on the roof. I could not resist. On the front license plate I have written there's more inside. I sent an email of the card to my son and have asked him to blow it up and to have it visible when my oh goes down for his Saturday night out. Do you think I am being awful on his birthday. I think it is funny. Elaine.